those prayers, that is! Honestly, I don't think that dh and I are going to make it. There has been too much hurt, too much insecurity, inactivity, and irresponsibility on his end. He doesn't beieve that I love him and yet he blames ME for everything that he is unable to do. He has been drinking BIG TIME lately....last night he didn't eat anything, and as far as I know, today he hasn't either (nothing in the sink) so his diet has been LIQUID BUD. He is becoming more despondent and depressed (and depressing), angry, resentful to me....I am at the point of walking out. Today I went for the THIRD SUNDAY IN A ROW to prayer at the front, and just burst out BAWLING...could hardly get back to my seat. I can't handle this anymore. This is too big for me. He needs his A kicked BIG TIME...a nice, strong Christian man to come and knock his teeth out. anyways I really need prayers again...so sorry to be so needy.
I'm sorry you are having marriage problems. It really seems like the devil is hitting a lot of people here with that now. I will certainly be praying for your situation.
You know you've got my prayers. I would recommend contacting Al-Anon. They will help you cope with what you are going through. They can't help you change him, but they can help you help yourself.
it may feel like it is too big for you....but NOTHING is too big for God!! I will pray that you can trust in Him and that He will heal your marriage.
Oh, Honey, I am so sorry! I wish I could make it all better for you! Do like Amie says and contact Al-Anon. They'll understand what you're going through. Praying wisdom for you as you figure out what will be best for all three of you.
Ohhhhh, this brings tears to my eyes! :cry: I'm sorry things are going this way! I agree with all the above statements! Give this to God, find help and support! And always know that your friends here are holding you up in prayer!!! (((((BIG HUGS!!!)))))
I would have to agree, give it to God. Al-Annon my also help. I have personal not gone, but have read their book. How Al-Anon works for family and friends of Alcoholics. My dh is an Alcoholic, he has been sober for 3 weeks! Praise God!!! I completly know where you are coming from. It finaly has come to a point where I will nolonger live with my dh drinking. One reason he is not. Because I told him I was done if he could not stop. And then I put it in God's Hands. I am fighting the devil here and will not give up. My family deceives better with my dh or with out him. But I have left the choice up to him. I have already decided what I will do and that was to give it all to God to handle. It is a very hard thing to deal with and hard to do. I am wishing you the best and want you to know you are not alone. We are all here for you. Praying and sending you lots of HUGS. I feel we are making a big circle with all these hugs and prayers and he is listening!!!
Jen, wish I was a little closer we would go out for a coke or something. just remember we are here for you.
Jen, I am so sorry to hear that things are getting worse. Sometimes a person needs to hit rock bottem before lifting his head and heart upwards. I can't imagine what you are going through. I would tell you to try not to take anything personal that someone drinking is saying.....but I know that can be hard...especially if we fear there is truth in what he says or it hits close to home. My dh's father is an alcoholic. He would say very hurtful things to his kids while drunk and they never forgot it. Your situation brings tears to my eyes. I will continue to pray for you. Please PM me or something here or just post if you need any support or prayers. We love you and offer all our shoulders to you. You are not alone in your prayers for your dh. We are standing right beside you at the throne. We may be all over the country but I know if any of us can do something we will. Praying for you and your family!
Its a big step to get out of a situation, but its probably for the better. Its not healthy for the kids. To see all of this. They will understand in time even if they don't now. Its in your best interest to load up the kids and your best christmas ornaments and leave. I know you may just say "but where do I go" but I hope you have familky to turn to, I see you as a strong woman especially in a crisis (I read how you helped our friend jenernix) you have hugs here.
Praying here, too. One thing that has helped me (although my husband is not an alcoholic so we're not at that crisis stage you are) is to finally realize who the fight is really against, and I'm can't fight the devil by fighting with my husband. I say go up for prayer as often as you feel the need, there is nothing wrong with that even if all you do is cry. I did the same thing this weekend. Lisa
