((((((((hugs)))))))))) I know that this must be really difficult. I think that your friend gave you good advice. Try to really work through it and be real with your feelings so you guys can move on from this point. I will be praying for healing for both of you.
Wish you the best. This must be really, really tough for you. In a book I read awhile ago said something that was very interesting that might help you in saving your marriage. It said that men need from their wives HONOR AND RESPECT. As you respond and talk to your husband, if you can show him honor and respect through your words, actions, and even the way you look at him, this might be an important ingredient in saving your marriage. The books said that women need to feel valued and appreciated. (((((hugs))))
Building on what Sue May said, that honor and respect is due him SIMPLY BECAUSE HE'S YOUR HUSBAND. It is something you CHOSE to GIVE him; it's not based on anything he's done to "earn" it. So even if he "doesn't deserve" it, you still chose to give it to him.
Thank you ladies! I prayed a lot yesterday. Around 8:15 last evening dh and are were on a better path (I hope). He came back home to sleep and be with us. Our conversations weren't in depth this morning, but we talked without being angry with one another. I just kept hugging him and saying that I loved him. He said he loved me too. We have a long road to healing completely, but at least we are on a better path today.
that is wonderful.... (((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))) to both of you.. hang in there and keep fighting its worth it in the end.
My DH and I had issues like this several years ago. However there was never a single moment that I ever doubted my love for him, that is what carried me through really hard times and made us fight so hard to rebuild our relationship. I worry that trying to "fix" your marriage for the sake of being married when there is love loss, will harm the children much more then having parents that are divorced. I pray that you find the answers you are seeking...
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. Dh and I have had one counseling session so far. That didn't go as well as I hoped, but not much can be accomplished in one hour. I think deep down I still love my husband. I just need us both to change in some ways in order for our love to be rekindled. I am hoping and praying that through hard work, therapy and reading books about relationships and communication we will work through this difficult time. Thank you all for being here for me, being a sounding board and giving some great advice!
Ok, I HATE to say this, but 1 thing you have posted has relly, really bothered me. I truly believe YOU fully involved with saving yor marriage. I do not believe your husband is - and I think you shoul dreally address this. You posted that he "never intended to not be friends" with this woman. That is a major problem. I had a "friend" that I emailed and texted. It made my husband upset-he thought that the things were inappropriate. I did not. We had quite a battle over it actually - for about 4 months. Then I took a step back, went back over things-and tried to see from his perspective. They were inappropraite when coming from a different pespective. When it came down to saving my marriage, I HAD to choose not to be friends with this person. ME, not my husband asking me (although that helped) but ME....I had to honestly see what it was about (this man did not, um, have "good intentions"). I had to know why I would lose my marriage over this....does your husband? He wants to be "friends" with someone that he emailed/texted dirty things to. I don't have advice on this - but I pray the 2 of you will have honest conversation about this issue. It is the only true way to deal with it - unfortunately also the hardest. Also, I pray that you can forgive him, no matter what. This woman sounds lost and maybe your husband has a heart for those who are lost. No matter the outcome - may you have strength of heart and continue to move your family forward in faith!
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