Quite frankly, wrong or not you should of pm'd Jennifer with this information instead of posting this on the forum. Not cool.
I strongly disagree. Presents are not given as rewards in our household. We give presents to share our joy in the season - we teach our boys to give gifts to each other - as a family, give gifts to neighbors and strangers in our the community (usually through a charity). Whether or not they, or we, deserve them is moot. I am grateful that Jesus didn't stop to ponder whether we deserved the "reward" of the gift of redemption on his way to the cross...And since Jesus is who Christmas is about, we take him as our example. As I said earlier, we don't use Santa as a motivator. But in the same vein, we don't withold birthday gifts for misbehavior. Mis-behavers may find they lose privileges or freedoms, or even get fined, but a gift is just that - a gift, not earned recompense.
okay not sure if this was offered up but Id take the couch away from him. He ost his privelage and when the rest of the family sits ont eh couch he has to sit on the floor. Do that for a few days and see if that works for you! I have had kids have to stand or sit on floor at the table becuase they would not stop tipping chairs, it usually worked wonders to teach what the furniture is for!
Just to add to the last note I also say the gifts I give are not rewards for good behavior, though I will admit I threated to take one of dds back to the store this year when she was bieng a teen ager attitude with me... but for us it is a gift as Jesus was to us, gracefuly given if you know what I mean? I did not deserve that gift, nor do my kids deserve theirs, though I do feel a bit odd when I went shoppin for one of my kids and was really angry with how he just treated me.. it made me second guess my purchases! Lol it is a real lesson in mercy and thats what Christmas is all about !
Agree and I am not offended at all. I probably should have worded that differently. However, even though I will not be having any more children, I have had quite a bit of experience with children of all ages for many years before I finally was blessed with my one and only and I do think that most 7yo's can comprehend this, as long the parents are consistent.
Actually, my intent was that it was taking away from the OP questions and not related at all to her question. Plain and simple.
Yes, dear. And speaking of getting things wrong.... Not unlike telling someone their zipper is down, it would have been more polite for you to Private Message me that My Sig was wrong than to publicly say it out loud, for everyone in the room to hear. So it was NOT that everyone else thought it was true. They probably just never even read it. Now, you posted for the first time in 13 months to say THAT? Why? What is actually funny is I own Fisher pens! haha! Geeesh.
Who cares if it's wrong?? Gasp! Unless Santa gives out those pens this year... Check your stockings carefully, girls, and if there's a pen in there, don't plan to write upside down with it, in freezing temperatures, or anything else out of the ordinary....
I was a door slammer. Sometimes I would slam the door so hard that I knocked frames off the wall. Finally my dad made me walk through the door over and over. At first I laughed because I thought it was funny. Then after doing it for at least 30 minutes, I was in tears. I had to walk in the door, shut the door, open the door, walk out the door, shut the door, and continue until I was given permission to stop. Let me tell you, I learned not to slam the door and the lesson stuck for a very long time. I even used it on our middle daughter. LOL!
I was a door slammer until my mother took my door off the hinges... Being a teenager with NO door on your bedroom door BYTES!
LOL! My niece lost her door for slamming it too many times as well. I had to laugh because I went into her room to change. I realized the door was gone so I asked what happened to it. She rolled her eyes and said it was in the garage.LOL
My mom, when I did live wih her, was FABulous... She is 4 foot 11 but BIG on attitude... When, as a teen, I refused to wear my seat belt, she hit the breaks sending me into the dashboard.... As I put my seat belt on, freaked out by the crazy woman driving, she said, "Oh! Did you see that stray dog run across the road?! Oh! I hope I didn't hit him!.... You ok?. Oh! That's right, you don't wear seat belts? Too bad." Snicker! I HATED her for that, but LOOOOVE her for it now...
What if you brought him with one of his gifts to give to someone less fortunate. That way maybe he could experience the joy of giving and also learn to appreciate what he has.
When Kevin was about 6, he broke his bed by jumping on it. Before I left for work that night I told him- in front of my mom- he had to sleep on the floor. That stinker laid on the floor with his blankets and pillow, but got up on his mattress after I left! Lol- my mom 'didn't hear him do it'.
Okay...now I'll chime in with my advice... FWIW... This is why I don't really care for Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, etc. A child should be taught to obey because it is their job to respect and obey THEIR PARENTS, and other adults (as long as these other adults are not asking them to do wrong things - i.e. stranger danger, etc). You need to have your son OBEY YOU. Not for presents, not for rewards, etc. I agree that this year, given your situation, my kid would not get gifts - or would get them the day AFTER Christmas. That would be a good day to stew over wrong doing - and DON'T GIVE IN. Children CRAVE and NEED limitations (okay...throw tomatoes if you will). People think I'm nuts, but I have all my breakables etc in range of my kids - even as they grew up. The KNOW not to touch them b/c it was limits I enforced when they were young. We go to folks houses and they don't touch anything at all unless invited to. I would try a Supernanny trick and come up with "Rules for your household" and what the consequences are for infraction of those rules. I.E. Jumping on the couch means you are banned from sitting on all furniture (except bed) for 24 hours. etc. (just using that isnce that's your original question). I hope that you find what works for you. I know how hard it can be when they test limits. Be firm. Be consistent. Be loving.
