Wendy Sunshine wants to come back home!!! NO! NO! NO! She says she misses her boyfriend and that it is not what she thought it would be. Handsome begged her to stay at least until the end of January. She agreed, at the time. Then she called us up to let us know that she was flying home the next day. She wants to use a car to get to work and said she would buy it from us since she sold her truck when she moved to Colorado. Part of me feels bad because I know her heart is aching but at the same time she can't run from things and so we refussed to allow her to purchase the car if she comes back. Handsome told her she can only use the old clunker if she comes back. It runs well enough to get her to work around here. This way, she will not be traveling back and forth to see her boyfriend since the old car would not make it back up the hill. We do not want to encourage their relationship. He is not a man of integrity as far as our views are concerned. We believe that we should be equally yoked and it only causes trouble when the couple does not have shared faith in Jesus. God did answer a prayer! We prayed for her to find a reason to stay and when she went to Target the next day, a lady asked if she would like a job because they are in need of seasonal help. Yes!!! She called to tell us she changed her mind and plans on staying until January after all. We are hoping that this will be enough time for her to get used to being apart from her boyfriend. We would like to see her break up completely but only God knows. He is not for her. I do not want her to have a boyfriend at all but since she was raised, in her early years, a lot different then we are raising Emma, she does not believe in courtship and would rather date. Oh, no!!! This is what we do not want for her at all. But she is an adult and no longer lives under our roof. I pray for Godly friends and quick. I hate to even think it but if she has to have a boyfriend, then a Godly boyfriend. What we are really asking for is the Holy Spirit to reveal to Wendy that she does not need comfort in anyone but the Lord. Handsome had a long talk with her about her boyfriend. He was nervous but said he had to say something. He reminded her what the Bible says and then what her boyfriend says. He let her know that in no means was he ever going to disrespect him if they remain together but that if her boyfriend truly has an iota of love for her he will honor the Christian beliefs and values that we claim as well as encourage her to honor them. Wendy said nothing in return. I think it made her think. Handsome said he knows her boyfriend can't honor what is best for Wendy Sunshine because he is not a Christian. He thinks this is why it stumped her for a moment. I know she misses us too. She calls asking for us to hurry and move out there but as I said before, we have things that need taking care of here first. I know Handsome feels bad when she calls but he has stuck to his guns and is not going to give in. She has money saved from selling her truck so if she comes back it is by her means. So please pray she stays and doesn't surprise us by showing up on our door step. It is best for her to remain in Colorado. Although she said she will stay until January, she sounds pretty sad when we talk to her. I know she will make new friends now that she is at Target and will not be so lonely now. I pray anyway!:? Patty
Patty, good for you & Handsome! Sometimes "tough love" hurts, but your dh said what he needed to. We have an older dd in somewhat similar situations. Actually, they had the wedding invitations sent out this spring. Then the wedding was called off, much to many praying people's relief. But she just cannot seem to let go. We are also praying for Godly friends for her--and for a Godly husband to show up soon, since she's obviously not going the courtship route, either. Our younger ones can see the heartache involved, & we pray they will choose a more Biblical route to marriage. So I am including Wendy Sunshine tonight in my prayers, along with my own dd! Let's trust the Lord together to have mercy on these two dear young women.
Thank you! Your responses made me cry! Tears of happiness, of course, that I have people praying. Patty
We're praying here too! I think you guys handled it well, though it was hard! May God bless her and give her wisdom to see and understand what is best! And give you wisdom and strength and patience! <<<Hugs!>>>
Someday Wendy Sunshine will thank you & your dh for loving her enough to say "no." I'm rejoicing with you in her Providential job at Target! I hope things resolve soon & that she can find peace & joy in her situation. I hope every detail about your move will fall into place without frustration, & it will be fun thinking that you're our neigbors, when you do get to Colorado!
Prairie Home, I will be so pleased to get to Colorado. The crime around here is soaring and the population is growing in leaps and bounds. The price of houses is ridiculous. This, of course, works in our advantage because if and when our place sells we can buy a house outright and have some to spare. When we move out that way, I may have to pack up my Emma and pay you a visit. Are you the one who wanted to learn tatting? Hmmm! Patty
'Certainly am! Actually, I had thought of that already, too! Our family is planning to attend a hs camp in CO next week, featuring "Little Bear Wheeler," a historian, at Horn Creek Camp. 'Sure wish you were moved already!
Patty, awesome job! It's hard, I know about that. I'm finding being the parent to adult children is much harder than when they are young. Things are so clear when they are young, compared to adults. :/ (((hugs))) I pray she moves on from this boyfriend. Also for his salvation. For Wendy to find all she needs in Christ alone.
