We've dealt with "mean girls" in small doses being involved in organized sports/activities. These girls in small-town MS are KILLING me!! (Can I PLEASE go back to TX???) Just this last week, I took 3 girls home after a swim event. (Parents just drop them off and tell them to find a ride home-- Who does that???) One was a friend of dd, and I offered her a ride. A mom came to me and told me that I was going to take the other two home, because they were on my way home. Maybe home was, but the home I took them to was the opposite direction, but anyway... I agreed, it really wasn't that big of deal. Until... as soon as the two girls got out of the van, my dd's friend said, "They were texting back and forth about us!" One girl made sure dd's friend could see what she was texting, so I suspect that most of it was about my dd. Needless to say, I will not be offering these girls a ride home again. My sis says I should talk to the moms, but really, I think that would make it worse for dd. I've found that most girls act this way, because their moms are the same way. And honestly, I never see the moms...they drop and run. What is wrong with people???:twisted:
Ugh! I had to erase my first reply as it was loooonnnng!! I despise dealing with mean girls and their moms, grandmas etc.
They were the "mean girls" in their day....still are... Sorry you're having to deal with this. I hate mean girls, too. Hoping your daughter realizes her worth is not in what OTHERS think of her. But of what SHE thinks of herself AND what GOD thinks of her.
You know, I've always said I'd rather deal with boy bullies than girl bullies any day. Boy bullies will tell you to your face they dont like you, get into a physical altercation and then be done with it. It's over and then every one can go about their business. Girls on the other hand, are just as sweet as they can be till you turn your back. And you never really know why they are nasty to people. Yeah, I remember mean girls, and even know grown up ones now. I have to believe it's insecurity and just plain old selfishness. If I forget for a minute that I am a mature, adult Christian lady, I would tell you to kick those girls out of the car and let them sit on the curb all alone with no ride home. and then giggle loudly as you drove off and made them wonder if you were laughing at them! Sorry, I got to fantasizing for a minute!
Pam, you are doing the right thing. Just don't offer them a ride home again. Remember in every crowd there has to be a bully or clown. I agree there are alot of mean bully people even when they grow up. Just keep leading your kids on the road and things will get better. There here in TX too.
The girls are always worse. At Emily's middle school there is a group of about six girls who call themselves The Clan. I think that is beyond awful. Anyway they are the snotty girls and nobody can stand them. I guess every school or group has a few like that. Sad.
Mean girls need Jesus too. Okay, so I agree, I want to keep my kids clear of the mean kids too, and you have to know when to do this and when not to, but I have to tell my story. Picture me, new kid in the area, 1st year of high school. I find one friend in English class, and one of her friends decides to hate me. I mean HATE!! But my Mom decided that the best thing we could do was to pray together every day before school. We prayed for her mostly, and also for me. (seriously every day of first semsester). I made other friends - she still hated me. I started to find my place, but she would still be pointedly mean. But first day after Christmas break she came back to school with the letters JESUS painted on her finger nails. It was real, she met Jesus. We became friends, and for both of us our whole high school experience changed. If I had ignored her and avoided her, we would have never been friends, and who knows, maybe she wouldn't have came to Christ that year. Something to think about. Maybe "avoid" isn't always the best answer. Now, I mean this in the most completely non-judgmental way. Because serously, I would have a hard time ever driving those girls anywhere again too!! Sixcloar I hope things work out for your DD, and you'll both know how to respond to those girls next time.
DD can't avoid them altogether. One of them is in her practice lane during swim practice. I've always to dd to be polite and nice, but to be careful with what she shares with them. She's pretty perceptive, so I don't really have to warn her about such things often.
Im sorry you and your daughter have to deal with that! I would not be giving a ride to those girls again
Ugh! I hate mean girls! Unfortunately, they don't magicly turn nice when they grow up. I have dealt with this on more than one occasion as an adult. In fact, at church now there are two married women who are just so rude to me. I don't know what I did-they were like this from Day 1 2 years ago when we moved here. Their husbands both are friendly and get along nicely with my husband. The funny thing is they are neither rich nor skinny or beautiful. I know that's a spiteful comment. I only say that because I can't understand why they are so rude all the time. I am none of those things, either, so why do they feel better than me?
Very few of the parents are friendly either. It's the typical small town "you don't belong here" attitudes. It seems to be a very snobby community. Our landlord grew up here and told us that she quit attending church because everyone was so snobby. It's certainly not a reason to quit, but we have encountered the same thing. Still looking though! We seriously need some friends after 3 1/2 months here. It's getting lonely!
thats the way I felt ever since we move from the north to the south. If you weren't born here you are nothing.
