Struggling with "Stinking Thinking"....

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  1. kbabe1968

    kbabe1968 New Member

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    Boy, when it rains it pours for me, huh? Sorry to bug you guys so much....

    Do you ever have days where you just feel like everyone in your life would be so much better off without you? (no, I'm not feeling suicidal)....that you've messed up your kids....your husband would be happier with someone more organized, thinner and more on top of things? That maybe your friends really don't like you and talk about you behind your back? Etc.

    I can't explain how I feel right now....but I feel paranoid. Like everyone just tolerates me.

    I KNOW it's the enemy....but I cannot shake this cloud right now.

    Could use some prayer.
     
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  3. Actressdancer

    Actressdancer New Member

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    This is totally me, too! Oh, it's awful! I haven't really made any connections with actual "friends" since moving here and I've got myself convinced that my friends back home were merely, as you say, tolerating me.

    I'll be praying for you. I know how horrible this feeling is!
     
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    Me, too. Eight months into this move, and there are not even any prospects for friends. I'm lifting you both up and asking God to bless you with true friendships!
     
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    momandteacherx3 New Member

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    Oh, wow. When we moved here I had the same exact feelings. It took at least a year to find a couple of "sometimes" friends, and another year or two before I developed a couple of good friends. It was awful for me. Very isolating.
    I will say that "old" friends probably did more than tolerate you, and you will find others eventually. It's hard to agree with now, but it's true. Praying God brings a new friend into your life, and that you find peace with the situation now! (For all 3 of you!)

    MT3

    (I try to remember to be that "new" friend for someone else if I possibly can. Been there, done that, right?)
     
  6. wormuth54

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    I get that way too!! I get the feeling like none of my friends would never miss me or even know if I just feel off the side of the earth. Thankfully I put my focus on the kids and that seems to help a little.
     
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    I've struggled with those types of thoughts for years. It is a lie from the enemy but I understand how real it feels. I'll be praying for you.
     
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    I get this way to some times... and with all of us who have moved .... it makes it harder..
    Just remember that you loved and you are a valuable! Love ya... praying for you.
     
  9. kbabe1968

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    Thanks everyone. I do have friends...I just feel like if I ever told them how I really feel that they'd all leave me (well, that and the tolerate thing! LOL :) )....

    Still struggling today. But thank you for your prayers!
     
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    I've found when I have feelings related to friends such as these I "do onto others as I would like done to me" (paraphrasing) and write letters, call and text friends more than I normally do. It really helps to take the focus off my woe-is-me attitude and think of others. I write out motivating verses (or you could do quotes) that make me feel better to think about/meditate on while I wash the dishes or something.
     
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    This is really great advice! I think I'll try this tomorrow.
     
  12. kbabe1968

    kbabe1968 New Member

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    I've been having significant insomnia lately, well, here's the revelation that came to me this morning..

    "I have allowed the enemy to strip me of my armor. *This has left me naked and vulnerable to his attacks. *I feel heavy, weighed down and burdened. *I have been fighting the enemy unarmed, and unprotected and In my own strength. *As I get weaker, he gets stronger and his voice gets louder and more powerful. *To withstand the enemy, I need to repair my armor."

    Thanks for praying, and encouraging me, everyone!!!!
     
  13. vantage

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    I was just getting ready to ask if you are sleeping okay or not. Then when I got to the second page of replies here it is. Insomnia

    A lack of sleep can make your negative feelings very overblown. It is almost like coming down from prengancy during post-partum.
    Get not only sleep, but put on shorts and short sleeves and get out in the sunshine. A lack of vitamin D can make this all worse. Vitamin B complex can help you recover from stress like this. Also, eat tuna in oil or sardines a few times in the next week or so. Or even a fish sandwich from McD if you must.

    Take some mini vacations. For example, get your favorite drink at the drive through or coffee shop and go pick up a magazine and read it at the park, during your next grocery run. Or something similar that you find enjoyable.

    Stop in a shop you have never been in and have a look. Go to church or organization rummage sales, and chat with others. Go to the book study at the local library, shop at your nearest farmers market, take an adult education course at the local high school or college.

    Do you respect the people you consider freinds, and family in your old location? or ... Do you think they are all superficial idiots not sophisticated enough to end an annoying aquantenceship or freindship if that is what you really are to them? The truth is that they are NOT idiots and just enduring you, they are great folks and you were allowed in their lives as a freind because of your good qualities. Their quality reflects on you positively if you think about it.

    I guess I am saying when you doubt yourself this way, ask yourself if you can really honestly dismiss and disrespect all of the others in your life by these thoughts. You might then realize that they are all great people in their own way and you will feel blessed by their freindship. They are not ALL idiots after all, now are they?, and even if so, not all at once like this, timing is never that good--please!:wink: LOL
     

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