Just venting and smh

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  1. Actressdancer

    Actressdancer New Member

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    Woman in mutual interest group (for the last several months): Whine, whine, whine all the time about money. My husband's unemployed and can't find work. Whine, whine, whine.

    Woman (today): Here are my husband's skills and experience. Does anyone know of an opening?

    Me: YES! His skills and experience are exactly what we're looking for at our company. Here is the link to apply and how to follow up.

    Woman: He looked through the listings and said the company isn't a good fit for him.

    AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

    And so continues the theme for this week - "I hate people."
     
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  3. Jackie

    Jackie Active Member

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    Yeah. He's looking really hard, isn't he?
     
  4. JosieB

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    People like that irritate me! Ya know, when my husband was unemployed he would take any job that was offered. He even cleaned the poop out of commercial chicken houses (not only stinky work but very hard physical labor) If you WANT to work, you will take less than perfect offers to get you through!
     
  5. Minthia

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    My dh never turned anything down when we needed it. I had a bil that claimed he was looking for work for 3 years. He really wasn't. That coupled with some abuse from him and my Sil divorced him. Now 3 years after the divorce he still doesn't have a job.... He now has a gf that supports him and he is milking the system. He claims that because he is a vet he did his duty and everyone should take care of him (including the government) for the rest of his life. :roll:

    If you want a job, you will find one and take anything available.
     
  6. Actressdancer

    Actressdancer New Member

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    The sad thing is, for someone with all this experience in retail management, he should be JUMPING at the chance to work for us. We pay WELL above the normal starting pay for positions in this area. And our company is very keen on moving qualified people up the ladder quickly.

    But whatever.

    I just will never understand the mentality that says a job has to be 100% perfect before you take it. [I understand deal-breakers, but "not a good fit" sounds like a cop-out while he waits for the perfect job.]
     
  7. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    Beggars can't be choosers?

    When a job doesn't match you 100% you make accommodations (within yourself) to make it a match when you need work.

    I accepted work this week (lol, I was actually hired before I went for the interview or they even saw my resume). Not the perfect job because it's an hour here an hour there, a lot of travel BUT I remind myself of the people I work with and some how it makes it ok for me. It will get us by until we move in June.

    What a blessing the people I have worked with for the past week have been to me
     
  8. MagnoliaHoney

    MagnoliaHoney New Member

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    Morons!

    People give me spaced out weird looks when I tell them a major factor into why I knew my husband was the right man for me.

    It's because, when I first met him he was cleaning toilets for the airport. He was only 18 but that was his job. Was that his dream job, the job that "fit" him? Heck no! But, he was doing that till he could get hired at his "dream" job which was the railroad. A year later he was hired on to NYC transit (subway railroad). And he was so happy and just loved that job. Did he complain about the bathroom cleaning job at the airport till then? NO! He needed to make more money, he said it didn't pay enough, but he didn't whine about it being a awful, or horrible job!

    I tell people I knew he was right, when even though his dream job was xyz he was willing to do something that many people would feel was below them, so he could have a job. I KNEW that meant he would do what ever job he had to feed his family!

    He worked at NYC transit for 15 years. Then he wanted to move out of the city (we had kids by this point) and he liked where my parents live in the midwest. Since moving here jobs have been much harder to come by and the railroad is not hiring him here. He has worked as a stalk boy at Target, for the KDOT (kansas dept of transportation-does NOT pay living wage! But, worked there for a year and a half any way, so it was a job!), and now is working as a trash man....all jobs "not the right fit" for sooooo many, but do you think he cares? No it's money to feed his family!

    What's wrong with people? This is a epidemic of my generation (30 something/40 somethings) that are so dang picky about jobs. I had seen that in my circle of friends for about 3 years before I married. And I knew I wasn't going to marry no sissy boy like that! (I'm sorry that's NOT a man!) I was going to marry a MAN who was willing to do what ever job fed his family. That's the way MEN used to be! I don't know what's wrong with these "men" now a days, but I wouldn't want them! I think women should run the other way from these sorts!
     
  9. Jackie

    Jackie Active Member

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    Like!!!
     
  10. Actressdancer

    Actressdancer New Member

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    "Like" as well! You are a blessed woman.
     
  11. sixcloar

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    I agree. Having recently faced a job loss, we were very aware that dh may have to take something less desirable than he wanted and less money than we "needed". We were fortunate that a transfer to another office worked out, though dh did have to take a "demotion" and pay decrease.

    When we first got married, dh worked 2 part time jobs as well as going to school full-time with an internship. When he lost a job, he did route sales for a magazine company (3 am mornings! Ugh!) for over 2 years until he was offered a job with his current organization.
     
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  12. MagnoliaHoney

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    Thank you. I do feel blessed, but I don't think it's just luck of the draw blessing. I think we should teach our boys to work what ever will put food on their table. And our girls to look for men who will do this.

    I feel sorry for this next generation of little girls, growing up with daddy's who have to have the "perfect" job, otherwise they sit on their bums and play video games all day, till one day magically the "right fit" will just fall in their lap. I feel very very badly for this generation of children because of that.

    I would like to know what happened to our dads and grandpas that used to teach their boys that they should work. I remember all my growing up, my father saying it didn't matter if he had to dig ditches (not that that is not a honest job, just a job to put in as not "desirable" or HARD labor!) if that was the job he had to do then he would do it!

    My dad personally, worked as a nurse (RN), while going to school to increase the initials behind his name to increase his pay, while mowing lawns when he got home from this to make a few extra dollars! He now is still a RN, but also owns a farm and keeps it working too...never just sitting around.

    I guess I'm just confused on who let this new generation of "men" think that this kind of picking and choosing of jobs when you are jobless is ok?
     
  13. cabsmom40

    cabsmom40 Active Member

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    Some people look for excuses to not take a job, instead of looking for a job.

    My ex-bil was this way. He almost had a job driving 18 wheelers, but he told them of these cluster headaches he would sometimes get and we think that is what nixed that job. He would often act like he had a headache at our house, but in my opinion it was all an act and a bad acting job at that. It was so exaggerated that it was almost funny.
     
  14. lovetoteach

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    Ugh, that is really frustrating. Especially since you have people you are responsible for. You can't always be picky. Do your best by the people you love. It's not forever.
     
  15. Amyswtpooh

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    Amie,

    We would love to know which company you all work for. You can message me or email if you prefer. I enabled email through homeschool spot. Thanks!!

    Amy
     

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