As I posted a few weeks ago we are preg with #6. I have already seen my midwife (love her!) and am planning a home birth again. Now here is where I am need advice. Ever since I found out I was preg I have had this overwhelming feeling that I should go to an OB not a midwife. I have been very anti-OB since they caused me to miscarry after we had #4 (long story). I DO NOT want a hospital birth, but I would if there were complications. Why do I have this feeling? What would you do?
well can you go just to talk to one and see how things are going. You don't really have to stay with them, tell them you are checking things out don't know if you want Midwife or OB.
If "something" is telling you to go to a OB then go. I believe in signs from God and I try to be aware when I am being told to do or not do something.
It think it's very important to go with your gut when you're pregnant. See an OB, at least for a consult. You'll feel better! (And I'm sure there must be some good, sensitive OBs out there, who will be willing to take your previous horrible experience into consideration.)
I would trust your instincts and at least go see an OB to make sure everything is okay. A close friend of mine had done home births for her first 3boys, but had a bad feeling during her 4th pregnancy. At the last minute she decided to see an OB and found out there was a problem. The hospital birth was the safest for that baby. Hopefully you will just be reassured that all is well, but it is always a good idea to double check.
Thanks for the advice. I spent an hour tonight on the phone with my really close friend and she convinced me that if my gut is telling me to see one, then I should see one. At least for a consultation. I think I will call around tomorrow and see what I can find as far as OB's go.
Have you considered a hospital birth with a midwife? Many midwifes work out of OB/GYN offices, as a partnership. The birth actually takes place in a birthing room at the hospital, with the midwife. However, the OB is always available in case of complications. I wanted a midwife birth for my first, but my husband wanted a hospital birth due to my age. At that time, midwifes didn't work in hospitals in my area. (The hospital laughed at the idea when I called and asked, and it was the hospital that has the reputation of being most "mom-friendly" when it comes to birthing!). But my other two (including a third I miscarried) I was under the care of a midwife. And to be quite honest, I may very well have lost Rachael if she had been birthed at home due to complications.
Just because you had a bad experience with an OB before, doesn't mean they are all like that. Each situation is also different. I had a friend that had a baby that ended up needing emergency surgery immediately after birth. That baby would have died if she had had her at home. Her next pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, with a midwife. Her next pregnancy was labeled high risk for some complications the baby had, but turned out ok. My son had to have special care after birth as he was premature. I guess it is a choice whether to use a midwife, but I would never do it. There is too much risk involved IMO.
I think they said it all. If there's nothing wrong you will heave a huge sigh and laugh about it. If there is something wrong and you do nothing, you will always wonder "what if". Do it for your own peace of mind. After all, pregnant women have enough trouble sleeping. Tell the OB about the previous bad experience. There will be many who understand and do everything to make you comfy.
Not all OBs are bad. My OB now does homebirths. Maybe you can find one in your area that does them. Also, you might feel better with a D.O. as opposed to an M.D. D.O.s, in my experience, are more open minded to ideas/treatments/ect that aren't mainstream/popular and listen to their patients better.
Going with Sloan127 on this one. If something is nagging at you to go, then listen to that little voice!! It could be a sign.
