Update: her temporary space in the house will be done today. She arrives tomorrow. I'm trying hard not to panic. Hubby and BIL are working on her permanent space...hopefully done in the next three weeks or so. I feel like a newborn is coming!!!!! Please continue to pray.
Wow, I will surely be praying for you all! I am in a somewhat similar situation, except we are living in my mom's house right now. My dad passed away last year and we were wanting to pay off debt to take advantage of the low mortgage rates and low housing prices and try to buy a house, so we asked my mom if we could come live here with her, help her do things around the house that she couldn't do, etc. I even offered to cook for her since she has trouble standing long enough to cook a meal for herself (she has severe arthritis in her knees, which is exacerbated by her weight, so I figured if I cook low fat, healthy meals, it might give her the jump start she needed to start losing weight). Well, it hasn't been exactly the way we thought. Yes, we help her do things around the house that she can't do. She also ropes either me or my 5-year-old into doing things that she can easily do herself, but just doesn't want to (fetching things for her, getting her coffee for her, letting her three dogs outside every single time one of them wants to go out which seems like every 5 minutes, etc.). I am trying hard to have a heart of service, but a lot of the time I feel like she's taking advantage of me, and also I don't want to enable her lack of movement which is also a big contributor to her weight (along with the junk food she buys and the fast food she eats every time she leaves the house). She also complains about something with almost every meal I cook for her, and/or she complains about how late we eat (and I have offered to put her meal aside for her in the fridge to eat the next day). So I totally understand your fears and concerns, because I think I am living them! lol For what it's worth, we have decided not to buy a house here, but we are looking to move 2,200 miles away to buy a home near DH's family instead. It's not a decision that's completely unrelated to the above lol. However, we have said and still say she can move in with us if living alone gets to be too much for her. But since we are going where the winters are pretty harsh, and she refuses to live where it snows, I guess that means she will have to move in with one of my siblings instead.
Girl I will be thinking of ya.. Like Jackie said I been there and done that one.. it was not a easy hill to climb... yes its the right thing to do but it can be very very hard... just set rules right away and stick to them.. remember you are the mother to those children and she has to know that.. make sure dh is on the same page and if he needs to step in to remind mamma of the rules he will. be ready for the other brothers/sister telling you what to do and how to do and when to do and so on.. there will be good days and bad days and you have to know what things are more important and what battle to pick.. but have your dh let his brothers/sisters to now off the bat this is your house this is the rules and they are more then welcome to come and get mamma once in awhile to give you all a break.. remember you need family too. that is so important and don't be afraid to ask the others to step in and give you all break.. we all are hear for ya.. if you have any question let me know
