I'm finding myself increasingly irritated with the sort of things parents think it's ok to announce on facebook. One high school friend posted today that she had to pick her (12yo) Dd up from school early because the girl had "the poops." I'd put money on the fact that the young lady would be mortified if she knew that her mom had said that. Why do people have such little regard for their kiddos? Yes, we all say things among adults that we'd never say around them. Yes, sometimes the cutie things they do will likely embarrass them someday. But this is... idk... maybe it's just me. I realized that with FB's new timeline feature about to be shoved on all of us, one day, when our children are old enough, they'll be able to look back fondly over all the times you announced to the cyber-world that they had diarrhea.
People have different bluntness tolerances. When I first moved to PA Dutch country, I was astounded by how much information people shared about bodily functions that I consider to be outside the bounds of polite conversation. My husband and I were cringing just recently for a preteen whose father posted on FB that she'd started her period. People responded like this was a normal post and wrote congradulations in the comment section. The world is full of different kinds of people!
I am for keeping bodily functions within the family. I would never put that my kids had "the poops" or that my girls started their periods. I think that shows complete disregard for the child's feelings, and it is seriously disrespectful.
Good grief! That's crazy! Yeah, I'll post that my kid has an ear infection, or that they had a great check-up at the dentist, but "the poops?" Harsh!
Wow... I would think that would break the bond of trust between parent and child.. My kids wouldn't tell me ANYTHING if I ran and told everyone on facebook or anywhere else for that matter.. Personal stuff should stay personal..
My g'ma was the opposite. She had nine children, and most of them lived out of state as an adult. We wouldn't know there was a new cousin until the baby was actually born, and then there'd be a matter-of-fact "Here's a picture of my newest grandbaby...." Every year at Christmas, someone would come from out of town, visibly pregnant, and no one would know anything about it until they showed up. G'ma would say, "Well, I don't like to gossip, and maybe they wouldn't want anyone to know...."
thats facebook. I have seen alot worst post on there. That is some mild.. its sad but some people let to let the whole world know everything they do from the time they get up to the time they go to bed.
I totally agree! I’d never share those things publically; my children would be horrified. However, I don’t think we need to feel too bad for the children of those blunt and overly open parents. After all, those parents are the ones who raised their children and passed on their values regarding information sharing. My niece was raised in a home where bodily functions, private parts and unmentionables were discussed in casual conversation in too much detail for my comfort. She lives with us now. A year and half later, I'm still trying to make her aware that there are others who do not share her tolerance for all things crude. She thinks WE'RE the odd ones! I don't think we're odd, but I also don't think she or her family is an anomaly. I’ve encounter groups of people who share her views. I wonder if that is a cultural thing or if it is a product of our increased exposure to media which has made formerly “taboo” topics fodder for sitcoms. Hmmm...sounds like a research paper topic for me to give my niece!
Yeah, sometimes people get WAY to personal on FB. I wouldn't ever post that either, but that's just me.
Okay I have to agree! I think I say over and over to people not to air their dirty laundry on FB.. that is public! And even with our friends being tight whose to say who is really reading it?
IMO if the kid wants people to know they went home early with the poops then they can FB it. The parent could've simply said the child was feeling unwell. My mum never needed FB to share too much info about us as kids. She told everyone, including my best friends brothers, when I started wearing a bra and what size it was and also when I started my periods. I developed early, way before any of my friends, and went from flat to woah in six months. Mum told everyone everything, nothing is off limits with her.
I know this is different, but I don't think parents should joke about sex with their own children around. My son's father came from a very blunt family and at outings there will often be references made to someone's sex life in the open with the grown children around and sometimes the comments are about their grown children. I just find that to be rude and weird. I had a friend in the past (we have gone are separate ways) who made a comment about her very young (toddler) daughter's future sex life in a very nonchalant way. Sick!!!
Oh wow! I love this issue raised. So many times I felt that Facebook is not a place to keep people updated about the small idiotic things.
I have had to unfriend and block so many people because I didn't need or want to hear the drama and dirty laundry issues. I only keep those who I truly cherish on FB.
I have unfriended my own relatives whose FB page turned up with vile, horrible, statements on it. Turns out their account was hacked, and the culprit (another relative) bragged about it -- so I unfriended HIM. Later I read him the riot act (on the phone, not on FB) and told him why I unfriended him, and he admitted that what he put was way beyond "cute" or "funny", WAY over the line. Especially because there are KIDS who are in the friend list of the one who got hacked, including her own son (age 11)! When a similar statement turned up, presumably hacked in by someone else, I unfriended HER, sending her a private message that I don't go to FB to read that kind of stuff, and she ought to guard her account better. I'd love to stay in touch, but she's never re-friended me, so I guess she has no intention of guarding her account. I have other friends who hack each other's accounts, but when they do, they post something like "Why am I such a loser?" or some kind of sheer nonsense or actually funny or something SO coded that only the two of them understand it. There's no need to hack to post vile things. I'm about to unfriend a young friend (former student now an "adult") because he way overuses the F-bomb. Another relative unfriended me because she said (to someone else) that I posted too many Bible verses.... (like one a day, two at the most).
I hate too personal info, drama, and inappropriate language on Facebook. My children are my "friends". If they shouldn't see it, I shouldnt see it. I've unfriended or hidden those who can't keep it child friendly. And another FB pet peeve-- children under 13. The rules say 13. I don't get why parents allow their children to lie about their ages to be on Facebook.
For clarification; I have no desire to micromanage what people say on FB. I unfriend people fairly regularly without any big to-do. I realize this mom can say whatever the heck she wants. My vent was over the underlying issue: people who do not respect their children.
I feel that sometimes mom think the comment is "cute", not realizing she is crossing boundaries. I dont feel most moms seek out to hurt or disrespect their children, they do it without thinking.
