who has NEVER gone on a vacation with just her husband? My friend mentioned that she booked a trip for her and her husband. She said it was the first one in three years. After I thought about it I realized that I have been married for 13 years and we have never gone anywhere together. We have been on "dates" and had weekends at home by ourselves when the grandparents take the kids...but even that has been years. You know, I'm not in the best mood right now but the fact that 13 years have gone by and my dh and I have gone no where is kinda depressing me. Come to think of it...we haven't been on a real family vacation either.
Neither have I. Vacations are luxuries. Time together with your spouse or time together as a family can be accomplished without a vacation.
we have taken weekends away for our anniversary,but an entire vacation without kids? I'm not sure my guilt gene would allow me to do that!LOL. I have a real hard time being away from my kids for more than 2 or 3 days. Also I start to get bored without my kids. We have taken one family vacation and I don't think that's unreasonable. I wouldn't feel bad about not taking a vacation with your dh, but I would try to work on planning a weekend getaway. I really feel like every couple needs that. you don't even have to go anywhere. Once my dh and I spent $30 on a motel room 2 miles from home! just to change the scenery a bit.
No you are not! Handsome and I have never had an actual vacation, just the two of us. However, we have taken family vacations. I have friends who take off with their husbands and leave the kiddos behind. I would love to do that sometime. The problem we have is that when work is good, Handsome isn't able to take off of work. Since vacations are far and few, we take Ems along. When he has time off, we are able to take off but then we do not have the money. LOL
You're not. DH and I have been married for 4 years, and 3 of them have been with Children in our lives. At no time in that span did we go on "vacations" alone. During the first year we were working too hard, and the recent three we have had children, and work. lol. We have taken day trips together, for example: We are going to OctoberFest at Worlds of Fun on the 23rd, but Dh's 16 year old brother will be with us, and my mum will be watching our boys. No vacations. lol. Maybe it's time to book one?
Okay...I was beginning to feel like a HUGE loser. lol. I thought everyone but me got to go on getaways with their husband. lol...silly how childish I was thinking though. I have been wanting to go somewhere for a very long time but it never seems to work out.
Nope. In fact, I have not spend one night apart from my daughter. Hubby has but only because he was away for work. We love our daughter and want to spend time with her; unlike so many other parents today who can't wait to get away from their kids. I am not saying that it is wrong to leave them or anything like that. I personally want to spend all the time I can with her since I know the years will fly by and before I know it she will be married with kids of her own. I would say a night here or there with grandparents would be welcome. Too bad she doesn't have those kind of grandparents.
I have not gone on a vacation w/just my dh since our oldest was born. Before that we always went on vacation together. So it has been 18 yrs. since it has just been the two of us.
We went on one for our first anniversary...when I was 7 mos pregnant. We haven't had a dinner or weekend alone even. We had one "refresher" birthing class (babysitter) and one emergency trip to doctor (again, oldest stayed with babysitter). Even when my DH went to the ER, my sister kept the older two, but the (then) infant went with me. I figure we'll have a vacation alone when they move out.
Hubby and I have never gone on a vacation just the two of us. We didn't even have a honeymoon. We have also not taken actual family vacations either. We tend to stay close to home because of finances. I don't mind too much, but a vacation as a family would be nice one day.
Um... our honeymoon? Everything has has been a weekend away-at most 2 nights. We've really only done 1 family vacation. We've done a few weekend family vacations. We are saving up to go to Germany as a family next year- my brother is stationed there so we will have our housing covered. Hubby and I are hoping to disappear for a few days just the two of us while we are there.
Vacations with hubby hmmm nope. Not since our honeymoon nearly 15 years ago. And family vacations have always been revolving around visiting family. I said this year is the year 2011 is the vacation year. Even a small vacation would be nice
Pre DS, yes...we went to Cuba and a cruise with family and would go back home etc....since DS We do family vacations! To me it is very important to include ds and I couldn't imagine going without him. DH and I were together all the time just us from 1991-2006 when ds was born....now it is family time
Our honeymoon was a quick weekend, as we got married on a Saturday mid-morning, and were both back at work on Monday. We took a family vacation when ds was 2 and dd was 12 - actually two: one to Galveston and one to Mobile. DS is about to turn 28 and DD is 37. In the last ten years, the only trips were to visit family. We usually go to mom's out of state for Thanksgiving week. That's it.
Same here. When we were married, we couldn't afford to go on a honeymoon for more than two nights, and it was just a few miles away. We've rarely taken vacations, and they have mostly been with the children. In our case, we have no family in this country, so there would be no one to look after the children. Now our oldest three are in their 20s, they are old enough to look after the younger ones, so we get away sometimes. Last week, we traveled to New York City for a day and then visited our son in Albany. Our 22-year-old manned the fort for three days, which was great. The more time goes by, the more we'll have the opportunity to get away together - and will probably miss all the noise and bustle of having children around!
Yes and no. When I was pregnant with Faythe, Carl went to a Middle School Conference in New Orleans. I had never been, so I went with him. I wouldn't exactly call it a "vacation", because he had his conference during the day while I was sight-seeing. I had a LOVELY time!!! We've also taken a few one-night trips, but it's been a while since we were able to do that. And on our tenth anniversary, we got a cabin for a week. He and I went for two nights, then my parents brought the kids down and they (the kids) stayed for the rest of the week. It was a good compromise! But when it comes to a "vacation", it's the whole family!
We are going on 16 years married and we have never gone away without the kids. Friends talk about going to Hawaii or a cruise without the kids and I just think "Man! If I were a kid I'd be pretty ticked off that mom and dad were going someplace cool without me". I don't know, its just me, maybe. But yeah, I'd like to go overnight sometime. Mine are getting older (14, 12 & 6) so maybe now we can do something like that.
We have only done family vacations since ds was born. We were thinking about trying to take a trip for our 10yr anniversary next summer, but at the same time, I would feel guilty leaving him behind. We used to do nights away for our anniversaries, but haven't even done that in a few years.
Nope. Not since having kids. We've never vacationed without our kids. We've done sporadic overnights that weren't far away, but....nope.
That's why we got the cabin. Carl and I had our "anniversary time" together, and then the kids joined us, so they had time with us, too. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!! Finding "mom and dad" time is VERY important, whether it's going away for a while, doing an occasional Date Night, or just spending time together after kids are in bed at night. We need to GUARD OUR MARRIAGES. If we don't do that, and spending time alone with our spouse is part of that, our marriage suffers. And when that happens, it's not good for the kids, either. Strong families MUST allow time for the parents to be alone in one way or another. And kids need to see that their parents have a strong, healthy relationship with one another APART from them.
