Well, if you see the movie, his doing it without her knowing was important. And he wasn't getting any "recognition" for the "effort" he was making, lol! That was all part of his growing process. So to me, it's got to be secretly. BRAINSTORM!!! Maybe I could get my mil to buy it for me! Then I could just write her a check, and if he asks, I could just say I owed her "for something". I don't think he would question any more than that, especially since Valentine's Day is coming up....
Well I'm out then. I was going to join in if someone was going to post the dares each day but if that isn't going to happen then forget it. I can't afford to buy anything right now especially a book that I really don't need.
Tiffany, the link Sixcloar posted (post 18) has a radio station that has it. They are doing it every day, ending on Valentine's Day. She even started a new thread about it. After reading, I may be out, too, though. I think it's worded more as something you have to do as a couple, and that's simply not going to happen now.
Tiffany... you can look up each day on the KLOVE site. It seems to be the full days devotional/dare. It's not just for couples whose marriages are in trouble (mine's not). It's about improving your marriage and making it based on biblical standards.
I bet I'll be unpopular for saying this, but I think our society makes things too complicated. I was just talking to Daniel about this in the library the other day. We were walking past the books on tape and there was one for how to lose weight right next to one about how to have more money. Do we reallly need someone to tell us how to do these things? I think if we spent the time we'd spend reading this book and sent our hubbies a sweet email, or baked his favorite cookies, rubbed his back, or even just telling them we appreciate/love something about them, our marriages will get stronger. Just one nice thing a day. It wouldn't take much time, and we wouldn't have to spend money on a book to get someone else's ideas. Ok, start the egg throwing.
You don't have to buy the book, you can get it free online ( I posted a thread about it) or get it at the library. Its not just for couples either. Its really about doing this without the other knowing. Also one lady posted that she is single and she is appling this to family members she feels she needs to be closer too. I thought that was brillant! After this I think I will apply some of the lessons to family members and friends. Now no tomatoes or eggs...this is MHO: I think its easy to say you can do this on your own but after 15 years of marriage I can say that yep I take my dh for granted sometimes. With the daily grind sometimes our relationship with our partners gets lost and that is what breaks down a marriage, its the little things over time not just 1 big thing ( sometimes it is though). So ya I may need a book and some don't. When I was reading the first couple of "dares" I was like "DUH" that is so easy but I forgot about......keeping my mouth shut sometimes, buying something small just for him just because, a sweet thank you note for just being himself. It goes a long ways. 40 days of dares is nothing compared to what it will do for a marriage, of course it will be more than 40 days really because you need to practice this throughout the marriage.
I already have the book, it will be better done without your dh knowing, I think if you use the site to get the dare for the day, you will still get something out of it. I'm in, feb 1st is on Monday so that is the start day? I think this will help hold me accountable, like the movie, I tried the first couple days, but it was really hard to get no recognition from him, but if we do this together, we can share our experiences, and encourage each other!
We bought the book after watching the movie but never really worked thru the book. Maybe I should because right now it could be used. Move times are always stressful and we both look forward to that first boat workup.
Tomorrow is the first Who's doing the Love Dare? Should we start a new thread? Here's the link to the free online book that CrystalCA posted in case anyone missed it... http://www.klove.com/BLOG/post/2010/01/06/Day-1-of-The-Love-Dare.aspx I like the first love dare. My mother-in-law used to say that I had the patience of Job when my kids were little, but I have to be honest... over the years I've had less and less of it. I will definitely be practicing my breathing techniques tomorrow!
I don't know. I WANT to, but.... I need to get the book, I need to LOOK at the book first, and we're down to one car now. Unfortunately, THAT may be a long-term thing. Carl thinks it's the heater coil, which is expensive to fix ('cause of the location).
I know it is, but if I'm going to do it, I want a copy of it myself. I may start Day One, etc., this week, just to be "up" with y'all in case I DO buy it!
