Yes, I agree, very well said! Kim, my heart is aching for you right now, so I am saying extra prayers for clarity for your dh, and strength for both of you to do the right and Godly thing!
You are all amazing. And prayer is so powerful. First of all let me start off by saying that dh is having to pull off a lot of layers right now- so every day that he's prayed, talked to God and meditated on all this, something new has come out. Becky, he's not being immature on purpose. But he has SO much from his past that he's buried deep down inside and those things came to surface when we found out I was pregnant. He didn't say anything then because I didn't want to hurt dd and I, and he really didn't have the words to say. This all came out last week after a psych appt with dd. Dd's behavior has been totally wacko lately and it's nothing to do with her, but everything to do with US. And we both realized that. Our relationship with God had become so disconnected, which in turn made our relationship with each other the same way. He's totally seeing now that his feelings for me have always been genuine, but he had to peel back some of those old layers to see that. He is an amazing writer and I don't think anyone can write the things he writes, if they don't have an open mind and heart and I think he sees that now. That nothing is without purpose. We have talked more about life in the past 2 days then we have talked in years. It's funny because everyone thinks we have this perfect marriage. I suppose to some it is since we never fight, argue, or say resentful things to each other. But we will be okay. God is working here and dh knows that and he doesn't want to close the door on that this time like he's done in the past. The really amazing thing? Dd's behavior has totally changed. I will be going in to talk to our pastor next week- talked to him a few yesterday as I had to do his family pictures. And after that dh and I will be meeting with him. Dh is totally open to God right now and he's never been open at this level before. It's always been in his head and not his heart. Thank you all so much for being so supportive and praying for us. I can feel it and I know dh can feel it even though I didn't tell him I posted this here. But things are as they should be and we needed to go through this.
wow...that is so encouraging. I am so glad you are both being proactive in working through all of this. It seems to me that the very fact that your dh is so open to the Lord is proof in itself of how much he loves his family! i will continued to pray.
Kim, I am so glad to read that. I have been praying for you and I will continue. I hope you guys have a good day today!
Kim, your situation has been heavy on my heart. I am still and will continue to pray. I will not go into a lot of detail about problems that Handsome and I had in the past, but I will say that God can and will heal all things if you both give Him his rightful place in your marriage. Once we made Christ center of our lives, our marriage is beyond anything I ever could have dreamed of. I love and am in love with a person that I hated beyond measure. I also know that we are more in love now than we would have been if we didn't go through what we did. Jesus is the healer of healers. He will give you both a powerful testamony if you both allow him to be center of all things. Christ is glorious and worthy of all our praise. Even when things are looking dim, Jesus will never let you down. Amen! Patty
Patty, We have already been through a lot in our marriage. We didn't date long- only 2 months and we talked about getting married by the 2nd date lol. He ended up going out to sea for 6 months and I waited for him. We got married 2 weeks after he go back- so in reality we were only around each other in person for 2 months and 2 weeks before getting married. We kept in touch vigilantly in that 6 months though. Anyhow, there were some things we went through when I was pregnant with dd and after she was born that took a lot of forgiveness on my part. We've dealt with him being very ill, having to live in a place neither of us wanted to be, having huge financial struggles. And it was all connected now that we sit down and look at it. So we are on the road to making this right with God. Not what WE want to do, but what HE wants us to do. For dh it's letting go of things from his past and not living his life according to how that was. For me it's being open to God working in us and putting completely faith in him not matter what the outcome will be.
Kim, that is fabulous! :love: Handsome and I dated for two years before getting married and none of those years were good. The pastor laughs at us because we will sometimes talk about our past and I say, "I am overwhelmed at how awesome God is. I never thought that we would remain married and actually be in love with each other." Then handsome laughs and says, "Are you kidding? I can't believe we even got married!":lol: This is all said in good humor. It is actually a praise to God that he was able to heal our marriage. Someday I will write a book about what we went through and what Handsome went though in his life. I am so glad you guys are working on it. You will leave a beautiful legacy for your child. She will witness the power of God.:angel: Thanks for allowing us to pray for you. Patty
I am so amazed as I'm reading your updates, watching the Father of all turn something for good (this will only utimatly make your marriage stronger, and will help when your children are going through marriage difficulties for you to guide them) that the father of lies inteded for harm. Amazing. God is so good, still praying for you over here...since it's all a day at a time thing.
I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling better and that you are both allowing God to get you through this. I'm keeping you and your dh in my prayers!
Patty, you could start by posting the rough draft of your book here for us to read! What a beautiful testimony, Kim! Your marriage will be stronger because of this trial and victory.
It's amazing how when you let God work instead of trying to make it all work yourself, how open your mind and heart becomes. Our church has groups on Weds night and about 2 months ago our group leader handed out this book by Henri Nowen titled "The Return of the Prodigal Son". Well I've tried to read it several times since then but just couldn't get into it and grasp it. So I had shoved it away with a bunch of other books. Well this morning I tore this house apart and finally found it and started to read. All in God's timing of course! And when I'd read what I felt I needed to read I just put it down. There are some profound things in there and I only made it through the prologue and chapter 1.
Kim, This is great! Yes, God certainly can turn sorrow into joy! He is working with you through this, and I am so glad you are both opening up and allowing Him to lead you through this! You're right, when you let God lead instead of trying to do it yourself, things WILL work out for the best! I will continue to pray for this process you are going through, and that ALL of you will be stronger and closer when it's over! Patty, I agree with Prairie! We'll be your "critics" for your rough draft!
Kim, I will be praying for you and your family. Have you ever read "The power of a praying wife". I know it is a great book and helped me.
Kim I just got back from camping so I didn't see this sooner. Reading all of this I first was heartbroken for you. Now I just see how God can work in life and in a marriage. You will certainly be in my prayers. God is so good.
