Hi guys.... My kids (age 8 & 11) went with my mother yesterday for an overnight visit so my husband and I could get a small break. Picked them up today... kids get in the car. And after telling me what sweet children they are - procedes to tell me she would really like to see my daughter (the 8 yr old) back in public school because of her maturity level. I'm so upset and ticked at the moment it almost ruined the time my husband and I got to spend together. Seriously - my daughter acts younger than she is. Why? Because she is petite and people have always treated her like "a baby" or the baby of the group. Do I see I problem? Nope... not at all. When she needs to take charge and do something - she does it. A month ago she saved a dogs life when she realized that it was bleeding (not easy as the dog is black) and took charge and got the mom she was staying with for a couple of hours while I was at the Farmer's Market. She takes care of goats and other animals. Yet according to my mom, she needs to "act older" oh PUUUULLLLEEEEZZZZZ!! Ok - it's part way out of my system. Had to post here because not everyone understands hs'ing and my mother is blaming her actions on it.... and she is doing just fine in school as long as you let her do the work (and she will try and sucker you in to do the work for her)..... Ok - done for now Thanks!!
my son is 8 too and very small for his size, he is slow with reading (books, but he can play any video game and program the TV)......... when we go to resturants the waitress (happened last 2 times) brings him a "kiddy" cup and the others a "big kid glass" and my DD is younger.... it offends him but he does a lot too that the older ones can't...... like fix things that I can't....
Sorry to hear that is happening. I clicked on your "farm" link, how CUTE! You all are very blessed to have the opportunity to care for such delightful animals. We are animals lovers also. Anyway, kids mature at different stages and I wouldn't be too concerned about someone's opinion or place your child in a cookie cutter mold. As long as you and you dh think she is doing well homeschooling, then continue to hs. Generally, hs kids are more mature than ps kids. My ds at the age of 10 thought is was fun feeding boogers to the dogs, so I wouldn't worry myself over a comment. Now my ds is a mature young man who is graduating from high school and owns three boss vehicles and works. No need to worry, kids mature at their own pace. :love:
How frustrating! I was always very small and I know that I didn't always act my age for the same reason that your daughter doesn't... but when I needed to I could step up to the plate. How frustrating! Did your daughter hear her say this? I would be so mad if she did.
No I hope she didn't hear it. It's more the fact that how can anyone think that going to a PS increases anyones maturity level? I mean what in the world do they teach there to increase maturity? I do plan on sticking with HS'ing. I'm happy with the results and I am personally just not ready to send my kids back because it has taken me a year to get them over some of the "humps" that occurred because of PS. (my son telling me he was stupid was a huge one - and it still comes out of him if he doesn't get something right away). I plan on changing the method this year and go with a correspondence school (Seton) with more of a religious look because I think it would be helpful in many ways. Just irritated that she couldn't just let whatever she was thinking go - knowing that it would upset me.
She's eight, I would think that in this world of kids trying to grow up waaaaaaaaaay too fast that it is a good thing that your daughter might not be on the same level as those ps kids! Let her be a kid Grandma
Sometimes people care more about their thoughtless comments than how what comes out of their mouth will be received.
Wow, then you enroll her in ps and your mom will complain she is acting too old for her age. LOL. Geesh. Nothing wrong with sweet innocence. I am sure your dd is just fine.
Thank you guys - I knew you would understand. And yes - she is just fine... going through a whiny stage but she'll get over it. My mother just irks me. And I remember going to PS and what I went through and I'm actually a little shocked my mother doesn't seem to remember (I matured and "blossomed" early)..... but at the same time, I realize she wouldn't remember because as my husband says "She's just your mother and you can't let it get to you she's always been like that"
I actually have the opposite problem but am glad we hs for the same reason! My dd just turned 8 yesterday, but is the size of your average 4th-5th grader. Not fat, really slim actually, but taller than a sapling!!!! Long, long long everything - even her toes!! Our problem is that people expect her to ACT older since she LOOKS older - but she is my baby, and I want her to stay a little girl as long as she can. I get angry (on the inside) when others expect her to act a certain way becuase of her height. I keep her out of school becuase she would look like an honest to God FREAK with other second graders. As it is, she is really bright, so we have her in a 3rd grade class, but she is taller than all her "classmates" -- so even that is not a solution. Fortunately she has a benefit I never had. I am over 5'10" and usually wear a 2" heel - so I pass for 6' easy. Growing up, I was always taller than everyone - except my dad, so I always felt like a freak (don't even ask about school dances - nearly 6 ft in 8th grade? UGH). I was self-conscious about my height until college when some other tall girls and I hung out for a while, and then it didn't seem so freakish. My daughter, on the other hand, has a tall mother, one who is proud of that height and encourages her dd to stand as tall as possible. She, hopefully, won't grow up with this "freakish amazonian" mentality that I had for a while. (fingers crossed).
