Hey guys! I have a prayer request. It is for myself, and I feel selfish always asking for prayer for myself. I don't know why, but I do, but after my experience I had today, I thought it should be time to post something. Anyways...prepare for what might be a long post. Last month one of my daycare families moved away about 30-40 minutes away. After this week, I have another family that will be leaving due to not needing daycare anymore. I think I may have posted something about this awhile back...anyways...we will be losing major money. The up side is that we can just pay our bills with what we make after those families are gone, BUT it's a stretch for groceries, gas, etc. which sucks. Anyway, I had an interview today with a family for a 3 year old boy. I was excited about it because it would be perfect...full time, 1 child, that is all I NEED. That was, until I met the family and the HOLY TERROR they are raising! While the boy was here he kicked my cats...I found cat hair on the floor from him pulling my kitten's fur:evil: , destroyed my son's room, bit his older brother (who was also here with the family), and the worst part is that the parents barely did a thing! The parents were very interested in my biting and discipline policy more so than they should have been which really posted a red flag. They went into telling me about his fits on his brother that he displays . Anyways...I will NOT be excepting this child into my program. My son would NEVER think twice about acting like that. I have been hugging him all night telling him what a good boy he is. It really made me appreciate my child even more! The thing that made me even more mad, is that the father (who happens to be a teacher), made me feels "this small" because I didn't finish my bachelor's degree. Like I need a flippin 4 year degree to teach preschool in my home!!!:roll: The only thing I have left to do is the rest of my student teaching and a few classes, but that's not the point! Ok, my point...I need you guys to pray that God sends me a nice, respectful, and caring family. As I was with this family I kept thinking, maybe I'm picky. But whenever I think of all the other kids I have had in my home, NONE of those kids would act like that! Even my worst one would never think to act like this child did! Anyways...can you guys pray for me please? I only need one full time child, even part-time would be ok so we don't have to worry about putting food on our table. If you made it this far, give yourself a hand...I know it's long. Love you all and thanks in advance!:love:
You poor thing. Oh! I know why God did not make me a daycare worker....:evil: You must be blessed with patience! The nerve of the father, coming against you for a lack of a degree and he himself is lacking skills in the most important area, the the parenting department. Anyways, as you said, that's not the point. I am praying for a sweet and lovely family to come your way. God bless! Patty
I am praying for a good family too. You're absolutely right, if I were in your shoes, I'd rather eat less than take that boy and his family---it'd be way too stressful. You need parents that will respect you and what you do, not one that would put you down. Okay, to move on... I will pray for a good family to come with a child that will fit in--preferably full time!
Praying here Jen! You don't need the examples of disrespect in your home (from the child OR his parents!). There is someone out there who will be a great fit in your home! momx3
Thank you guys so much! I will still have my other two full time girls after this other family leaves after today, which is a plus. The parents I have, including the first family that moved away, are so supportive and respectful! They see what I do and praise me for doing a good job. They see the important factors in a good provider and teacher. I will be telling the family today that based on observing their child, I don't think he will make a good match with the rest of the children. Perhaps it will open their eyes. Thank you so much for the prayers!!!
Jennie: I will be praying for you. I know a good person like you, will find another one soon. Hang in there.
Yep, I don't think that kid would be a good match for many daycares, lol! I'll say a prayer for ya Jen!
I decided to email the mom today. I usually always call people, but I figure since she is not technically a client and with the craziness I went through yesturday with them, I don't feel obligated to call them. This is what I wrote: Hi "M", I just wanted to say thank you for letting me meet your family and thank you for your time yesterday. I also wanted to let you know that I have decided to keep looking for the right child for my program at this time. I feel as though your son may not be a good fit with the rest of the children in my care, which is an important factor to me. Also, after talking to you and your husband, it seems I also may not fit the needs of your family, which is an important factor to you. I hope you can find a place that will best suit your needs and wish you well during your quest for the right childcare. God Bless, Jennifer Sound ok?
That sounds good to me Jennifer. I hope you find the right child for your daycare. I agree with all the other ladies here, you'll find him/her soon. I just can't believe the father had the nerve to talk down to you just because you lack a few credits for your degree. He really needs a parenting class, maybe he'll realize that not everything revolves around a college education, ya know?
I think you handled that just fine, Jen. Praying that God will lead just the right family to you in a timely manner!
These parents make me think of the parents of one of Jeannie's classmates. They have a 5yr old and a 3 yr old. The 3 yr old hung the moon and stars, if you get my drift. She's allowed to kick the brother, shove him, and when he goes to retaliate he gets stopped. At the same time they will encourage him to shove his sister! This all happened in front of me at a recent playdate between Jeanne and the 5 yr old brother. The sister kicked him in the chest and the dad laughed. He looked at me with a big smile, as if to say 'wasn't that cute?' My eyebrows were raised in shock, and after the dad saw that he corrected the little girl. This boy is very quiet and nice, so it's really a shame. Don't they see the situation they are creating? Maybe I took it too seriously...
Jen you made the right choice not taking that kid. I know the "one" will be along shortly. I'm sure you've put in the request at your church to post that you are taking a preschool student. But in the mean time see how you might be able to thin things out with your budget so you can get a head start on the leaner times. I know if you ask, the ladies here will be willing to share what we do to "cut back"
Sounds good, I was hoping you put in something about them feeling you may not be the right one, and was glad you did. That way it puts part of it on their shoulders, not just that you're not accepting their son. You said it in a positive manner, which is what should be done.
I think you might have been a good influence on that little guy, but NO WAY would I take on a child whose father had acted that way to me! And if the little boy is already that wild you have to protect the kids you have now. Your email to them was very polite and professional. I think you did the best thing. I will pray for the right fit for your day program and it is not selfish to ask for prayer anytime it is needed. You can ask me anytime. I am raising my kids to be prayer warriors! Have a great weekend.
Good job Jen! I used to want to do In Home Day Care , back before i had my little Johnny! I planned to call it "Snob Day Care" and put in my policy that "we reserve the right to refuse any child care on grounds that we deem proper" that may sound snooty but I have worked with teh roughest kids in day cares both private and professional style. I always seemed to be given the hard to handle ones and though I could handle them, there was never a child I could not tame lol, prepared me for my own giggle! There was one child I left a job over. He was a terror, ran across other children during nap time, during a tour by the Director mind you! I caught him lifted him up to kindly ( because of tour in my class at the time) not hurt the other children. The child grabbed my face and scratched it untill blood dripped from it. The director just turned the couple and slowly left the room while I silently took the child back ot his cot and told him he was on time out and that it was not nice of him to do that etc. I spoke to the director about him and she said she would loose a teacher before a child... in that case I left! I sought employment elsewhere that day after work and was gone in two weeks. I hope and pray that child did not ever hurt anyone else, but I* could not take anymore of his abuse thats for sure!
Prayers your way! And by the way--you handled that couple in the most professional and Christian way! It is wonderful that you put the needs of the children before financial gain.:angel: Good job! Blessings, Shawna
Jen, I think your email sounded good and completely understand the need to find the right child for your program. The children that I had in my program that ended today, were difficult children and I choice to keep them on becuase I felt it was what God wanted me to do. Most of my days were very long and once I started hs my son things got a little harder. I don't know that I would do it again. I am not sure if I will do daycare again. Its been my life (14 years) so it will be an adjustment without it. But I now have my son to school so that will help. I also have a partime job to help with a little of the money I am loss by not continuing with daycare. But I trust in the Lord that he will help me along my next journey of life. I know he will be with you too. And I will be praying that right family comes along for you.
