So frustrated!

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    I have homeschooled my daughter and she is finished meeting all the necessary requirements to graduate. Husband wants her to take the GED and she doesn't want to. Mind you she has been done for awhile and will 20 in a few months. He is completely livid about this subject. Blames me for everything and says he should have never let me homeschool and that I should have gotten a real job and worked. He has never ever been supportive of me homeschooling. I have had to beg and borrow to even get curriculum. He's never bothered to ask about it, go over it with me, not get involved at all. He says I'm crazy when I talk about printing off a diploma for her. Thinks the HSLDA is a farce. When in fact he's never been to their website or bothered to read any literature about them when it came in the mail. I have never homeschooled blindly. I have spent countless hours of researching curriculums, printing what ever I could for free to ensure everything is covered. He doesn't have a diploma or GED so he really doesn't know the negative stigma that comes with it. There is I have a GED that I worked very hard to get and get looked down upon when people find out. I just don't know what to do! I want to scream and cry cause he's not understanding any of this and is not even willing to try. He just says were nuts. I feel as though my marriage to him is hanging by a thread now.
     
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    Oh Hun. I am sorry you are going through this. Something will work out. Big hugs.
     
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    If she's nearly 20, she's an adult. She gets to decide if she wants a GED or not. Does she have a job? Does she want to go to college eventually? Perhaps if you made her a transcript and your husband saw that a real live college would be happy to accept it, he would understand that she doesn't need a piece of paper from someone else.

    I'm sorry your husband has been so unsupportive about the whole thing. That has to be very very hard. :cry:
     
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    She doesn't have a job but will be attending a college in Florida after the first of the year for massage therapy. I'm just really tired of not getting support. I have supported him in everything he has wanted to do. In all the years we've married he has had maybe 2 jobs that wasn't based on commission sales. I've never not supported him! So so flippin frustrated right now!
     
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    (((HUGS)))). Well if she is going to college in Jan. Then she should of filled everything out by now and everything is ok. Show him that.

    Also I agree she is 20 old enough to say what she wants. Has she talked to her father about it.
     
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    I would print out the diploma, and a transcript if she is off to college they may want to see it. IF she is already signed up, then dont worry, she has made it!
    if they dont ask , then dont worry bout it.
     
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    Really, once she's finished college, future employers won't care so much about whether she has a piece of paper saying she finished high school. If she's putting together a resume, she can put "High School - LastName Academy - Graduated, 2009", and then her graduated from college info, and that will be more than sufficient.

    It seems to me, getting accepted into a college is a major accomplishment and shows that you did a good job! And I agree, she's 20 years old and old enough to make up her own mind about whether she wants to bother with a GED or not. I'm sorry your husband is giving you such a hard time about it :(
     
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    ((hugs))

    When we know we've put all our heart and energy into educating our children, it really hurts when our spouses and family do not support us or have faith in our ability. So sorry your husband is giving you such a hard time.
     
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    Is she still living at home? If so, then adult or not I think you can ask her to take the GED to appease her Dad, but she can leave it off of her applications. I have both actually. I dropped out my senior year, our school district gave a couple class credits for passing the GED. That got me enough credit to get a diploma issued to me. I've always left the GED off any applications because I agree, there can be a stigma.

    Taking the test would get him off your back, right? So just do it.

    He's being a jerk, you have valid reasons to want to tell him to take a long hike off a short pier, but why bother? Take it and let it rest.

    Then tell him anyone who had the social skills of a homeschooler would know that it's obnoxious to complain about how something turned out that you didn't take the initiative to participate in!
     
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    I'd politely ask my dd to take the silly test. "Please hon, Dad really wants you to do this and he is making me CRAZY about it. "
     
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    I really think it's up to your daughter. BUT it may be one of those things that you have to bite your tongue and ask your daughter to take the test. I would still issue the homeschool diploma from HSLDA though. She would have both. I wouldn't think that you would have to mention the GED. After all she graduated from high school first and took the test to please her father. Basically as an exit exam is how you could look at it maybe?? ((hugs)) to you.

    Angela
     
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    I don't know if I would do that, because of the stigma attached to them. It is not right or fair, but it is true that it is looked down upon. It is assumed to be the option only when someone could not finish high school.

    I would let her make up her mind.

    The issue is much bigger than this (as you have admitted). I feel for you that you don't have support here (and I suspect in other areas also).


    **** Have you or your daughter ever thought of taking an SAT or ACT--this doesn't provide a diploma, but it does potentially show that a person has learned. It would be nice to do that and show people that homeschoolers really do learn.
     
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    I agree very much with the first part of this -- about support. It really puts you in a difficult position and sounds like a huge issue. You are torn between knowing your daughter's point, and that she is legally and educationally well-prepared, and yet having to live with and deal with your husband's opinions. I feel for you in having to battle this for so long.
    As for the suggestion about the SAT, ACT, that's a great idea. Both tests go beyond any GED and if hubby protested those you could tell him simply that those tests supersede any GED.
     

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