I need a different job

Discussion in 'Christian Issues' started by Brenda, Nov 12, 2014.

  1. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    I called my employer (crying my eyes out) and asked them to cover my morning shift tomorrow morning. They're not overly understanding and don't take my client updates overly serious (when I suggest he's being neglected, they don't take it serious). I asked them to replace my shift because I can't watch the gross neglect that I'm seeing or watch my client suffer at the hands of his wife.

    PLEASE pray that God will open the door to another job. Would love for it to be in nursing but right now, I'll accept anything.
     
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  3. valleyfam

    valleyfam New Member

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    Prayed for you and your client. heartbreaking
     
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    Praying for you and for your client.
     
  5. Lindina

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    Praying, sweetie!
     
  6. Brenda

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    Boy am I slow at updating.... THAT was an INSANE day <sigh>

    The same day I posted this message, I went back to work for the afternoon and then again over the dinner hour with this man. To sit and watch my client as he was absolutely ripped my heart out of my chest. I honestly wondered if he didn't give up the will to live any longer that afternoon.

    His wife had said she would reach her limit by the following morning (yesterday) but she wasn't sure what to look for because she knew I wasn't going to be in that morning. In the end, we sent him to the hospital that night because I really didn't think waiting another 12 hours or more was going to be a good thing to do (he was already dehydrated by that time - another 12 hours and it could well have been irreversible for him). I hate to admit it but I had to be very blunt and to the point to get her to listen to what I was saying.... but she did.

    He was admitted (no surprise to me) with dehydration and an infection (I kid you not, you could have fried eggs on his legs when we were transferring him to the ambulance stretcher).

    And so I am not working at all right now BUT I'm comforted knowing my client is where he NEEDS to be. I am comforted knowing that God will provide for us as He always has. This is a very difficult time of year to be without an income but I'm trusting God to supply the needs we have. I am also taking this opportunity to apply for any job I see (actually going to apply for one this afternoon).
     
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  7. Lindina

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    And you can do so with a clear mind/heart knowing your client is well taken care of. I guess sometimes you need to blunt and to the point. :)
     
  8. valleyfam

    valleyfam New Member

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    Continued prayer for you!
     
  9. mykidsrock

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    I'm so glad you were able to communicate with the wife and help her listen. I wish your employer was more able to help you in these matters. :(

    Praying for another client... maybe with a better fit for you?
     
  10. Brenda

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    Doctor "Shipemout" (this particular doctor ships him out before he's ready to go) is trying to send him home (she tried on Friday but "Pappa" (what I call him) told her he wasn't feeling well.... usually when she asks him in the past he's anxious to get back home so for him to say he isn't feeling well, she really stepped back and opted to wait out the weekend and try for tomorrow).

    I went up to see him yesterday and he looks so frail - actually heartbreaking to see him as he is right now. Because I see him daily, I didn't notice until yesterday how much weight he has lost in the past couple months - 30 pounds since June.

    I was talking to his wife tonight and I told her to stand her ground if she didn't think he was ready to go home (his son who doesn't get to see him often because of his work commented on how sick he is right now) - if they send him out too fast he's only going to end up back in within a couple days. They're supposed to send him home on IV antibiotics but we're expecting a storm with freezing rain tomorrow so the extra-mural nurses won't be on the road to give it to him. The bulk of his care falls on his wife because I'm only in there 4 hours a day 5 days a week (her choice) and so he has to be in the best possible condition before they send him out or she's going to burn out FAST.

    I wouldn't trade him as a client for anything - he's such an amazing man! One of the few homes I can go into and openly pray with them (that said, I know he is basically palliative care and there coming a time when he is going to pass away - I know ahead of that it's going to be brutally hard but I have all the faith in the world that God will look after me as He always has).
     
  11. vantage

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    Is the wife being neglectful or is she perhaps depressed and overwhelmed? Is it possible that he is acting one way with you and another with her.

    Perhaps you can talk with the wife and see what her greatest challenges or log jams are and a solution can be found. It would seem that if the son is close enough, he might get over on the weekends to help with housekeeping and the like. Prepping meals in advanced might be a strategy.

    Do they have a church. Does their church know there is a need in this home. Perhaps some church members could pitch in and lift the burder a bit.

    I hope the guy gets in better shape. Maybe the rest will do his wife good also. Stay strong, this is a challenging line of work.
     
  12. Brenda

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    Extra mural is trying to talk her into increasing his care hours again and I'm working on her as well. I'm sure she probably is overwhelmed - he's a very sick man with a lot of care needs and she's managing him at home - Kudo's to her but she needs more support than what she has right now.

    They sent him home on Wednesday (he wasn't healthy enough to go home) so she has her work but out for her but I'm there to help her as I can and I won't hesitate to ship him back if he needs to go.
     

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