Unbelievable. O.k., so I learned my lesson. I put 2 of our kids in at the local elem. public school...this after having hs'ed our 6 children for 17 yrs. Eldest is 22. So, last week after school one day, our 11 y.o. son was physically attacked by 2 boys n his class. One pushed him, while the other grabbed his backpack, which was on his back and threw him around and onto the ground, frozen gravel, he cut his hand. So, they run off laughing. Our son came home in tears, w/a bloody hand. He tells me what happened I go try to talk with the kids and/or parents. No one there...after several attempts, my husband said he'd talk to the kid. The following day he talks with the kid, after school, with our son there also, and the last words to the kid were, "If I hear that you hurt "our son" again,then you will have to deal with me and your parents, do you understand?" The boy says Yes, and runs home to tell his mom that he has been threatened. Now...she has filed a police report against my husband. We're in shock. These kids bully all the time, they're the "cool group" after all - - they can do no wrong. Any suggestions? She has also begun her malicious gossip against my husband - we don't even know her. My husand is an Officer in the military, 24 yrs. She is ruining his name publicly.
No offense, okay? Don't get mad- but your husband never should have talked to that kid without its parents there. It does sound like he's threatening- even though I absolutely understand he wasn't. Ideally, your family should have gone to the police immediately, and taken them along to talk to the kid and its parents. Your family needs to file a complaint against those boys for assault. They put their hands on your boy- it is assault. A boy threw a rock at our son as he sat out front and we filed a complaint against him. It went all the way to court. Was there any bullying that led up to this? If so, did you go to the administration?
I'm very sorry to hear about the troubles. I hope that things get better soon for you. These boys do need to be reported to the administration. The bad part about this is that your ds is probably going to have an even harder time in school after this. How difficult it seems at the time -we need to just take a deep breath, think things through and pray. I hope things work out for you.
Wow! I agree with Becky, you need to go file a complaint against the boys and you need to do it know. One more thing was there anyone else around at the time, watching like other children, does he remember? I hope you work it out soon and everything will be ok. keep us updated.
Becky's right in that your DH shouldnl't have confronted the kid, but that's beside the point now. Did you contact the school? HAs it been an ongoing problem?
I am so sorry your son has to deal with those kids but they are everywhere. I agree you guys should file a complaint but honestly I would have done the same thing your dh did so don't feel bad. It may not have been the best thing to do talking to the kid and all but I have done it before with a kid down the street. The problem stopped thankfully. I hope you guys get this all worked out.
You should take a picture of the cut on your son's hand and file it with the report, including them grabbing the backpack, etc. Is your ds still going to school? If so, have him stay close to a teacher or another child that those bullies cannot bully. Have him write down any incidents that happen--day, time, what happened. I'd agree---try to find others that witnessed the unprovoked attack. Sorry you have to go through this! I hope it gets worked out soon!
Kids are absolutely cruel! 1) Go to the school administrator and address your concerns with them about the bullying (did you not say this took place at school? Where was the adult supervision - why was it allowed to happen?) 2) If the injuries are still fresh I would take pictures, but I would go a step further and get it documented with a doctor's visit (if it isn't going to cost too much) 3) File a report against the mother whose out to stir up trouble for you - defamation of character on her, charge her child/her for assault on your child. I wouldn't take that off of anyone. I hate seeing a child being bullied (we've travelled this road too many times). We taught Andrew to stand up to the bully - not to fight with them (wish he would have heard that part) but to walk away from it. We tried to teach him not to react - while he's doing better at it, it hasn't been an easy road for him. Is driving him to and from school an option? What about bringing him home again? Don't wish this on anyone and hope that it's resolved quickly for all involved. {{{Hugs}}} to your son for coming home and having the courage to tell you (instead of trying to hide it by being the tough guy).
I never had to deal with children bullying but have delt with a few misbehaviors. I alway end my conversations by saying you don't like what I say, then get your parents and I will speak to them. With some, I have followed them home and spoken to the parents, which is like talking to the children. Are you military? You said your husband is an officer. Can his command help in anyway?
Yes, it's been an ongoing issue...with this small group of boys excl. son, and name-calling. Our son isn't very athletic, and he has glasses & braces, he's also soft-spoken, non-aggessive (an easy target for bullies).
Unfortunately, we thought we'd talk w/the boy and it would be a "done deal", as some other boys I've spoken with have apologized, and are nice now. As for the wound... it's healed up quite a bit, wish I would've taken pictures immediately. I have told him to document anything else. So, sad. I am "done" with public elem. schools ! At this point, we wanted to take him out of the school, but son doesn't want to, he wants to finish.
Hindsight is 20/20. We usually don't run to the police, but try to handle issues ourselves. Not anymore. It clearly is assault. The school is presently questioning the 2 boys who did it, as well as our son & his sister (age 9) who were there. There has been bullying, as this group of boys, excl. son, and name-calling. There have been 2 other incidents of knocking son down, one time his glasses flew off, couldn't find them. We talked with those boys, and they are now friendly. Currently, these are 2 different boys of the group.
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this... it isn't fair and I hope they are held accountable for it
We'll be praying for you, that's just sad that had to happen! Please keep us updated on how things go!
