I'm quoting myself. I never thought I'd see that happen LOL! I made the mistake of throwing in a separate thought with the other post. I was also wondering if any of you have found ways to get out for say, grocery shopping without the kids. I can and do go with them, but it's always nice to get in and out quicker by myself. I can go after DH gets home, but then it's more crowded and picked over plus it cuts into my time with him. I try to avoid going on weekends and weeknights whenever I can. I love the tape recorder suggestion. We still have one and I'm sad that they aren't as popular as they used to be. Technology changes a lot faster than I do! :lol:
As for nto bringing kids shopping I had to wait till they were old enough to have one stay as the sitter. I never had the heart to leave my kids with someoen else to go shopping, sorry. Seemed as frivolus to me as leaving them to go for coffee at starbucks, which dh said I should do now and then with my lap top , its hard enough to get time online in am without feeling like I should be doing something else, so I multitask at that
I want to believe the best here, but I honestly don't know how to take that comment. If you knew me or my situation you would never think I'm frivolous. Does trading sitting favors with another mom make me frivolous or heartless? I don't mind watching a friend's children and my children enjoy having playmates for an hour or so. The main reason I want to homeschool is because I want more time with my children, not less. I want to spend less time running errands so I have more time with my children, not less. I don't have money to throw around and even if I did I still would think it's wrong. I can't remember the last time I've had a date with DH and we don't do a lot of things as a family because money is tight. My husband is the one who is concerned about "me" time. He's the one who is concerned about things getting done if we homeschool. I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I want to do the right thing for my kids, and I also want to satisfy his concerns. I'm sorry for being defensive. I was hoping to find support and suggestions from other HS moms, not judgement. Please forgive me if I've misunderstood your comment and accept my apology for judging you.
uh oh, did I say something wrong? I have a habit of not getting word in the order I mean, , I mean personally to me, I have a hard time with ME time, in fact a short time back they were trying to convince me of the need for it. I don't know how to do a me time, my brain wont let me... thats what I was trying to get at. Its a mind set isnt it? I did not mean to say someone else can't and I think its an awesoem idea if you can find someone to watch them during the shopping time or whatever you time, that is a super idea, don't get me wrong. Im just saying I could not do that because of my own faults. Not that you have them, please accept my appology I did not mean to throw darts at anyone but myself. ( that sounds bad too doesnt it? lol!) I have a really bad case of foot in mouth... I used to joke that I had athelets tongue because it was in there so much! I really did not mean to say that YOU were frivolus, just that my brain wont let me do it? I wish I could! NO you are not hartless or frivolous, I am really really really sorry that it came out that way! Forgive me? Just to tell on myself, I was telling dd about a Shakespearian play my dh took me to for a date a while back and I told her I keep thinking I had the kids with me We didn't of course, but because I can't stop worrying or wondering what they are doing even when with a sitter, thats why I was thinking they were there too, lol. Turned out it was a ballet that was outdoors that they were at, and I just crossed memories? silly me!
:cry:just one more thing, if you knew me you would know I am not one who would have called you any of those things that it does really sound like when I read it from your point of view, I feel horrible for it. Really did not mean for it to read that way,
I really appreciate you saying that, and I'm so, so sorry for getting defensive. I really wanted to hope the best about what you wrote and you confirmed for me that you only meant the best. Please accept my apology and please, please, PLEASE don't feel horrible. I'm the one who should feel horrible for taking what you wrote the wrong way.
I just hate it when I say something that bugs someone , because my heart is usually in the right place I just don't always get the idea across...hmm and I am called to write? Lol! oH! ANd yes if you accept mien Il accept your apology~
my husband thought that i wouldn't be able to do it either. he said that he thought i wasn't organized enough and that i would be overwhelmed. i think that he was looking out for my best interest and the kids. but i told him that that would be very selfish to send my kids to school miserable just because i "couldn't handle them". and to tell you the truth, with them home all day i get to know who they really are and really enjoy them as people. it's tough sometimes. but even when you are around your best friend too long you need a break from them. he has been supportive and loving and i try my best to keep a positive attitude. i love my decision and i am so glad that he was willing to trust me.
That sounds really similar to my situation. I'm so glad you were able to go ahead with it and make it work. I think sometimes we have success despite our shortcomings, not because of them. TeacherMom, I'm sure you're a fantastic writer (and thank you so much for accepting my apology). Email and other messages over the computer are so easy to misunderstand. I was worried that I didn't come across as giving you the benefit of the doubt, so you're not the only one, believe me. If you're anything like me, you're probably working on a lack of sleep, too LOL!
