That is a great idea! IMHO I just wanted to clearify, Bipolar is much more than just mood swings, however that is what most people think of. The biggest symptoms that most people don't think of is the fact that when the person feel bad and gets down, they often get so down that they cannot function in everyday life. (ex. they can't get out of bed, take a shower, leave the house, etc.) And when that person is up or manic, they often believe they are invincible and nothing can bring them down. (ex. they don't sleep for days, they have to find something to do to occupy their time 24/7, etc.)This if often when people stop taking any meds they are on for bipolr because they don't believe they need them.
girl, I reread some post and he has a girlfriend? I agree with fortheson. Do a journal and take care of you and the children. Now its time to think of yourself. Remember we are here for you.
Yes, I know it is much more than mood swings. Sorry, I wasn't trying to make light of it, I know that it is very serious. I just didn't want to say to much negitive about my dad, but just give a quick discripction, but my dad is MUCH more than mood swings, he is typical bipolar. Again, I am sorry.
I'm sorry! I didn't mean to imply you were trying to make just about mood swings at all! There were just some questions about bipolar and I just wanted to put it out there. Sorry.
Thanks ladies! I realized that my dh has not taken his depression medication as he should! Yikes! I can't believe I didn't check on that right away! His bottle of meds from mid March says 90 day quantity and he has 50 in the bottle still and it's June 24th! No refills until another prescription either. Probably just him taking it on and off has been messing him up. Also, he hasn't been to psychotherapy or to a psychiatrist in 4 or 5 years! My hubby seems to be in the he's invincible mode...in control of the world and does things at super fast speed. It's fast cycling though. He can go from sad to speedy within one day or two. Today at lunch he was sad and moved slowly. The other day though I looked at his cell phone records and he called a certain law office every 20 minutes or so for a few hours and only talked for 1 minute. I find that very odd and erratic. Last night after our marriage counseling session we both burst into tears and hugged one another. I tried to explain to him that I'm not ready to give up on him and us and that I still love him. We talked about memories of the kids and things we used to do together. During the session dh made it clear that he was done with our relationship though. Very odd.
I'm bipolar. It can be VERY VERY VERY hard to treat. If you want to talk, PM me any time. I have to get off right now, but I'll post some links for you later. You and your husband are in my prayers.
update Hi all I realized a few days after our last marriage counseling session that hubby signed for divorce two days before our session. The lawyer I called for a consultation called me back to set up an appointment and informed me that I should be expecting to be served papers because our case was all set up according to the state court website. Of course the day after I had my free consultation I was served papers. Figures. Then, dh said that he wanted to work things out with me. He had also found out he lost his job (technically he's on vacation until the 15th though). He seemed sincere and said he was going to try to cancel our first hearing (set for this Wed. the 14th) and dismiss the divorce case. Well, he seems to have changed his mind several times over the last week. I had to hire an attorney to represent me seeing as I have no proof that he has stopped the hearing. My lawyer says as far as she knows it's still on for Wednesday morning. I can't believe this is all happening! What happened to the man that I love? About a year ago things started to go down hill fast. I wish I could go back in time and stop all of this! :cry: On a good note, I guess. I was offered a job. It's for little pay and 35 or 36 hours a week at a college bookstore. I have to let the lady from my church know (the bookstore manager) by tomorrow or Monday. I don't think I could possibly start until Thursday though seeing I have a hearing on Wednesday morning and I still have to figure out if hubby can watch the kids or if I have to make other arrangements.
I am very sorry to hear this. It really sounds like you have a big decision to make. You are being put through way too much in this situation. If he refuses to get help, I would go forward with the divorce. You seem to be a very strong woman or you wouldn't have recognized there was a problem, you would have been in denial. You need to think about your children's and your well being. You cannot continue to let him put you through this over and over, and if he doesn't get help, he will continue as long as you LET him.
Hey girl, sorry to hear that. If it was me I would keep the job, it will be good for you and help keep your mind off things. I would look for child care for the kids too. I am so sorry. Hey if you want to talk pm me ok. I am thinking of you and will be thinking of you Wednesday too.
I'm jumping in here with a suggestion again. Check with your state's "Family Services" office. Since there is a registered date for a divorce hearing they can confirm this. They will look at your income and compare them to your bills. Then they may be able to assist you with childcare costs, health insurance for the kiddos, and possibly some food stamps. Use this, if for nothing else but to get your feet set under you. There is enough you are handling on your own right now. Besides, the state has licensing guidelines, and checks out all the daycares and their workers. It's a safer way to go, although not always a guarantee. But what in life is. I have helped a lot of women in tough situations. If you need to vent, want an idea, or some advice, PM me.
My Update Hi Ladies and gent or two, I hope this homeschool year is going well with you and your kids. I really miss the homeschool community! My kids are doing ok in school. We are just getting over strep throat though, so that was not fun. Anyway, the kids know that Mommy and Daddy are "breaking up" and getting a divorce. I've read the kids a couple of books and we've had a few talks. The kids are still having a hard time trying to wrap their brains around it. I guess I am too at times. Where I left off on my story last was that I was about to head to court for a temporary hearing and start a new job. I started the job the day after the court hearing. Talk about an overwhelming week! In court my lawyer did a great job. I felt empowered! The temp. orders sounded good. Unfortunately, the temp. orders are not being followed by my soon to be ex spouse. This is making life hell! Hubby and I went through court ordered mediation (child related) in August. It looks like I will have primary placement of the kids. Whew! Dh and I are still living in the same house, which is not easy. The summer was tough, but at least I had a job to go to in order to avoid hubby. He watched the kids and/or found someone else to watch them while he looked for a job. He did clean while I was at work some of the time (he goes on weird hyper speed cleaning frenzies though). He also spent time taking the kids swimming and buying them junk food. Hubby has also been treating me horribly. He's controlling, demanding and cruel with his words and emotional abuse. Not fun! Most of the time when I got home from work though he would leave and go to "meetings" or "shopping" (his girlfriend's place). He didn't come back home until 10:30 PM or 1 AM. So, if I wasn't working I was dealing with the kiddos. My parents and sister have been awesome helping me with the children though, so I can have a few minutes to take a walk or have an evening out with friends every two weeks or so. My parents are also picking up the kids from school for me, so I can go to work. Just last week hubby got a temp. job back at the company he was laid off from. I have no idea how much money he makes though seeing as he won't tell me and is hiding money from me (long story-part of the temp. orders not being followed). I will be calling my attorney again tomorrow about this stuff. Blah! The lawyers just seem to play nice with each other and in the meantime I'm having a hard time getting hot lunch money for my kids (hubby is taking just about all of my work money and paying the bills with it...leaving me w/nothing). As for things I am doing for me....I joined the church choir and I am attending church on a regular basis, I am getting over some of my fears, I am working really hard at my new job, meeting new people, I am keeping in contact with friends and family and I'm still attending a Diversity Club meetings and my therapy meetings (once in a great while). I'm also trying to be the stable parent in my kids' lives. Well, please keep us all in your prayers! ok...I need to go. My sister has my kids at the moment. take care all!
