Im some-what a control freak on my life, not so much on my house or anything like that..I can live in chaos/mild mess etc but when it comes to my life..I can not "relinquish" any part of it to anyone. I have created more stress in myself than I should ever have..but when I say "ive had it, I cant do anymore" the thought of just saying "ok god, I leave this up to you to lead me in the right direction" scares the heck out of me. I have a chance at a job much closer to home, I *know* its the right thing for me and my family but feel obligated to my current employer. People are counting on me to work certian days for them around the holidays(yes in 2mos) and if I leave I will let them down, ruin thier plans etc. I feel secure in my job I have now(will be 2yrs in december) or should I say Im "comfortable". But I dont know how to give it up to God to "take over". Any advice? words of wisdom? things of that nature? How do I relenquish this to HIM? I know switching jobs would be a wonderful thing for us, closer to home, more $$ BUT there is a huge chance I wouldnt be able to HS Madison and I really dont want to give that up..I love HSing her. I over-think things and it scares me.
There have been times in my life where I knew I was in over my head and I needed help to get through it. In those times, I prayed and asked God to help me and do what He feels is best for the girls and I and to give me the strength to handle whatever happens. When I do that I feel like there is a great weight removed from my shoulders and things work out. He will help .. you just have to ask Him. My prayers are with you, BeckyB PS I know you are worrying about helping your friends at your current job but your leaving does not mean that your replacement won't help them out. Or, if it is something you could work with, perhaps you could be a sometime fill in at the old job... not knowing if that would work or not with the new job ... sorry for rambling
Ramble all you want, it helps me think all the time..I ramble alot LOL and love to read other's ramblings that could help me ya never know.
You sound like me. I suggest praying for the ability to let go. I often have to pray for the strength and peace of mind to do what God is calling me to do. Great thing about Him is that He gives it. Sometimes at the 11th hour, but it's always there in the nick of time.
I don't think we *can* 'give it to God' on our own. It's human nature for most people to want to have control over their own lives. The good thing is God know this, He made us. So go to Him and tell Him what you told us. Tell Him you want to let Him take control of your life, or even just this situation. He will help you. Then, when you feel yourself starting to worry, or second guess, take it to the Lord again. He wants to help us, but I think, to many times, we feel like we have to have it all figured out before we go to Him. It helps me to think of my children, when I see them struggling with a problem, I don't get frustrated with them. When I know they are trying their best, but keep getting stuck on the same thing, I want to help them no matter how long it takes or how often we have to go over the same thing. Well, how much better is our Father? He loves us more than we can ever imagine. Ok, that was long, but basically, just pray...... and pray...... and when it seems it's not working pray some more. God hears you every time, and He will help you let go. Lisa
I had a hard time letting God take control of my issues that caused me worry. My oldest son's health, my husband's job in law enforcement, our financial situation, our foster children, and other issues and I nearly lost my mind trying to "worry" all right. I was constantly upset and anxious. Afraid Freddy would be killed or injured at work. He was injured more than once but his training and back up officers got him through each situation. Matthew's health got so bad he had major surgery that lasted for hours and hours. Our finances hit rock bottom but we survived. Our kids had rough times and we struggled through it with them. But I survived it all and am a better person for it. But, I only survived it by hitting rock bottom first. I got to the lowest spot I could get to. When I did I was beyond thinking any more. I had just enough left to go to the smartest person I know. My older sister. She is a minister and I adore her and trust her with my children's very souls. I told her I needed help. She said, "I know. I have been waiting for you to ask." That was when she and I talked and she told me to do what I had always known in my heart was the thing I needed to do. I just once and for always lay my burdens down. I placed them at the feet of Jesus and literally said, " Here it is Lord. Here is Freddy. I trust his training and his partners. I trust you to protect him. And if it is not your will that he come home one day, then I trust you to help me live without him. I place my oldest son here too. He was yours first and if you need him back, just please take away his pain and suffering and help me let him go. I place our money problems here and thank you for what we have. I place all my children here. Birth or foster children and ask your protection over them. I turn it all over to you." I know this is long but all of this took only a short amount of time and there were no bright lights or lightning flashes. No white doves or angels. But instantly. I mean INSTANTLY. I felt it. My burdens were lifted off my shoulders. Don't get me wrong. I still fail. I still have anxious moments. But I don't let anything eat at me any more. Freddy retired in one piece, I found a job for several years and our money problems got better, the children all turned out great, Matthew grew up and is a pretty healthy husband, father, and police officer. So what if he doesn't have any large intestines. He isn't in pain anymore. God is so good. Pray about the job and let him lead you. Just my rambling story here. Hope it helps some. Beth
First and foremost you must trust in the Lord!! Giving it all to the Lord is hard to do but there comes a time in our life where this is all you can do! My stuggles with my dh and ds have been long and hard. But I completely trust in the Lord and after trying everything I can I give it to Lord to handle. I am learning to turn to him first before I struggle over my problems. Then I do not give up, I keep my head held high and remind myself daily that the Lord is working on my side. I use the tools he has given me and cont. to pray for help!! Alot of the time I do this when I am alone in the shower and I have felt a great feeling of calming come over me. I have felt Gods arms imbrace me. No my problems do not completely go away but I feel better about them and know that will HIS help I can handle anything!!! I will be praying for you!!
Search God's Word for the truth that will set you free. Jesus tells us this. He is true and He is faithful. He is the Rock and He is your Shelter. He can be to you all that you need... I can give you three quick testimonies... 1. Dd#2 rushed to big hospital in cities hours after being born. Be anxious for nothing, but by prayer and supplication I made my request before the Lord, with thanksgiving and He gave me the peace that surpassed all understanding. It was so strange and yet so incredibly great what was in me instead of fear and worry and overwhelming sadness...The months prior to her birth I was really reading the Psalms, a few times a day and I look back and know I was abiding in Christ. 2. Fear of situation. Don't worry about tomorrow. Today has enough trouble of its own. I literally said this verse found in Matthew 6:33 over and over each and every day for a long time. God gave me peace each and every day when I chose to look to Him when I was afraid. 3. Present day situation...Worry. I think on the things in Phil 4:8. If I find myself not thinking on those things I ask for forgivieness and help to think on the things that God has chosen for me to think on. There is a truth to set you free, Mellissa. Find it and claim it and memorize it in your heart. God will do what He says. Each and every time. He is good. (I can ramble, too. ) (((hugs to you))) I will pray for you and encourage you.
A couple of things: Don't expect that if you pray once and don't receive a clear answer that God isn't listening! He is ALWAYS listening, and ALWAYS cares! Things are moving, but you have to keep doing your part! You may have to pray 20 times in one day (or even one hour?!!!) for God to give you peace and faith that He is leading you. So just keep giving Him your worries every single time you feel the stress welling up. I agree: Take this problem to Him. Tell Him you see positives in both things. Tell Him you really want to keep homeschooling. Tell Him it's closer and you'll make more money, so it sounds good. But then tell Him that you're His child and want to do what HE knows is best for you, not what YOU think is what you want to do. Ask Him to give you something to let you know He is hearing you and leading you. He WILL do that, just be open for the method He chooses to let you know. It's often not going to be what we would expect! I'd also make honest lists of pros and cons of each job. I'd find out whtehr I would or would not be able to homeschool. If not, then I'd weigh whether it was worth the changes. Maybe it IS worth the changes for a year or so??? There is a lot to think about and pray about! First pray for faith to believe God WILL work in this for you, then really do believe He will! And as someone else said, it may be at the last moment that His will is revealed. So don't give up....use this as a faith-building exercise! Best wishes, prayers and ((((HUGS!)))) to you!
In the last 3 years we had to step out in faith soooo many times. For me, I prayed and sang to God for 3 days. I kept saying, I surrender, on and on. He wants to have total control over your life, physical, emotional and financial. You will know when you get to there, a huge burden was lifted. Don't get me wrong, I still have times of struggle, it seems like (not complaining) God does answer but he answers when I am ready to give up. A testimony: We had our last child almost 3 years ago, he is the youngest of 3 siblings. I knew God wanted me to quit my job with the state and stay home. Wouldn't do it, couldn't imagine paying our bills, etc. Well things happened in our life that required me to quit (mother-in-law who was our babysitter for older kids had stroke, daycare cost was outrageous). Looking back on it, things moved into place to allow me to hs my children. There's more to the story but won't go into it. Point is God is awesome and does what's best for us. I will pray for you. :love:
Giving it up to God doesn't mean to just sit back and do nothing about our issues. It's about keeping our eyes open for signs and doors that are opened to us and praying for him to help you make the right decisions. God knows the future and what it holds, so no matter what decision you make it will be what God ultimately wants. Does that make sense?
I have to say that God keeps pushing me until I do let go of what he is trying to get me to give up. I may not understand what he is pushing for at the moment or I may be totally focused on the wrong issue but later I have realized Gods wisdom in it all. Here is my story I grew up in a terrible home life, and started working and fending for myself when I was 14. Since then I have always had job and "took care of myself" After college I got married, and had a great job that I loved. It challeneged me, I love my employees, I was moving up quickly, making three times my dh's salary. One Sunday he came home from church and called me at work and said he "heard" that I was suppose to quit my job. I laughed out loud at him. I couldn't give up my job, my security, we couldn't make the bills. I would have to depend on him to provide for me. Long story short. I felt convicted and was brought to tears a couple of weeks later. I quit my job and haven't worked since then. Now I look back and see how God had to do that to teach me to depend on HIM, to prepare me for being a Mom and to over all bring me closer to him. After that huge step it is easier to depend on God to solve my problems and to leave it with him. I don't tihnk it is something we do without practice and faith in the true love of God. Aggie
Another new day. Praying for you, MelissainMi. Encouraging you to keep praying and reading God's Word.
