Baby #4! Ahh!! Yup, we're expecting another baby in November! Patryk is excited and wants a baby brother, Marion isn't sure since he's been the baby for 2 years, and Beau is super excited and hopes for a baby sister! We're all very excited! When I told DH he cried and hugged me SO TIGHT! LOL He is very excited and not hiding it! lol One thing I am experiencing is...questions. lol I had a C-Section with Marion because he was in distress during labor (arm presenting and low heart-rate due to position issues). I am hoping for a VBAC this time. As natural as possible, which is somethign I have never done before. I had pain killers with Beau and had terrible hallucinations and mind trips, so I was advised to never take them again. Fine with me. With Patryk, I had to lay in the bed the whole time with only one session on the ball and that was it. Surprise of surprises: Labor was slow, so I got pitocin, pitocin made contractions unbearable, unbearable contractions gave way to epidural. It seems the natural progression now-a-days. And Marion, well, I already explained that. I had a low transverse cecarean, so I'm a good canidate, I think. However, word on the grapevine is that our OB will refuse the VBAC. We haven't been to our first prenatal appointment yet to ask difinatively, but from what I hear he wont accept VBACS. Any been in this position? Had a VBAC? I heard a Doula is a good investment. Any thoughts about a Doula?
Congrats on #4. 4 is a great number :lol: ICAN is supposedly a good help on VBAC. I had 4 sections, we wanted to VBAC #2 but right before she was due my midwife had a heart to heart with me. We talked about my delivery with Garrett, and I told her that I only dialated to 7, I had been at 4 before labor even started and only made it to 7 after 3!!! bags of pitocin (and no pain meds because I refused them), I was having transistion contractions by couldn't dialate. My midwife asked me if I remembered much and I told her I remembered the wonderful lady dr asking my mom if I was a tiny child and she said yes. My pelvis just could not expand enough to let a baby through, I would have to have a very very tiny baby in order to deliver naturally... I was determined to prove her wrong. My midwife then told me that she had had concerns from day 1 that my pelvic structure was just too small and had become increasingly concerned since I was due to deliver any time and my pelvis hadn't moved a bit. We decided to go with sections from there on out.
I did a vbac with my most recent baby...number 3! I had had a planned c-section with my second, because he was complete breech and very large for my very short-waisted self! I had to really look for a dr who would truly support my vbac, but I finally did! We did great! All the nurses, etc. seemed very impressed with me, which naturally made me feel fab! Lol! Regretably, I did choose an epi at about a 6. I was unable to get out of the bed or even really sit up without them frowning at me. I was considered "high risk" simply because of the vbac label and so the hospital required all kinds of monitors, etc. I really feel that I might have been able to go med free (tho I did not used any other pain killers) the whole way had I been able to sit, stand, bounce...anything to help with the pain besides just lay there and let it overtake me! I was proud to have gone in on my own and progressed fine with no pitocin, unlike with my first when I was induced at 9 days late. I felt that that in and of itself helped! It was a wonderful day, God orchestrated the timing of everything so perfectly! If we ever go for number 4 (kudos to you!) I would like to be brave enough to go with a midwife. At least I would try to get my dr to write orders to let me OUT of that bed during labor! Best wishes on your pregnancy and possible vbac!
Thanks everyone!! I was wanting a midwife, but DH is absolutally against it. He wants me to go to the hospital. I'm worried about not being able to move around and everything. I mean...if they were jumpy because I was out of bed with my first 2, then good Lord knows what they will be like with the VBAC. I really hope that they support it. I don't want to go on the lookout for another doctor when I trust the one I have.
My soon-to-be dil is studying for doula certification! First of all, if your OB won't even consider VBAC, I'd find a different OB if at all possible. We're not living in the Dark Ages anymore!!! There is absolutely NO REASON for you to be forced into having another c-section. There's absolutely a place for them (as you said, your baby was in destress! You may have lost him otherwise!), but VBAC's are perfectly safe! I've had two of my births with a midwife (though both were at a hospital, rather than a home birth). I wanted one with Rachael, but the insurance wouldn't pay for it (long story!). And, in all honesty, a doctor would have been called in because of complications. She was almost a c-section! I REALLY reccomend a midwife delivery! If not, check into a doula. Wouldn't hurt to talk with them....
Definitely seek out another doctor, at least for a second opinion. My sister had a c-section with her first child. Her doctor encouraged her to deliver her second child naturally, and my nephew was a huge baby! Again, he advised her to deliver naturally for her third child. She ended up having a c-section last minute because the baby's umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and he was no longer breathing. Other than this problem, my sister would have delivered naturally.
Something I read today, about a doctor threatening a woman with sending the police to her door to bring her in for a c-section !!! http://www.tampabay.com/news/health...l-police-if-patient-doesnt-report-for/2107387
Sending her an email threatening her with police action? Harsh. Too harsh. Being as concerned as he is? Appropriate, IMO. She has numerous risk factors that are definately not in her favor. She is the one who knows her body and her baby, so let her make the decision, HOWEVER I can see the doctor's point of view of concern. On that note, if police came to my door telling me they were going to "escort" me to my cecarean that I had not concented to...I would raise a pretty big stink. LOL.
