"If you eat your eggs, it'll grow hair on your chest!" "I'm going to use this light to see the Catapillers that are napping in your ear." "Ohhh I see Sponge Bob inside the back of your eye!" and then "Oh my, this eye has Elmo in it!" "IF you stare straight up at that corner you might see my pet spider named George with green antennaes." "Eh, You're a boy, ain't ya?" Sadly most of these were said to my daughter this year by medical professionals. They think they are funny. She worries about them often. Not about the statements themselves but about the stupidity of the adults. And probably why it is her mother entrusted them with her care! Every few days she brings one or the other of them up. "Mom, Why did that nurse think catapillers took naps in my ears? Catapillers don't even like ears. Why did you let her look?? Didn't she ever learn about catapillers when she was a little girl?" "I don' t think my grandad's brain works anymore. He is very confused.. he even thinks I'm a boy!" I'm getting tired of trying to explain that these adults are not stupid but that they were trying to play a game with her. She answers this explanation, "I don't think lying to me is a nice game." Heard any other of these sort of things?
yes our doctor tells the kids they have things in their ears, and the first time scared Donald so bad, he did't want bunnies in his ears! Couple of weeks ago I was cleaning his ears and said" hon-- you've got lots of dirt in your ears (wax) he told me the kids threw sand at him:|
Aww, poor Donald. IS this some pediatrician training thing or what? I wonder what Sami would say about Bunnies being there... Probably "How would it fit?!" The hair on the chest thing, My grandad told me when I was 4... I refused to eat eggs for almost a year. What girl wants hair on her chest?
I would love to hear her correct the nurse or Grandpa! Bet it would be the last time they said THAT, at least to Sami!
Yea the doctors use to tell my little ones they had to go see if Barney was in there. My youngest told the doctor one time her ears aren't big enough for Barney to go in. Then he told her lets see if any potatoes have grown in your ears she looked and him and said I didn't put seeds in there, are you crazy? I started laughing along with the nurse he left the room and never came back to tell me what was wrong sent the nurse back in. I always thought it was funny.
Luckily, my pediatrician has never done that. She and her staff are good at saying things in a way that calms and reassures the child, but nothing silly. How funny that the doctor was too embarassed to return to the room, Kris! Speaking of "foolish", when my oldest daughter was just a few months old, I supsected an ear infection. We had to take another doctor due to availability. Because I was a first-time mom and my daughter was smiling at him and not acting sick he doubted anything was wrong so as he was about to look in her ear he said to her in a "baby-waby" sort of voice (for me to hear) "We're about to make mommy look real silly, aren't we?". Well, guess what? Yup, she had an ear infection. I bit my tongue that day, but sure wish I could go back in time and say "I guess she made you look foolish, doctor." I've since heard from others that this doctor is a real jerk to alot of people.
ugh I've had doctor's treat me that way before. Make me want to slap them. Sami never says anything to those adults. (She did pipe up and tell her grandad she is NOT a boy.) She feels she should be respectful and so dosn't say a word to them. She will only nod yes or no to them the entire visit with people like that. But *I* hear about it for MONTHS.
The only time I felt my doctor spoke "out of line" was the last time I took both girls together. They're two years apart, but birthdays are close together, so I always took them together for their yearly checkup. Rachael isn't very "developed" physically. Last year, the doctor examined her, then examined Faythe (two years younger) and went on to explain that they weren't too far apart developmentally, that Faythe would be starting right behind Rachael, etc. I would expect that from a guy, but not from a woman. But then, she has five sons and no daughters, so maybe it's all the testosterone around her house, lol! I just felt it was not very senitive on her part to make those comments in front of Rachael like that; this year I started to take them to check ups seperately.
I hate smug doctors and will speak up to them now. Time was I didn't, but they are no better than me, doggone it!
I think of Doctors this way. YOU pay them to do a job for YOU. This makes you the boss and them the employee. Not the other way around! I'm just not sure of a good way to tell them not to "joke" with 4-year olds. I mean, Sami is always right there to hear what ever I say.
when Donald was going through leukimia stuff the hospital that he got his treatments is a learning hospital, but he did not like having all the extra doctors poke at him I had to put it in writing no interns. It would make him not speak if one came in.
hmm I was at a teaching Hospital when I was very little. I didn't know you could get rid of the interns at thase places. One of my only real Phobias is having a needle in my hand (Like for IVs). I don't remember what happened but I'm preetty sure it happened there. I wouldn't be at all surprized if it was an intern! On the other hand it was a new intern who saved my live there too.. so it can be good too.
My 2nd child (dd8) was not getting enough oxygen after birth. Neither my doctor or the nurses seem to think that her being blue was an issue. (We did, but were told it takes a while for babies circulation to get going.) The ONLY person who raised a question was a student nurse. Eight hrs. later, when a peditician came to do rounds, she was rushed to the NICU where she spent 4 days on oxygen. If everyone had listened to that student nurse, she probably wouldn't have some of the issues that she does. So, we can't make the generalization that all interns are bad. I will have to say though... I had a room full of student nurses during my 1st two deliveries. The 2nd time, one of them had been in my pre-k class the week before observing my class. I was mortified!! He was very respectful though. He put my IV in (& was a little rough with that ) and stood in the corner of the room for the rest of the time. I do think that patients should be asked whether or not they mind the extra people.
Yeah, I was two years old and the doctors couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. Finally they told my parents that they could expect me to live only 3 more days and sent us home. One of the interns that observed recognized my symptoms from a class she was taking and called after we got home.... Good thing she was there that day.. but lots of people watching everything all the time can be annoying too.
Alright I have really lucked out. Our family dr. loves when I bring in my kids... (Which sometimes I think he enjoys it to much lol) He knows that we homeschool and our dr. is a history nut and so is my oldest so that is always an ice breaker for my son. But what always makes things a lot simplier for us any ways is telling who ever is in the room you can use medical terms with my children and please do not use "baby talk". My middle child had a problem that he had to go to several different drs. and the thing that impressed not only his mom but the drs. was when he said "tell it to me straight please." Personally kids are not just kids but they are gleaning everything that is around them and if you allow people to speak "down" to them kids being kids may run into the idea that it is acceptable.
Oh, wow, Syele! Those quotes are unbelievable! I've always been blessed with really normal pediatricians. No potatos or anything like that. Just kind and normal. Here's a good one from a friend of mine in California, though. She was taking her first baby in for his first real round of immunizations. They're what? Like 2 months old, right? Anyway, the doctor looked really intently into the mom's eyes and began to explain "the plan". "Okay", he said. "We're going to give him the shots while he's here on the table. I want you to wait over there by the chair. When we're all done with the shots, I want you to run over and scoop him up, like you're rescuing him, okay?" My friend just stared back at him like he was a complete idiot. A little dramatic, don't you think?
Grrr...I'd be irritated if Tanner's doctor ever made those comments to him. Luckily, we have a very nice doctor who takes the time with him, doesn't lie, and is very gentle. We haven't had any complaints with him. Some of them are just plain stupid and obviously don't know how to handle children.
