It would be intersting to see if kids would have a 'preference' as to who they hang out with as they get older. But there would be so many variable factors I think it would be hard to get any reliable conclusion. Around here, there might be one child that is NOT white in a PS classroom of 25 kids. So then, the kids that are of color, really do not have much choice in who they play with. They do not have many kids to relate to that are not white. I can see how they may feel like they are the 'odd' one, or don't fit in as well? Well, I don't know, I have never experienced that personally, so I don't know how that would fee. What if I went to work everyday with 20 hispanics or blacks, and I was the only white? hmmm. maybe I would feel 'left out' or something? ... And then I guess it would depend obviously on how the rest of that group treated me?
I dunno. I guess a friend is a friend. I would hope that growing older wouldn't make too much difference. I'm white and my best friend is black. We've been best friend since we were 8 and now we are 34. She is closer to me than a sister. But it's all the same as it was then. I certainly don't have a preference nor do I think I ever did. I'm friends with people who are likeminded. I think that is true for most.
dh told my dd she could date any wealthy doctor she wanted after she turned 30. LOL! seriously,though, I really like the idea of courting. yes, it is old fashioned and probably very difficult to enforce but I really think kids these days have way too much freedom and way too many options. of course, I have a ways to go before we're faced with this issue, but I it helps to start training that mind set early so they know what to expect.
I agree. A parent can't toss courtship onto their child at the last minute. This would throw them for a loop and then some! :lol:
I guess my kids will never fail to surprise me. Crystal is going out with her friend (who isn't a boyfriend, but who knows?) this weekend. I had been wondering why he suddenly backed off after seeming so crazy about her at first. It seems when he came to our church service on Sunday night he was a bit overwhelmed. We go to a Baptist church and he does too, but they are totally different and our children's Underground program was a bit too much for him. The kids were up on the stage in the fellowship hall singing and jumping around to The Bible Book Bop song and then they played Books of the Bible Bingo. They sang and did movements to Our God is an Awesome God and looked up some Bible verses. They repeated John 3:16 together and had a blessing for the pizza supper we were serving. I didn't think anything about that was too strange, but for some reason it was overwhelming to him. He attends a very small church and I guess he just didn't know what to think. We wear jeans and tee shirts on Sunday nights and maybe that was new to him. Crystal had told him what we do with the kids on Sunday nights, but anyway he is wanting to take her out on Friday night and we will see how it goes. I did tell her that if they are going as just friends that she has to pay her way. She said she would and I think they will have a good time. I don't think much will come of this other than just being a friend if our church scares/bothers/whatever him so much because Crystal is a so involved in our youth group and several other areas in our church. Our whole family is. We will see.
My DD is 17 (aug will be 18) and hasn't dated yet. She is pretty picky but as a homeschool kid I think it is some different from ps kids. Not as much the going thing I guess I would say.
