Don't we have a thread or two that has the meaning on some of the abbreviations? I remember some had multiple meanings.
I think that the fact that most of us allow one another to say how we feel and allow one another to be who we are is very important. I don't want someone to come on the board and be someone they aren't. We all have our own unique personalities and that is what makes us human and who we are. I wouldn't change the fine ladies on this board for anything, I LOVE your spunk! I like how my dh thinks. I will ask him what he thinks and he will say, "I don't know because I don't have all the facts yet". That is the same with assuming that anyone who says, "OMG" is using the Lord's name in vein or if someone says bfh they are saying something sinister. By the way, I am the one who has used "bfh" . It certainly doesn't mean anything that you may be thinking. Sometimes things aren't as they appear and like a few other ladies have already stated, some come here to vent. There is nothing wrong with venting. And if there is a thread that someone finds offensive they should not read it and that is perfectly fine. You ladies are great!
I didn't assume anything. I googled it- I had never seen that one before. This is what was said: Acronym Definition BFH Bastard from Hell BFH Behind Front Hash (marching band) BFH Benign Familial Hematuria BFH Benign Fibrous Histiocytoma BFH Big Freaking Hammer (last resort debugging, polite form) BFH Bitch from Hell BFH Boston Floating Hospital BFH Brandon Fern Hoppers (UK) BFH Bundesfinanzhof BFH Bus Fare Home BFH Bit Error Frequency Rate http://acronyms.thefreedictionary.com/BFH I guess I just took the OP as "iron sharpening iron"
Wow! I leave for a bit and look what happens! I miss it all! I would like to know why the OP hasn't been back to respond to this topic she started. Pretty easy to judge and run eh? So for the OP if she ever returns - what happened to letting God judge everyone? It isn't your place to judge anyone on this board for things they say. If you don't like it don't read it.
BFH can stand for a lot more things than what google can come up with, apparently so, I don't see anything about horses on there.
I posted last night at 1am. It is now almost noon here, and I have been cleaning my house until now... Trish
Always nice to know that others were up as late as I was.....oldest had a birthday sleepover. Now I need to clean :lol: but I'm too tired. BTW, don't think I've welcomed you yet....been crazy the last few days with party prep and doctor appts! Welcome!! Rhonda
Thanks Rhonda! Alright, here is where I am coming from, and maybe a little clarification. What I am saying, is that whether we like it or not, wherever we go, people are watching. The Bible tells us to avoid even the appearance of evil. Whatever the situation, I don't think vulgarity is necessary. Especially when taking the time to type something, words can be chosen carefully. I suppose I have always most appreciated writings that leave no room for interpretation, but need no cussing to do it. For example, the following is a passage I read from a book about an angel that questioned whether or not God was being to hard on the devil. He was allowed to travel freely on earth, observing the devils works. In the end, these were his words to the devil: "You wallow in the excrement of your foul deeds, and call it triumph!" That is a great way to express one's self. He got his point across loud and clear, but with no questionable words. I don't think the comments saying, "if you don't like it, don't read it" are very reasonable. Here is why: I am browsing threads and see one that looks interresting to me, and innocent enough. I read the first post, and am curious about what others thoughts will be. I keep reading and there are several good posts, but then I come to one that takes a nasty turn. I didn't see it coming, and could not possibly have known it would be there. I have to read it to know what it says, and by then, it's too late. I can't take the image of the words from my head. Now, I am not saying anyone else is responsible for my response to the post. Admitedly, I am in a sensitive place right now, which I will explain in a moment. However, I think my goal in the OP was to remind folks that integrity is so important. Now, here is where I am coming from. My DH and I have been asked to be elders in our church. It was a bit surprising since we are 33 and 32, respectively. Our pastor assured us that eldership has little to do with age, and a lot to do with faithfulness. After doing some study, we accepted. The congregation is given 3 months to give confirmation, or reasons why this should not proceed. In the process, I have been preparing my heart, asking God to reveal his heart to me, and make me sensitive to it (His heart). I find that I am deeply grieved by lip service, knowing that time is short. I feel a deep sence of urgency, and that there truly is not time to serve ourselves. I believe that now is the time we must choose one master. Some might say to me, "suck it up princess". There was a time not long ago that I would have said the same thing. However, I don't want to go back to my old way of thinking and being. I want to embrace the heart of God and run to Him. I want to love the people He loves, and protect them in any way I can. I am willing to risk popularity to do it. In the words of an old Petra song, "I'ld rather be a fool in the eyes of man, than a fool in the eyes of God." I have no intention of leaving the board, either, for anyone who might think I'm a chicken. I will never stand for what I believe without standing tall and signing my name. My heart is soft, but my back is strong. I hope this makes sense, and I will be happy to have further conversation on it. I am trying to address a lot of ideas in one post so I hope it's not too jumbled. Also, If I don't post back right away, it's just because I've been busy, and will be back later... Cheers, Trish
First of all Trish, that is exciting that you were asked to be elders of your church. I think it is a great honor. I pray for wisdom, guidance, and faith within your walk in your new role. Second, I do have to ask...what does that have to do with someone typing "OMG" on a homeschooling board? I guess I'm confused about that. It explains your sensitivity, but not really why we need to point fingers. I guess to me there is a difference between preparing your heart and running to Him, and pointing fingers at others faults. I guess my thoughts are this...if you (not meaning you, but people in general) come across something that you don't like, then it is your own duty to ignore it. It's a public board where people from all walks of life are welcome, Christian and non-Christians alike. All people are different and we have to have TOLERANCE for those differences. Cursing is one thing, and I have never read a post where there was cursing (meaning course swear words...I don't think I have to give examples). If someone isn't cursing, it's not our duty to point fingers at them, or cast the first stone, as it may. In all, people are free to be who they are, without us judging. If you are that bothered by something, pray for them. So, IMO, it's not about "sucking it up", it's about having tolerence for the people around you. Tolerence is of the utmost importance if you are going to be an elder of a church, IMO. ETA: On a public forum it is also many times hard to read into what someone is writing. I have many times written something that was taken the exact opposite of what I meant. That is the downfall of not being able to hear people's voices.
as modorator I am glad that this thread is staying sival. I know everyone has her own opinion and we often share them here. Lets just remember we all have feelings too. So as its important to stand up for what we believe its also important to remember that we don't need to put the beliefs of others down while we do it.
The thing about message boards is that when we read, we are not hearing voice tones, or seeing facial expressions and all that jazz. I am not trying to judge anyone, or make anyone feel bad. I am simply putting a challenge out there for others who are willing to recieve it. This is an area that I am currently feeling challenged in, and thought that someone else might also. Jenpooh, it's not becoming an elder that has a comonality, but just that the job of an elder is to be a protector. Writing unkind or inapropriate words can be damaging to people that are new in faith, or not believers. If I was not a Christian, and had read some of the angst in posts, I would not have wanted to become one. We need to display something differant, because, I think most people have more of the "same old" trash they can handle. Why would I want something I already have. PLEASE hear me and believe that I am telling the truth...I LOVE PEOPLE! That's why I posted. I know that there are believers and non-believers here, and I think we need to be sensitive, and remember that people think that God is the same as us. We call ourselves Christ-like, let's act that way to. Like Lori said, my intention was for iron to sharpen iron. That's all. I don't think anyone is going to hell for what they wrote, just making a careless choice. I just want to encourage those of us that are believers to do our best to display Godly character. We can't undo damage we've already done. I wish I could just take out my heart and show it to you all. I am saddened by my lack of ability to show it in writing...this sucks. I just can't get it all out there by words alone... Cheers, Trish
I can appreciate where you are coming from, but the women are this board are grown ups and they are who they are and I love them for their individuality, I would not change anything about them. :love: You mentioned omg as being bad, I truly don't see anything sinful about saying "oh my gosh". Bfh-big fighting horse, again nothing bad. That is a saying my beloved grandfather had for someone who was at odds with someone. I have not witnessed any cussing on the board as I would think the filter would probably X it out. You also mention in your closing, "this sucks", the way I was raised that was a bad thing to say and my own kids don't say it as neither do my dh or myself. But if you wish to use that term, that is your right and I am not going to tell you that you are wrong or sinful in using it. I am only pointing out that you are also capable of saying things that can be construed by others as being offensive-this all goes back to tolerance and not being judgmental of others. My grandfather also said, "Take care of what is wrong in your house before you try to change mine". Blessings! Katie
