One of the employees at my dh's work resigned last week. It is a position that requires a certain level of experience and therefore must be filled from within the organization. There are 3 guys that dh's bosses are considering for the job, my dh being one of them. None of the guys want the job, which requires relocation. For my dh, it would be a completley lateral move, no more money, no more benfits, nothing, but since my dh is the employee that goes above and beyond (because that what Christians should do ), he will likely be the one forced to move. This is not a move we want. We were prepared to move out of this council to another state in June when dh's contract is up. This move could hinder his ability to promote next summer when he is eligible. Please pray for the situation. I know that if the move is forced on us, God will have a hand in it.
Pam, I will certainly pray for your dh and the situation he is facing. I am wondering....is he not able to decline the position? Or is it a thing where they can change his position regardless? Praying things work out the way that suits your family best.
Pam, I will be praying for this situation to work out in the best way for your family. Do you know where and when you will have to move if he takes the position?
He can let it be known that he is not interested. He has let his boss know that there would be ablsolutely no professional gain in him being moved to that position. But the bottom line is, if the bosses move you to another district you have to go. His organization works somewhat like the military in regards to promotions. Everyone starts at the same position. No one is hired from outside of the organization for higher postions. Each Council is divided into districts with an executive over each district. My dh is one of those executives and the open posiiton is also an executive position. Larger districts require more experience than smaller ones. And almost all of the time, you have to change councils (relocate) for any large promotion. The other 2 guys who are being considered have both said they'll quit if they are forced to move, so that basically leaves my dh. He has too much invested in the organization to just walk out (and his bosses know that), so he'll most likely be the one chosen.
If he is forced to take the position, it will be shortly after the first of the year in a city about an hour from here. He would still be based out of the same office, but working in a different district.
Pam, you know I like to share these inspirational thoughts with you all, then when I just read this one, the second line stuck out to me for your situation about a probable move.:::: IMPROVEMENT There is much value in the way you've always done things. Consider improving on that value. Often a difficult and critical challenge will come along to force you out of your established routine. Take the opportunity to rise to that challenge. Certainly there are benefits to the way you've always done things. And just as certainly there are ways to improve. Take a look at the things that frustrate you, at the things you struggle with, at the things you resent and regret, and be thankful for them. Then find a way to sincerely justify that gratitude. The most difficult problems point the way to the most significant improvements. Imagine how your effectiveness would skyrocket if the biggest obstacle that holds you back were suddenly no longer there. Have the courage to move beyond what is comfortable, knowing that whatever your level of achievement is, you can always improve. And watch as the limitations steadily fall away. -- Ralph Marston
Thanks, Amy. I know that if this move happens, God will have a purpose for it. We have moved 5 times since 2002, so moving itself is not new to us. We were hoping that the next move, scheduled for next fall would be one that would allow us to be settled somewhere for a while. With this move, we will probably be moving twice within the same year.
Pam, for our first moves, we lived in a mobile home. The moving wasn't quite so "total" that way. The way I unpack, I wouldn't be unpacked from one move in time to relocate, the way you do. I can't imagine the stress! May God give you wisdom and strength and a clear mind!
My dh and I have talked at length about this last night and today. He feels that he will be the one selected to move, so he's going to approach his bosses and volunteer to do it. He feels that it might give him some bargaining power as far as a salary increase and relocation allowance. Dh is also going to ask to be allowed to live in a different city than the executive is usually assigned to. His g-parents and mom live in that district so he is going to ask permission to live there. He thinks there will be no problem with that. It will be about 2 hours from here. He also plans to postpone his opportunity to move to another council for a couple of years (unless his bosses refuse any extra compensation to make this move worth it for us). Dh's mom is addicted to prescription painkillers and was almost incoherent the last time we visited her. We hope that we can use this opportunity to be near her to provide some stability so that she will get help. I've become quite good at packing! The best thing about moving often is that you collect less junk! Things become less important when you have to move them. I am actually usually completely unpacked within a few days. I hate to live out of boxes! Thanks for your words of encouragement. Now we need prayers for a smooth transition as we uproot our family again. We will probably be moving the 1st of Feb. Good thing we homeschool.
We're praying for you and your family Pam! You're having a great attitude about it all! I hope it all works out for the best!
You really are a organized person to be able to move and be unpacked so fast. I hope you find a great house if you do have to move. We haven't moved in 25 years so I would be lost.
Pam, I more then likely moved as much as you did and I love it seeing everything it's not hard once you get use to it. It's a pain yea but what isn't. I wish you and your family all the luck in the world and hope and pray it works out for you all.
I don't feel like we've seen much because we've just moved all over West TN and north Mississippi. We were hoping for a big out-of-state move next summer/fall, but it looks like we'll be postponing that move for a couple of years. It will be nice to live close to family. My dh's grandparents are often commenting about how they don't get to see us enough. They are the type to be very nosey though, so we'll have to set some boundaries early on. I do love them, and was very close to my own grandparents, so I hope this will be good for the kids. We will also closer to our best friends (45 min vs. 2 hours), so we could see them more often. Now to find an affordable rental house big enough for our family and with a DISHWASHER!! .....hmmm maybe a pool, too... (OK now I'm dreaming!)
i'm happy to see that you've come i terms with your moving houses...you seem rather excited, and that's a good sign.. i will pray for your smooth transition and move...hoe you're family will be well settled there...
Well... My dh talked to his boss today. Dh told him that he'd be willing to move if it was made beneficial to his career. He was told that have decided not to make a rushed decision. Basically, they are trying to figure out how to make the money work. There is not money budgeted for a higher paid employee in that district. So we are back to wondering when and if the move will happen....
