Prayers for a situation I'm not sure how to handle....

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  1. kbabe1968

    kbabe1968 New Member

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    This almost seems petty, and I'm hoping by sharing it, that I can just let it go, maybe? Been obsessing over it all night.

    Two years ago, my oldest daughter retired from gymnastics and picked up doing volleyball with a local/christian/homeschooling volleyball team. Her first year was great. She had lots of fun, made lots of friends, and really grew as a player. When she started her 2nd season, they bumped her from Junior C to Senior C because she was good and they needed to fill a spot on Sr. Teams. All her friends remained back in Jrs. This year, that Jr. team got bumped from jr. C to Jr. B and were more competitive. My daughter was going to move to a Sr. B team, but they had too many older players, so they didn't move her....adn they wouldn't move her back to the Jr. B team b/c she'd already played Sr. so she's not "allowed" to move back according to league rules.

    Well, the Jr. B team just went to a tournament yesterday and they played as Sr. C....so now ALL these kids are Srs. Too.

    My daughter is frustrated because she is fairly competitive, and the rest of her team is pretty blasé; maybe one or two other of the 7 really seem to care, take practice seriously, and play to win in tournaments.

    I'm struggling with wanting to say something. My daughter is EXTREMELY unhappy this year and feels pretty "passed over" even though they constantly say she's one of the best players. And if they have her on the team to make the other kids play up; it's not working and it's just frustrating her.

    I don't know what to do for her, it's stealing her joy of the game. I hate seeing yet another thing she loves become less joyful and more of a chore.

    Thoughts, prayers, etc. would be appreciated.
     
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  3. m0m0f3boys

    m0m0f3boys New Member

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    I would have an informal chat with the coach and see if there is a problem/solution. However, I would strongly encourage her to do it instead of you. She is almost an adult and will need to stand up for herself. I know we all get very protective of you babies (me too). This situation could help her gain some maturity/indepenence/problem solving of her own. This is a hard part of growing up. In many respects, it's the hardest. I'll say a prayer for her. And you!
     
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    kbabe1968 New Member

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    Thanks, she and I talked about it a little bit more today.

    We've decided we're going to spend this week praying about it together and making sure that whatever is done is led by the Lord and not a knee-jerk reaction.

    I think the hardest part, is 3 of her REALLY good friends are on this "dream team" and they talk about it constantly and it's starting to make her jealous/mad/upset, etc. She WANTS to be happy for them, but she's struggling with it b/c they're being so boastful about it.

    Thanks for praying with us, and if we/she decides to talk with the coaches/team moms, then we'll do that. I don't think anything will change as the teams are set for the year (until May).

    It might just be something SHE needs to learn through :) I hate to see her in pain, though.
     

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