UGH!!!! I am sooooo frustrated right now. I have a friend who is single, has always been single, is 47 and has no kids. We were just chatting on IM, and she's lecturing me about all the things I "choose" to do that I don't "have" to do because I was complaining I was stressed out with my to-do list prepping for the holidays. I DESPISE when people who have absolutely NO clue what it is like to be married, to have children, comment on what I'm doing. I mean, seriously???? No, I don't have to buy or wrap presents for my kids, I choose to do that. I don't have to clean my house for company, I choose to do that. I don't have to make Christmas dinner. I choose to do that. UGH. I create my own stress apparently, and I should just not do all those things. I'm so mad right now I could just freaking spit nails!!!! UGH!
Ugh, I'm right there with you. After being on the receiving end of a lecture several times, I finally realized that I have to be careful who I vent to. If I'm venting about homeschooling issues, I no longer vent to my best friend because she works for the school district and is mega involved with band and other activities. If I'm irritated at hubby, I don't vent to my mom. I know, why can't people just be cool? I think I'm a pretty good friend myself and I wish I had a friend more like me. If someone is venting to me about something I don't necessarily agree with, I don't lecture. I try to listen and find the commonality in our life experiences. I really try not to judge. ((deep breath))
Vent away! Then pass her some bean dip. It's good for anyone who is just down right clueless. You should start telling her how sorry you are for how lonely her life is, no husband to share lifes adventures with, no children to watch grow.
I was going to say she sounds a little bitter and sore over the issue. Let it roll off of you, and not let it spoil your Christmas festivities.
When she moves from being a date to a mercy date, she will complain about how bad things are and how insincere and superficial everyone is, and then you can reminder her that she chose to be single.
It's so hard when people do this sort of thing, and while I normally would want to react in telling her how lonely her life must be, I agree that she likely wishes she had the full life that you do. Just remind yourself that you're doing what you need to, to be the wife, mother, hostess, etc that you desire to be! I'm sorry she wasn't more understanding! I know of a few people like that, but find that many try to relate the best they can, I'm sorry this friend isn't of help!
