Hello, I am new here. But I wanted to see if this was a "good fit" for me before I get too involved. I hope I don't offend anyone . I have been on the Well Trained Mind forums for a couple of months. And it has been great talking to other SAHM & HS'ing moms. But I am finding (due to my most recent post) that my "frame of mind" does not line up with ALOT of the women on there. I am NOT judging anyone. I am just trying to find a place where I belong. So this is the post that I did over there that was kind of contraversial: ["Do you want your DD's to follow in your footsteps? By that I mean: marry a good man, have babies and homeschool them. I do!!! I won't be upset with them if they do want to go to college/trade school and have a career. But I kind of hope that they won't. Just wanted to see what others thought. " I got a number of women who were almost offended by my post. Thinking that I was saying a girl can't do both career & family. But that is not what I meant. I was simply trying to see if others on there were teaching their daughters to be "keepers at home" ? Please be honest...I really would like to know what you think. Thanks
I have four sons, so I don't feel qualified to answer, but I can say that many, MANY moms here are training their daughters to be proficient homemakers. Many, MANY moms here are also hoping their daughters go on to college and start a career first. Many, MANY others want their daughters to follow God's will, whatever that may be. I think this is a pretty diverse group when it comes to traditional vs. progressive daughter-rearing.
I choose either.. because this: I want my girls to marry good Christian young men and be what God wants them to be. I have my oldest reading a book about being a "stay at home daughter".. the principle is this.. the girls do not have to leave the home simple because they have turned into an adult.. yes go to College if you want, but I want my girls to follow the Lord's leading not mine. Welcome aboard.. since I have not been on here lately.
Thank you to Actressdancer. Two out of three responders mentioned God's will for their DD's lives I felt , not afraid, but not open to even putting that in the post on the other forum site. I think I may have found a better fit I hope more people respond.
I have two daughters and I want what they want. They know the importance of being a stay-at-home mommy. They also know to follow their dreams. Do I want them to homeschool? I don't know, while I have enjoyed most of this journey and treasure the relationship I have with my children, I want my kids to find their own path and do as God leads them. Your in the right place. Here, you can speak your mind and not worry about offending. We all have the same goal in mind. Helping one another on this journey of homeschooling our children. Stick around.
Welcome to the spot! I also don't have daughters, but that's the kind of girl I hope my sons marry. I hope my sons want to be the man of the home, marry a woman who joyfully stays home, cooks from scratch, keeps house, makes crafty things, shops thrift stores and homeschools my grandchildren. If I had a daughter though, that's probably how I'd raise her...
I want my daughter to follow the path God has for her. I don't know if that includes homeschooling or being a SAHM or even being a mom. I do believe my job as a parent includes imparting to my daughter the necessity of an college education. Yes, I do believe it is necessary for a girl to go to college even if she desires to stay home full-time. Life is unpredictable. Divorces happen. Spouses die. I want my daughter to depend on a man because she wants to, not because she has to. I didn't answer the poll because I think a girl can have both. I worked professionally for several years before my oldest was born. Then I was a full-time WAHM for several years while dh was more the full-time parent. Stay at home parenting is very important IMO, but it has nothing to do with getting an education.
I'm not sure how to answer that. My first response is yes, I want my girls to stay at home, have babies, and homeschool them. But my oldest is heading off for college in a few weeks, majoring in Electrical Engineering. If I HONESTLY wanted her to "follow in my footsteps", then a degree in EE would most likely be a waste of time. So I'm going to be like Embassy. Whatever path God has for her, I will support.
Right now my daughter wants to be a clown that juggles I'm guessing that will change. If not, I still want her to get an education. I don't know what God wants for her life, but I know He has placed her education in my hands for now and I'm preparing her for college. I'm also providing her an example of a stay-at-home homeschooling mom. Homeschooling isn't for everyone though.
You know, Embassy, a clown that juggles could really be used to reach children for the Lord. Plus it's something that can be done WHILE raising a family. The last time I went to Sandy Cove, they had a guy who juggled while on a unicycle. He did an awesome job using it to spead the Gospel. And he ALWAYS had a group of kids following him around.
I agree. I was in a clown ministry for awhile. She is 4. A couple months earlier she wanted to be a princess when she grew up. I doubt the clown thing will stick around for long. Now, if she was 14 I might take it a bit more seriously.
Oh, my!!! She's got plenty of time to change her mind!!! My friend (SAHM) "got into it" with her daughter's first grade teacher. They had to draw a picture of what they wanted to be when she grew up. My friend's daughter wanted to be "a mommy". The teacher wouldn't accept it. She returned it, and told her she needed to pick something else. My friend had a fit. "There is nothing WRONG with a little girl wanting to be a mommy!!! *I* am my child's primary role model at this point!!!" I guess the teacher had been through a nasty divorce, and felt the kids needed to be "realistic". My friend said that, if the kids were high school or even middle school, her behavior would have been fine. But NOT for first graders!!!
I got to thinking about what sort of woman I'd like my boys to marry in relation to this question, and I think I want (in an ideal "momma has say" world) them to choose a wife who can be a homemaker without being resentful of that fact. But! Lord forbid something happen to my son, she is also educated enough to give my grandchildren a decent life.
What I want for my one and only DD is to be happy in HER life, it's HER life, not mine. I do HOPE that she will go to college and get a degree... hopefully without needing to work for the next 30 years to pay it off. I do HOPE that she finds a good man, and I do hope that if she chooses she can be a SAHM and if it is right for her and her child(ren) that she woud homeschool them. I do think it's important that she can get herself a good paying job if she needs to, a good man may not always be there.. life happens. I have found myself in the position of single mom once before. I struggled day and night to support just one child. I now have 4 kids, no college degree, have not worked in 8 years, and though I don't think I see an end to my marriage... you just never know. I am terrified every single day as to what I would do if I were to ever find myself in the same situation again. PS... I am not a Christian, and I do not believe that the man is meant to be the head of a household. I think that is a very outdated thought. I 100% completely agree with equal rights. My husband and I are a team, we have equal power, and if I wanted to put the kids in PS and go to work, that is my choice and my husband would stand behind me 110%. I will be honest here.. I think about how bad I feel that I do not contribute to the income of our household. I always worked and even when I struggled I was supporting myself and my son 100%, I dont' feel it's hubby's job, unless he so chooses, to support me and OUR kids completely alone.
Yes, mine have plenty of time too That is a horrible thing to do to a first grader. Makes me even more resolved with our choice to HS
