i'm an 8th grade homeschooler, and i stay at my parent's education center all day. in the morning, when there are no kids, my dad and two other people stay there with me. these two people are around my parent's age, and they have a daughter my age and a son who is a year younger. the father, who really stresses me with his cigarette smell and sarcastic comments, for some weird reason, kept saying things like 'you should be so happy that you don't have to go to school', etc. he said the same thing twice, and on the latter one he added 'my daughter went to school today...' and while i was posting on a forum, he came in for no reason at all to say 'wow, i see you are studying very hard'. to many people, being homeschooled doesn't seem much like a decent 'education', if you know what i mean. as an 8th grader i am doing precalculus and trignometry, while his daughter is doing algebra1 (i finished algebra1, geometry, and algebra 2 in less than a single school year and a summer). the last time i took the S.A.T. i got 1850 (for practice tests i get 2000ish because i am more calm then), while his daughter can't even write a single paragraph without grammar errors. To him it appears as if i don't study- mostly because i spend a lot of time online. (all his kids do online is games) homeschool students &mothers out there, HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THIS KIND OF PEOPLE?????
Well...this is a tough one because it obviously bothers you that they are bothered with it. Make sense? In our society if you are not in the "normal" then you are different and people can't stand different. Different is scary and unknown. You've got your.... interracial marriages, gay marriages, polygamy, etc... different religions different schooling methods different skin tone list continues FOREVER..... What makes the difference is how YOU feel about YOUR life and YOUR situation. Are you happy? Would you rather be in ps? IMHO it sounds as if this man just doesn't understand and has blinders on. So...do you want to bang your head against the wall to educate him or just move on and learn what you want? lol Don't take it personally if you are enjoying where you are! You could always be like my brother (it has also become one of my lines...) and say "people are stupid". ROFL Happy Schooling!
talk to your parents about your conserns. Ask them if you should tell the other man that his comments bother you. If he has a daughter your age he should be some what sympathetic with how you feel. -----don't be surprized if he isn't though. You know that your homeschooling has bennifited you. Therefore be proud of it.:!: By the way I can not write a paragraph with out a spelling or grammer error. Welcome to the homeschoolspot. We will try to help you out with any questions.
I have 2 daughters, one in 8th and one in 9th, both in public school. They were in private school and sometimes home schol from pre school through 7th and 8th grades. The one in 8th is quite happy in public school, because she has finally figured out how to make friends. The older one is ready to throw in the towel, and we as parents are behind her. The other students are one thing, but the teachers being "stupid people" is a whole different issue. I have brought this topic up in 2 different bible study groups, and mostly have support from them. However, there is one who thinks this is a bad idea, and I should consider private school again. How do I handle it with her? I accept that she's a public school teacher, and a very good one at that, and listen to her opinion and let it go. I need to do what's best for my daughters, even if it's different for each of them. Their personalities are night and day, so the way they are raised is going to be night and day, hard as that is on us. Like both of the other posters have stated, talk to your parents, but keep in mind if you're happy where you are, let it roll off your back. You are getting the best education, and if you have to prove it, you can. Did you know that public schools were instituted by a man who originally was in charge of an insane asylum? He figured he could get more test subjects by having the government open schools and teach the underpriviledged while he observed their social behaviors. I found that in a 1936/40 Encyclopedia Brittanica. Not very reassuring for a student who is square and doesn't fit into the round hole, huh?
ou sound confident in your abilities and like you are doing better than the public school students you know. Try to remember that This is working well for you and what he thinks dosn't really change how it's helping you. I know that is easier said than done but some people Are set in their ideas.
If you are a Christian, you can pray for this man and his family, there must be something wrong if he feels he needs to pick on you. Pray that he'll understand your situation, not that he'll be "zapped"!!! Also, make sure YOUR attitude isn't as bad as his! If you are happy with homeschooling, then let it roll off your back, speak to him politely, let your parents know how he's treating you, and ALWAYS be nice to him and his daughter. Then THEY are the ones with the problems, not you, so you don't have to worry about them. The proof is in the pudding---make something good come from your education, continue to study a nd do well, and the difference between you and the other girl will soon be very apparent, and he'll have to stop saying derogatory things! Best wishes!
Very nicely said Deena. I agree talk to your parents let them know whats going on they might not know.
I agree with everyone. Talk to your parents and let it roll off your back. He may be trying to validate his own reasons for putting his in school by picking at the few things that he sees as you slacking off. My family never really accepted our homeschooling until my homeschooled son is a Senior in college making A's. Now they are all for it. The proof is in the pudding, but he may never taste it. It's kind of like discussing politics with someone on the other side. You will probably never win them over so why waste your breath?
oh, i by no means hate the daughter. she is very fun to be with, and she has become one of my closest friends around (now that i homeschool). her dad isn't always like that, but i think he acted that way just because he felt like it on that day. ugh. deena, i'm catholic, by the way. doesnt matter though :angel:
I agree with Deena, she said it perfectly. Always maintain a good testimony. Let it go. Everyone has different opinions. You are not here to change everyone's mind about homeschooling. Not everyone will agree with it and that is ok. Most people speak out of insecurities. And, most know they do...so let it go and it will soon extinguish itself. He might just be the kind of guy who likes to make comments. I have known many people like that. The best thing is to let it go, you often can't change people like that .
When we brought my 10 yr old ds home to hs...he didn't care a bit what the teachers or other parents, and kids thought about it. I, however, did! I didn't want people thinking I was not being a good parent and that my ds would be lacking if he hs'd. But I also knew that God had definitely called us to do this and so that is what we did. Now that we are almost done with our first year, my ds is happier and more confident than he has ever been! He has tested out of subjects that we had no idea he was able to do! SO, like Deena said...the proof is in the pudding! Good luck to you...and when you are doing your best you can feel great about what you are doing! Blessings, Leslie
believe it or not, i am getting some of this from people i know at church . . . but like Hoosier Mama says, i know that God is calling me to step up to the plate and get my daughter back on track. she is almost done with 9th grade, yet her grades and other issues tell me it's time to pull her out and put her back on solid ground. she can't build anything on quicksand, and as a parent i have to do what i know is right for her future. enjoy your homeschooling, time with your parents and the time you spend building your strong foundation through God.
Very nicely said, Moesje....When it is all said and done God is the only one we will answer to, so for me, doing what He is telling me is best for my kids is what I will do, regardless of anyone else! Blessings, Leslie
