((hug)) I'm so happy for you, and the other mother. I'm glad to hear that everything has been settled and isn't it amazing what we can accomplish when we just talk to each other? She wasn't even upset with you or your kids. Awesome!!! Have a blessed and happy day, and don't forget to look into those verbal bullies. It might be some children being brisk and careless with their words, or they might actually be mean-spirited little fiends, either way, it'll be good to make head way in that situation.
I would think that as far as the bathroom incident was concerned--you could have told the other mom that you will deal with it and then follow through. I know what it is like to want another person's child to be punished. My sister has one daughter in particular that in the past treated me very rudely. She would call me names, insult me in other ways, defy anything I asked her to do, cuss at me, and just treat me like dirt. I WANTED to KNOW that she had consequences. I would ask my sister later if she had any consequences and she would basically tell me that it wasn't my business. She also would not even make her daughter apologize. That, of course, is different than you situation, but I can understand wanting to know that a situation is going to be dealt with. Kids need discipline, but you can choose to do it there or at home--just let the person know (if she is involved).
just as a FYI, anytime a person, (parent or other child) comes to me telling me something about what one of my kids have done, I say. "thank you for telling me; I will address it later with x." Sometimes it is a valid "tattle" sometimes it is not. But I do want parents to know that I am paying attention to the behavior of my kids.
I'm with you gizzy....Last year, grade 5, my sweet little daughter, who had never been in trouble in school, ended up in the office with calls home from the principal. It turns out, one of her BFF's who happened to be a boy, was throwing rocks, (handfuls!) at her on the playground during PE. She had asked him to stop the day before and smacked him with a twig, but he continued. She tolerated it. But when he did it on day two, she got ill and in a much firmer way, she TOLD him to stop. He threw another and another and another....the last handful resulted in one hitting her eye (she wasn't injured but that's beside the point). She saw RED! She got off the swing, reached down and picked up the first thing she could find (A much larger STICK) and swung it at him. She bashed his face basically, before she realized it. She ended up with 5 days ISS and the boy got only3-because, the principal said she took it to an "extreme" adn the injuries were so great. He said he couldn't understand my sweet little girl reacting like that-said it was like an "alien took over her body and came out on that boy). I told him she did exactly what I had taught her to do and she would serve her days in ISS but would not be punished at home. My husband and I were upset because she was punished more, so we went to the school for two days straight...she ended up only serving 3 days. The point is, I tell her don't wait until you have an eye put out or until someone beats your face in, you better take up for yourself if you are backed in a corner, attacked, or you feel you are in real danger of getting hurt. Needless to say, that boy has never thrown another rock at her or anyone else.
Bravo mom for teaching your daughter how to fight for herself. (The Mechanics and the Morals of fighting!) and double Bravo for standing up for your daughter. She didn't deserve MORE ISS's than that boy. The principal should've given them the same amount, I notice he didn't raise the rock throwers ISS sentence to match your daughters! Good for you! Good for her! He should'nt have thrown rocks in the first place, but 2 days in a row? Really? I think I might release an alien on somebody too if they tried to pelt me for 2 days in a row!
Well I stopped reading after the first page of posts but I must say this. I agree with Brooke. Run and don't look back. I spent my first three years of homeschooling in a group much like yours. No, M games, no movies above PG, blah, blah, blah. My kids, mainly my son was bullied, and when I tried to talk with the parents I was told it was our fault or that my son needed to work his problems out the the kids himself. Emotionally it was horrible on our whole family. We were judge, and persecuted without a trial. The pain is still there even a year after. It is sad to say but some of these homeschool groups are worse than any public school I taught in. We have finally found our place. And believe it or not it is mainly with families that send their children to public and private school. My ds has only a few homeschool "friends". Most of his buddies go to school. And they are great kids. Just step back and find your place. It may take a while. But you will find it. Oh and I do not correct my children in public. I feel embarrassed for the children I see being scolded in public. And always ask your child's side of the story. I mean these other parents are believe thier kids so you shouldn't feel guilty for wanting your childs side of the story too. I could go on forever, but please don't let people who tear you down and hurt you part of your life. Enjoy this time homeschooling your children.
Bella~ Thank you......This has been such a journey. Yesterday I finally decided to try another church that has a huge hs group. I didn't go to that one first because I sorta like things small. Anyway, my ds went no problem my dd well, she didn't like the idea at all. I just about pushed her in Sunday school. I did sneak in and check a few times and she seemed fine. I even saw her playing (sp) foose ball with another girl. YIPPIE.... Anyway, when I picked them up they loved it saying "Please please can we come again." I don't know if we past the signing up point for the LEAH group for that location but I will make some phone calls today. I have to say one thing that amazed me and I guess I shouldn't be shocked. When I didn't show up for church yesterday with the friend I was speaking of. No one ever called us. hmm.... Emotionally, the kids are fine. Mom feels a little more raw. Especially, after talking to her about the retard comment her son made to mine. The response later was. When I talked to my son he assured me he would never say anything like that. Then proceeded to explain miscommunication to me. How my son must have heard him wrong. I know he didn't because my son is not sensitive. I did see the hurt in his eyes. Thank you for understanding.....God is good and we are seeking different places. Lord willing we will find our match quickly. Keep us in your prayers.
