I can't give the details right now (not because I don't want to but because it's just too close right now and I can't see straight admidst all the chaos and to even think about it all right now has me in tears) but this is a road we were on not so long ago and I covet your prayers for this situation to be resolved once and for all.
Some 24 hours later, I think I can talk a little more about all of this, but I still can't share all the details... A bottom line right now for our home is I need a job - no if ands or buts about it. I'd be happy even working part time, but I'm having a real struggle to get beyond the application phase in most cases, sometimes I've been lucky enough to make it beyond that to an interview but no offers as of yet. My background is on nursing and because of back problems that just don't want to go away, I don't see that as a realistic option right now (maybe never again - only God knows that). As for the original prayer request, all I can share that happened yesterday involves a significant loss (not of life). If our situation does not soon turn around, there will be far more losses in the days, weeks and months to come. The other issue involved depression that seems to be rooted back to hubby's accident but has really surfaced this year in the midst of all that we have been through - I was asked if I was emotionally stable enough to go to work... I don't have that choice (which is why I'd be happy with part time work right now - it gets me out of the house, relieving financial pressures, but it doesn't overwhelm me either). I am not suicidal (do you know how many times I've been asked that this past week :roll: - I prefer to see it as situational depression that will be resolved when things get turned around (and I probably need to commit to counselling to cope with all the losses the accident caused). My other conern for thie time being is that while hubby is working right now, his pattern has been not to stick with a job for any more than 4 or 5 months. My fear is that when I do return to work, he may decide he doesn't want to work anymore leaving his job and for me to bare the brunt of it yet again (which would be possible if I was returning to nursing, but I'm not looking to so I don't see it as an option). I realize this is a lot of detail and that there is a lot more missing, but I can't get into the fine print right now - it's still not an easy one to tackle. It's asking a lot of you guys to be praying about this, but I know that only through prayer and God's intervention will we get through this.
Ahh Brenda, a huge hug comming your way. I will pray as best I can for you. You have helped me so very much this past short while, one thing I could offer you is some help living on little to nothing. I am very good at living on very little money. I will e-mail you later. I am thinking about you. tracy
Brenda, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Would it be aweful of me to say tell your hubby to suck it up and be a man? I don't mean to sound rude and I am not you or your husband, but I would be so furious of my husband acted like that and didn't put his family first. My husband is in a job that is usaully meant for high schoolers (bank teller) and the reason he got stuck with it is because he took a job that turned into a scam and ended up needing any job because he wasn't getting paid from the scam artist. He's been there for almost a year, totally hates it and becomes hard to deal with sometimes. He has a 4 year college education and use to be a personal banker at another bank (left that one for the scam job because he thought it would be better, we later learned). But in light of the situation, he knows what he has to do to survive and that he doesn't have a choice in the matter...it's where God wants him right now. As the man of the house he has to suck it up, go to work to provide for his family, and be thankful for the things we have especially our faith. Any man who doesn't feel it's necessary to provide for his family is selfish and irresponsible IMHO. Not saying he is, just in general. I hope he will find strength to stick through the bad times until something comes his way that he is satisfied with.
Brenda, I hope I didn't offend you in any way. I don't know the situation and aren't able to walk in our shoes. I guess what I wanted to lend was some courage in case what I said was right. I'm a bit of a traditionalist with a modern twist I guess you could say. If the hubby does leave you to provide for your family then I just don't think that's fair to you. Blessings a plenty and I pray that everything will work out for you and your family.
No Jen you didn't offend me at all - it's something I have said many times over and over again (and directly to him). I will say that while I worked like a dog all summer, I did ask him not to take on a job because it would have added a twist that we couldn't have managed - I was working nights and it would have created child care havoc. He's working right now because he HAS to - I hope and pray he sticks with it once I do (finally) get to go back to work (and this was the beef I had with his mother calling me names over the summer - I was working my guts out and I was really offended by her judgement on me - it was uncalled for and unfair).
I pray that things will work out. We have been through hard times, but GOD has always blessed us and walked us through the difficult times. Depression is/can be serious, so do take care of yourself as you can. GOD bless you at this time and always!
Just a thought.....have you considered that, given an appropriate job (not sure what your dh is capable of after the accident), that he can/will/should be the one pressured to work and not you? I know that many a wife have kept a job only to have hubby slack off in that area and when the wife didn't/couldn't work anymore the hubby kicked it into high gear and was suddenly able to, kwim? Maybe you are having trouble getting a job because dh is supposed to this time. Hope that is the case and you can take a much needed breather .
That's a good thought Brooke. Maybe it's God's way of pushing him to do what he's suppose to be doing in the first place.
I'd still like to be able to work though - prefer only to have to work part time - if he gets a job that he applied for (God willing). I wouldn't have to work full time again - it offers him security, benfits and a wage similar to what I had been making so I know we could afford for me not to have to work all the time again - wouldn't that be a nice switch. I'd still like to work part time just so I could get out of the house
I know that feeling, Brenda! When I first quit my job, Mom had been watching Rachael full-time. She said she'd really miss her, and suggested that I could sub just one day a week. It was very nice! I did that until the summer before Phillip was born. That one day "out" was really nice. Sometimes I really miss it!
Ewww...yeah. I'm prolly gonna go through that pretty soon. Dh is taking a second job so I can quit mine to be home full-time again. It's hard to let go. But I know in my situation that it is a must for me to devote the kind of attention I need to to the hubby, kids and house.
