I have a naming issue. I am used to knowing that others will reject my names and I used them anyway and am happy about it. But this time, everyone is being a lot nicer to me with this pregnancy and the guilt has set in. I love my grandmother so much and I know she hates every name on my short list. They are names that are a little trendy now, but she has basically never heard of them. The list is Liam, Declan, Noah, and Finn/Finley/Finlay/etc. Finn is actually at the head of the group of names, but the list has stayed the same for a long time. We have been TTC for a few years. We had Finley picked out before I ever got pregnant. But regardless, I did list off my list to my mother, to which she did not like any. She was nice about it, but she knew a guy in college named Finn and he was made fun of so bad. But I figure being named Finn in the 50's and early 60's is a lot different from now. Turns out also, she has some TV show she wanted and Liam and Declan were on there and they were bad guys. For my own sister, oddly, she never heard of the name Liam before. She is a public school teacher so this confuses me, but anyway. She is usually my biggest supporter on names. So this is odd. I already knew my 83 yr old grandmother probably would not take to any of these names, so I knew better than to mention. But she called to say hi the other day and I was making conversation so I mentioned our list. Apparently, she never heard of these names and didn't know if she liked them. My grandmother is very polite and soft spoken so I know that means she did not like them. Why am I letting this bother me? Not sure, but I know everyone would like a girl as I keep having boys. On my side, the youngest girl is 9 yrs old and on my dh's side, the youngest is about to turn 12. Considering the number of children I have had, it is a little surprising to be having another boy. No one in either side of the family knows that we know the gender, so they also do not know the gender. Anyway, my short list is what it is and I am not likely to change it. SOOO...any suggestions? Not for different names of course, but I do feel a little bad. The day the baby is born, I know no one on my side will say anything about the gender. But, I am certain everyone will hate the name and it is sort of a stressor that I am getting a little stressed over. And I do not want to tell the gender or final name choice before the baby is born. I am not even going to make the final choice until I see him. Thanks in advance for your help.
Well... you already know my advice... use a name YOU and DADDY LOVE, forget what others have to say! We don't tell anyone our names... mostly because I don't need them telling me to choose this or that, or giving me any advice. When Cameron was born last week, we still weren't 100% sure on his name since hubby didn't want to rock the boat with his brother... when they asked in the OR what the baby's name was and Adam said Cameron, I started crying! I was soooo happy he followed his heart and forgot what others might think. Personally I love the name Finn!! Very cute, and a great name to grow into manhood with!!!
Well, of course, you will pick Kristopher Jack Dean!!! And if you don't, then you're scummy!!! :lol: Seriously, I wouldn't even discuss it with them. When the baby is born, present the baby with the name (Kristopher Jack Dean, of course!) as a done deal. Phillip has a Liam on his soccer team, and I had a Liam in Sunday School a while back....
LOL..sure....only thing is..I already used Christopher and my sister's husband has Dean. lol My brother's name is Robert and he wants Robert or Roberta and my dads name is Thomas and he wants Thomas or Thomasina? lol... The name will likely be Finn Amdrew or Finley Andrew. But that is not set in stone. I know I will have a lot of unhappy people come birth day.
We're facing the same thing. Due with another boy, and no one has been that happy for us when they've found out the baby's sex. (I'll admit that I was hoping for a girl, too, but I would never tell someone "Oh, that's too bad!" if they told me they were having a third child of the same sex. A healthy baby is what's important!) Anyway, we have a policy to not tell the name until the birth. There's no reason to. No matter how much you and your DH like the name Finn, someone is going to hate it and won't mind telling you so. But most people are so enamoured with a newborn that they won't criticize it at the birth. (Well, except my mother, but thankfully she's one-of-a-kind in that regard!) We're getting all kinds of pressure to use a family name (Clayton, Scott and Arthur from one side, Donald and Richard from the other). Guess what? NONE of those are on the short list. Maybe, maybe a slight chance for Richard as a middle name because it's DH's middle name, but only if he wants it, and so far he's not caring one way or the other. My 7 y.o. is a little comedian and today said we should name the baby Fredward. :lol: I think I might start telling people that's what we're considering, just to yank their chain a little when they get all pushy about the names they like. Little Fredward. Has a nice ring to it, doesn't it? :lol:
Fredward, LOL..I like it!! Oh..I just repeated your post to my daughter and she said there is a Fredward on a TV show that is on Nickolodean that is called Icarly. Does he watch that?
We had a speaker at our homeschool conference once who had a LARGE family with some rather...different...names. Was it the Phillips family from Vision Forum? Don't remember! Anyway, he was saying with the last one, they found the STRANGEST name from the Bible they could find, then called his parents to announce the birth. His parents were thrilled, then asked rather hesitantly, "...And what did you NAME him...?" They responded with this really strange name. Total silence, then "That's...nice...." And then they told them the normal REAL name!
that is too funny Jackie! I say name him what you and daddy want. my parents named my little sister BAXIE. My father's name is Baxter. So we all thought, oh poor girl, what a horrible name, but now, we look back and it fits her perfectly. I dont know if she gets made fun of, but she is proud of it, and i will tell you if they want to make fun of a kid they will find a way. My last name when i was in school was Maggart. the art is pronounced "ert", well, all the kids in school always called me Maggot Fa**ot, horrible, i hated school for that reason, and i was just always the kid who got picked on, so just pick what you think is best. And hopefully he will be home with you anyways, lol.
I taught with a woman who always referred to her dh as "Tree". I thought it was short for Tremaine or something like that. NOPE!!! His real name was FORREST, lol!!! And I had a student (HONEST!!!) whose name was London Bridges.
Naming a baby is just torture! LOL. I always had a difficult time. I also asked way too many people's opinions...DO NOT DO THAT! However, once I settled on a name for my last one I didn't give a hoot what anyone thought. Mostly because I allowed my 4 year old to be named a name I really don't care for. My dh named her...so that's ok...but I also listened way too much to others. Name your child what you and your dh want. All these people with opinions will not be the ones delivering the baby, waking up at night with the baby, taking the baby to the doctor, raising the baby or even paying for college so who cares. lol.
Jackie that is funny! Our landlords are a family of farmers, and their names are Forrest, Otis, and "David", i thought it is funny bc david is so normal, and 60 or 70 years ago, I thought those are funny names.
I have to agree with Jackie, just name him Kristopher Jack Dean and let the rest fly a kite. We try to get Sommer to name her little guy that almost had her. Maybe next time who knows...
:lol: That's funny that the lady called her dh Tree. My dh's grandfather was named Forrest. My father had a girl in his classes that was named Marijuana Pepsi Jensen. I later worked at the same place with this lady. Anyway, she always went by Marijuana. Just a few months ago there was an article in our local paper about her because she grew up with an unusual name. To the OP....personally, I like Liam the best out of the list. I wish you all the best with naming. That can be tough!
With our first we picked out several names and then asked people what they thought....that was a mistake! Every name we chose we greatly disliked. I felt like if I named my son any of the names we liked we were going to be horrible parents and he was going to be made fun of for the rest of his life. We did end up using one of the names off our list for him. Everyone now thinks the name fits him. After our first, we just stopped telling people until they were born and then it was too late for anyone to say anything because it was a done deal. I really like the name Finn btw.
Don't be such a people pleaser!! It is your baby. A good name must have... Yellability...go outside and really holler it...see if it echo's nicely. now, say it in a fierce undertone... Krisssstopherrrrr DEAN Jack!!!! My eldest sons name is my MIL's maiden name. You would have thought that would make her happy. you would be wrong. When I was pregnant our 5yo dd said "we should name the baby Funky!" and he was Funky until he went to kindergarten. (I called him by his name, but grandma would not.) His name is old fashioned but not popular. Jasper. and the little one, is named after a great uncle...his name is Dutch. But we didn't use it because of the Uncle...we just liked the name. Journey was on MY short list, but dh hated it. sigh. I guess HIM, ya gotta please.
Oh yea, I went to school with a Forrest Green. and my husband went to school with Justin Case. My daughter whose husband's name is Door is thinking they should name the first child Screen. (actually they are thinking Loki, really after the god of mischief...what are these kids THInKING!!)
My mom had an eye doctor or dentist that was named Forrest Branch. People joked around with us about our last name and funny first names with it. One of them was similar to Goldie Locks.
Do what ever you and dh want to do - and forget all the nay-sayers. When I told my father we were going to name my daughter Kathryn, and then Katie for short he said "Katie? I never really liked that name. Call her Kathy. Everyone is going to call her that anyway." How could anyone be offended by Katie??? She is 7 1/2 and no one has ever called Kathy and we have never heard another word about it. On the flip side; we named one son Aaron. I was not too fond of the name but having just giving birth to TWO boys when for 38 wks we were expecting one boy threw me off my game. I still am not real fond of the name Aaron and it has not grown on me. Pick what YOU and YOUR DH like and forget the others. You are the one who will be saying in 1000's times each day.
I say choose what you and your DH like. Mostly, though, make sure it is a name you think he can live with. I love Finn (Phinneas?). JMHO.
I had a professor whose maiden name was Plant. Her name was Ivy. Her sisters also had botanical names. Fern is the only one I remember now, but the second sister's name fit the theme too. We never shared our name choices with anyone prior to our children's births. Our family and friends weren’t going to get a vote in the matter, so I didn’t see any point in discussing it with them. Besides, it’s hard to object to a name once it’s been given to a child.
