I can't stand the idea of schools taking my child period, let alone as a baby (3 or 4). Grrrrrrrr. My friend did it, because "when else am I going to have time for me?" Um.... So you are shipping your child off extra early to be damaged by the system in the name of selfishness? Ok. And yes, that is WoW on my avatar. teeheee. I haven't played much Diablo, but DH has. He used to run a gaming store. He's pretty much played everything. I don't know if it's similar or not. But he could tell me. We had to cancel our accounts when he lost his job (back to that reevaluating our lifestyle stuff) but I really miss it. DH and I have computers right next to each other and it was always great fun to quest together.
DH and I game together on two pc's too, with LOD. It's a lot of fun. With LOD, you can choose to play online or off, no subscription necessary.
I had to throw this one out: Prior to hs I done daycare. I had one mom that her son would be here from open to close, even on her days off. She attempted to bring him sick several times, too. Plus, I know parents who try to pawn their kids on us during "kid" time. I can't tell you how many kids have spent holiday's with us or have done parades, zoo trips with us. I'm not complaining, at least the kids get to have fun time and my children enjoy their friends with us. It just amazes me how society are putting their needs before kid's needs. Just my 2 cents
Wow, other women who play computer and video games...interesting. I love video games. That makes me an oddity amongst other women I know. Well, except for one young woman at church. We were thinking of a guys against girls Halo night. But I think she and I would be the only ones. Ok...that is so way off topic. I have done daycare for years. Some parents really make you question how seriously you think they take their job. Not all parents who put their kids in daycare or preschool are "bad" parents and I KNOW no one is saying that. However, the parents that use daycare because they need some "me" time make me wonder. There was a woman who wrote a book and said that kids in daycare are better behaved. LOL. That's a laugh.
Geesh, I can't take off for a half-hour without getting way behind in this conversation, lol!!! Flowerchild, I understand that there are people who have no choice but to send their kids to preschool. They do what they have to do, and no one should make them feel guilty for doing the very best they can in their situation. My comment was more about the parents where both parents are more concerned their carreers than their children. Or those with that "nanny" mentality. Why have the kids if you aren't going to take the time to raise them? To me, that's the ultimate in selfishness. And I also know it's nothing new. I remember going to New Orleans a few years back, and taking a tour. They were saying how the people of the day would have the Nurse bring the children downstairs so the parents could spend a half-hour or so with them around dinner time. The impression was that, other than that "designated" time in the evening, the parent had little to nothing to do in the nurturing of the kid.
I hate to hear a mom say she needs me time and that is why the kid goes to daycare. Or you bring up homeschooling and they say they need me time. Me time comes when the kids are raised and out of the house. I too totally understand the need of a lot of parents to put kids in daycare! I am so thankful I had my kids grandma when I worked 3 jobs!
My mother left my (Abusive) father, while I was a baby. Which meant she had to get out and become the bacon hunter...... So, I grew up in Daycare. Even as late as second grade, after-school care. As a singleton, I LOOOOVED daycare! It rocked! That's where everyone was! hahaha! However, as a mother, now. I tried my best to stay a SAHM because I know what my mother had to sacrifice to keep us out of the gutter. Many of my choices are based upon that fact. I used to work for over $40K a year, but gave it up. Partly because with three children in diapers, it would be negative equity for me to work, I did not want to Pay someone for them to have the privilege of raising my kids, and because I did not want to miss what my mom was forced to miss. But if my husband turns into a monster, there is a place for them to go, Daycare. So, I see both sides of it. I just think that those who put their children in these preK's simply and ONLY for "Educational Edge" are mining for Fools' Gold. They are being tricked into missing out on something they will never get back, in trade for something that doesn't exist.
NOPE!!! Jennifer said it MUCH better than I did!!! (BTW, I did grow up with day care! Mom quit her job when I was born, but Dad wasn't good handling finances and Mom had to go back work. This was back in the 60's, when you didn't have daycare on every corner!!! So we went to daycare some, we had neighbors watch us before and after school, Mom hired a teen to watch us over the summer. Which was great for the teen. Not only did she get paid, Mom would always include her in our family pool pass, so she could walk us to the pool all summer. BUT!!! My parents were parents FIRST! I don't think Mom EVER had any "me time". She would come home, help with homework, cook dinner, clean house... And us kids ALWAYS came before the house. Dad, too! When he came home at night, he was our DADDY!)
I figured as much! I have seen too many of your posts to think that you are a judgemental or rude person! And for the record, I don't understand why some people do that either! I would like to ask them, though! I don't know how Any parent could stand only seeing their children for half an hour!! That is sad!
Wow what a great post! I can totally relate to so much that you say. I was raised in daycare/ with many babysitters because of my mom having to work. She was married to my father, (still is) but because of his medical issues, she had to be the breadwinner. But when she was home, she was mom! I wanted to be a sahm for much the same reason, because I know that's the ultimate experience, and its where my heart is. But like many others, yourself included; if I had to go be the breadwinner, I would do it no questions asked, before I would put up with bs. And I think you said it perfectly about the fool's gold. That hit it on the head!
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You gals are very kind, saying that I put it into good words. Thanks. I've been a middle of the road-er for a while, now. Not by nature, I am sure I could anger some on many topics... But on many basic things (That normally split moms along party lines) I see both sides, simply because of life experience. I am no smarter than any regular person. I just happened to have lived a lot. (15 elementary schools, moving every three months, living in many relatives homes, foster homes, etc...) I have seen 50 thousand ways to wash dishes, and none was perfect hahahaha! But it taught me that very important lesson that "What works for your family, now... is what matters most." So weather it is breast feeding, cloth diapering, attachment parenting, homeschooling, etc... I actually do see both sides and could not imagine being mean to someone based on their choice for their family. To me, that would be like nagging someone for not mourning at a funeral the "Right" way. I just hope people make their choices based on reality, not pipe dreams. Because if they do, their choices WILL be the right thing to do. And who am I to judge? Ya know? Anyway, thanks for the compliment. You gals make me blush....
