My mom is 100% against me homeschooling Everyone else I have told said it sounds like a great idea except my mom. She thinks Allissa would do best in the Christian school she attended this past year but like I said before it's been laid on my heart by the Lord to HS and I must follow it! Its something Im VERY excited and passionate about and I tried explaining that to her but she was just about "well she'll have no friends" when I explained to her that we joined some local groups plus she has ballet, soccer and our friends farm with their kiddos.
I have truly found that you cannot convince people that are totally against HSing. I know that it hurts that your mother is the one who is resistant. All I can say is to follow God's lead in your life. I am dealing with similar things right now since it is our first year of HSing. I would continue to be positive with your mom about HSing (I wouldn't complain about anything to her for awhile!!!!). I really think that once she sees what is going on and how well your DD is doing, she will have a change of heart. Even if she can't wholeheartedly support your decision, she will probably at least learn to bite her tongue. You are the mother with a calling from God. That is all that matters (oh, and your DH being on board too!!!). I will pray for your situation.
Thank you Yes dh is totally on board! He is totally against putting her back in public school and the Christian school, well its expensive lol
Time will show mom that it is the right option for you. Sometimes people are against hoemschooling because deep down they know they couldn't have choosen that and they lay those personal doubts on our shoulders.
You may need to lay down the law (or better yet, have your husband do it!!!). This is NOT open for debate. It IS what we feel God is leading us to do. If you don't like it, you are more than welcome to pray about it, and let God tell us otherwise. Other than that, you will NOT talk negative about it, nor will you try to convince us otherwise. PERIOD. If she starts in, you pick up the kids and walk out. Sometimes taking a hard line is the only way to go.
Don't discuss it with her anymore except to say, "It's our decision Mom. Case closed." Then switch topics. As others have said there's not a thing you can say to change the mind of someone so opposed to hsing. All you can do is just homeschool and hope she'll have a change of heart a few years down the road.
Depending on her religious leanings, you might ask, "Mom, do you want me to follow God or follow you? Because if it's a choice between you and God, I think He wins."
sometimes you just "pass the bean dip" http://www.weirdunsocializedhomeschoolers.com/2008/08/pass-bean-dip.html perhaps as she sees how well it is working she will be more excited for you. Perhaps she sees this as you condemning the choices she made. Like you think that she was WRONG for sending her to school. MAybe you need to tell her that "Mom, you did a terrific job with me. Thank you for that. But I can see our family has different needs. It doesn't mean I think the way you raised us was wrong or anything. It's just different. I love you and I would love to have your support. However, this is our decision. Just like you raised us considering how each one of us were unique and had different needs, we are raising our dd the same way. I hope you can support us in this, or at the very least not criticize us. "
thanks again for the advice!!! Everytime she brings it up i just tell her its what God is telling me to do and i change the subject hopefully she'll come around
The proof is in the pudding. I agree with a "case closed" discussion with her just to let her know that you are NOT changing your mind. And definitely follow the Lord on this. (and your DH) My parents were very verbally against us homeschooling. It wasn't until my oldest was in 2nd grade and I had her evaluated (just as a "test" it wasn't required at this point). My oldest misses the birthday cut off, so she was a 2nd grader when most kids her age were 1st graders. And she scored 3 or 4 grades a head of where she was supposed to be as a 2nd grader in everything. My stepmother started telling everyone that they should homeschool after that. My older sister's daughter is a gymnast like my daughter (only a much higher level than my daughter). My stepmom is always saying to my sister "You should homeschool her so she can concentrate on gymnastics more, if Krista can do it YOU can!". LOL So...she'll be won over, she just needs to see it in action. People fear what they do not know.
So tonight I talked to her and talked a bit about the curriculums Im putting together and she didn't say anything..........i dont know if thats an improvement or if its just her disappointment lol but either way im GLAD she didnt say anything this time!!
You can throw a curveball every once in awhile, just for fun. "Oh Mom, not this again. Please, it's always been my dream to raise awkward, unsocialized children. Let me live that dream!"
Since she didn't have anything critical to say when you talked to her last, I would just leave it alone for a while. If she brings it up again and is still against it, then you might have to be firm and let her know she doesn't get a "vote" in this. I would not be harsh just firm. She is probably just worried because this is the unknown way to educate to her. Praying she comes around and will be one of your best supporters.
