What a way to start my day!! Dad lives in subsidized seniors housing and just before 8 am I got a phone call from the province (who runs the building) and said that a window was left open in his apartment, the water pipes froze and busted (it has been frigid here). When they got to the apartment yesterday at 4 pm, they had to bust down the door because the key they had (and just changed) didn't work on his door. I am told there was at least a foot of water in his apartment and that everything he owns (which isn't much) is ruined. His apartment was severely damaged along with other apartments on his floor and the 2 floors below it. I am sick about it. I'm on my way to Moncton to see what I can salvage for him (and praying praying praying that the financial forms I need for his assessment were up off the floor). As you know, dad has been in the hospital for the past month and so it wasn't him who left a window open (all the windows were closed when I was there and were closed the day dad went back with my cousin to get his coat). We don't know for sure but it sounds like the evil 'girl friend' has changed the locks to gain access and did this. Some how I have to be able to tell dad that what little bit he had for possessions he no longer has and this is breaking my heart. I'm going to see if they (the hospital) will discharge him home to me until we can get his financial stuff done and have him placed where he needs to be. Oh God of mercy and strength, help me through this.
I'm storm stayed in Fredericton for the night and will update tomorrow when I get home. Keep praying please, we need it
In the course of everything that took place yesterday, we made the decision to bring dad home with us and finish the long term care assessment from here (there's even more urgency to needing to get him away from where he was given what happened). 2 weeks ago he was considered a level 2 patient (meaning a basic special care home would have met his needs) but because of disease progression, he teeters between a 2 and 3 often (more so level 3). After having spent the night with dad last night, I know that we won't be able to keep dad at my home for long because he prowls all night and we don't sleep as a result. He's harder to care for than I was told and so my recourse at this point is to bring him to the hospital up here and have him admitted (again) until the assessment is complete. I have 3 ADHD boys and they were far easier to deal with than dad is. PLEASE pray that we can get the financial forms in place with a sense of urgency. I really don't know how much my family can (or should have to) tolerate. This will put every relationship in our house to the test.
Dad is back in the hospital. I sent him up this morning VERY VERY sick (again). He had been awake on and off during the night not feeling well and I could hear him calling out "Mom, mamma, Mary...." around 5:30 am (his mom and my aunt who have both passed away long ago). He asked me for Gravol at 7:00 so I gave him half a pill. He wasn't eating or drinking and his output has been poor. I waited to see if he would come around and when he didn't, I sent him by ambulance because he's too sick for me to manage at home. So hard to see him this sick.
I am SO sorry!! Praying for him and for you.. I know how hard having an ill parent is.. I went through this with my mom.. Not an easy thing at all!
