This is a hard one. I know where you are coming from. My neice is very large chested and she loves to show it off. She has dressed like this for a very long time. Her mother doesn't see anything wrong with it. She developed at a young age and very fast. She has always been so pretty too, but dress this ways makes her look cheap. And to add to it she is now a lot heaver then when she was younger. Which just makes her look worse. I have talked to her and her mother. Her mother always got very defensive. And would get up set with me. I no longer say anything. For one she is now 18 and will cont. to do as she pleases because she will let you know is 18 now. The other is because it does make her feel bad. And I do believe she suffers from lowself esteme. The sad thing is that she feels the need to dress this way to make herself feel better. When she was younger I use to show her other ways to look good. Like cute pair of ear rings or something. She loves this stuff too. But she still feels the need to dress like she does. I have also offered to workout with her. To help her with her studies, she drop out of school last year and she trying to get her GED which has been a struggle. I know she needs help put I feel I have done what I can. I have opened a door and she knows she may come to me if needed. I can pray. and this is what I suggest for you. Let she know she has a friend in you and offer to be there and Just Pray for them.
Thanks again everybody for the responses. I don't have any daughters, but I do have two young boys....I am actually afraid of what they might think or do to them either now or later, kwim? The whole thing with my older sister is that she is over 18 and lives with her boyfriend..my Dad cosigned on a home for them. Like others have said, I think the only thing I can do is pray, because I have talked to them. I won't allow them over either, not that they come over much anyways. If I do, I will either tell them or have a big t shirt for them, haha, maybe with something embarrasing to them on it.
Here is the website where you can find the survey that Deena mentioned about: http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/. Modesty is a heart issue. Your sisters need internal transformation. The sad thing is many women and girls in churches still dress immodestly and provocatively. We all should ask ourselves whether the way we dress is honoring God or is drawing attention to ourselves and can make our brothers in Christ stumble. Would we dress that way if Jesus stood right next to us? He is with us all the time...you know .
I think that's key. A lot of girls these days don't have a confident sense of themselves and I think that often translates in skimpy clothes. If we can hug them, talk about their deeper interests and help them get to know themselves better I think that will help them in the long run.
