I don't get on here much anymore, my life is just to busy it seems, but I did read your post on facebook and know we are here for ya.. you have to do what you have to do for your family.
I got the meaning of your posts Mommie3 and I am a critical and cynical type. LOL I really hope and pray that things will get better for your family. Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Get buzy with all of that government paperwork and get the financial respite you need. As for you bosses wife, wow, she has a lot going on also. Sounds like she is personality disordered and there is likely a lot of trouble in paridise for her at home. I alluded to this before, pray for her and stay away from her and anyone who knows her. She is trouble, and possible in trouble, but that is not your problem.
Hey Mommi, Thought of you and your family when I read this. Pretty fascinating stuff for people with severe spinal issues: http://3dprint.com/12253/3d-printed-vertebra/