it's not school... it's daycare!

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  1. 2littleboys

    2littleboys Moderator

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    Just a vent. A mom posted proud pix this morning of her 6 WEEK old daughter's first day of "school". She couldn't wait to drop her off and return to work. :(
     
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  3. Brenda

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    What kind of maternity leave do you guys get in the USA? Here, we are given a year (and includes adoptive parents as well)
     
  4. leissa

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    Here you get 6 weeks. But I've personally never had a job where those were guaranteed paid. The company has to have X number of employees or something and I've never worked for a big company, so I don't know how it works.
     
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    Maternity leave? Usually none.

    As to the OP; I want to rescue that poor baby. What a miserable family situation, to know that even as a brand new newborn, mommy was already tired of you.
     
  6. chicamarun

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    I know so many people who can't wait to get "rid" of their kids at the end of the summer and after the vacations.... I find it sad. I hate taking the 6 year old down to the bus stop on Mondays! Though I totally need a break from her on occasion (I would like just 1/20th of her energy) I can deal with just 20-30 minutes away from her as a refresher....

    I also vent about the women who say their days are SOOOO busy because they have nail and hair appointments - seriously?!?! How in the world is that busy??
     
  7. mykidsrock

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    It's one thing to have to go back to work for one reason or another, it's totally another to convince yourself that you are excited. **sigh**

    Wish it didn't have to be like that for so many kids. Mom's and babies need to bond. I love Canada's 1 year. Even though, I only qualified for it once, my employers still expected me to be away from work for an extended amount of time. I would go back part time after 4 to 8 months. But it wasn't usually expected (they begged at 4 mos once, but I could have said no).

    Thankfully, after my last DS, we've been able to work it out so I don't have to work outside the home. It's a stretch for us. We're always re-working the budget, but for now it's the best thing.
     
  8. Embassy

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    I guess school just sounds nicer. Some women want to go back to work and are stir crazy at home. Others have to go back to work. I had all my babies in the USA and had maternity leave for my oldest. I ended up having 5 months off because I needed to take a medical leave during the pregnancy. Of course, I didn't get paid leave that whole time. I didn't go back. With my youngest I had my own full-time business and had to be back to work the day after my daughter was born.
     
  9. hermione310

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    My sister's called daycare "school" for a number of years, although it's daycare. I know her clear preference would be to stay at home (not an economic choice for them), and I assume she calls it school because it makes her feel a little better about it.

    On this topic, though, I don't relate to many moms I know that claim to be sick of their kids after one day with them. I have a friend that any time there's a snow day and school is cancelled, she says by the end of the day that she can't wait for school to kick in because it's "too much togetherness". To each his own, I know some moms are more fulfilled working, and that's ok -- I just can't imagine feeling this way myself.
     
  10. 2littleboys

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    It's some of those same types of moms who say homeschooling isn't real school. :roll:
     
  11. chicamarun

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    See even my kids drive me crazy.... that's what wine is for ;) but I honestly can't imagine "hating" being around them for very long and I know some people who do.

    I'm NOT a crafty type "stay at home" mom.... we work from home (farm=a lot of work & weird hours).... my husband is also an Air Traffic Controller (stress - big time)....
     
  12. Jackie

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    I think I'm just going to keep my mouth shut :roll:
     
  13. 2littleboys

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    Awww... come on! :p
     
  14. Samantha

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    It's so sad. I worked daycare before having my own children and this one little girl started coming as a baby and she was headed into preschool by the time I left. Her parents were in their forties and basically she was a miracle baby. So it amazed me that they would be the first ones at drop off EVERY morning at 6:30 and the last to pick up most nights at 6. And it wasn't because work schedules dictated, he got out of work mid afternoon and she was still often the last one left in the evening. The mom even commented once that they wished we were open on weekends, claiming that the girl was bored without her friends being stuck at home with just her mom and dad. I always thought that it was so sad.

    I don't get that at all. We have done whatever we have to do to keep me home with the kids, that was a priority for us right from the start.
     
  15. Jackie

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    Samantha, people like that don't need kids! And they'll wonder why, when the kid get older, she wants nothing to do with her parents!
     
  16. Emma's#1fan

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    My aunt is a perfect example of the situation you describe.
    My aunt went to college and had the nanny raise her boys. By the time they were teens, the nanny took them to their soccer games, school, school programs, dinners, birthday parties, stayed with them when my aunt and uncle went on vacations, she bathed them, put them to bed, and everything that a mommy should be doing. My aunt went to college to better herself. :roll: Then she went to work and was gone more than not. She didn't have to work. My uncle owns numerous of gas stations throughout in Los Angeles County. He also owns apartments, and a few towing companies.
    Anyways, right after my cousin filed for divorce from his wife, my aunt decided she wanted to be mommy and kept pushing my cousin to confide in her because she felt as though he wanted nothing to do with her. :?
    Eventually, he went off on her telling her that Maria was his mom, not her. Maria took the time to raise him and if he wants motherly advice, it will be Maria that he goes to.

    YIKES!

    My aunt had a rude awakening. She is now retired, her husband is never home, and her children are usually too busy for her. What a sad life!
     
  17. Mother_of_2_boy

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    These people don't need the income. Trust me.
     
  19. Jeremysmama

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    I think the problem lies in what people feel is "necessary" in their lives. They feel like they HAVE to go back to work right away to be able to afford the things they "need". They don't realize that you can live a darn good life without new cars, mani-pedis, and restaurants every night. But, yeah, for those that truly have no choice but to return to work quickly, than that is just so sad.
     
  20. MinnieMouse

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    So true. Me being a SAHM has made out budget tighter but we can pay our bills we just don't eat out or get pedicures and such. No new minivan for me but I'd rather be with my kiddos!
     
  21. Jeremysmama

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    Exactly! And we don't have smart phones, we have what my 5yo calls "dumb phones" LOL
     

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