Ok...I shouldn't be so selfish. And I suppose the first of the three is was not wrecked. Ok...let's recap... Mother's day 2005: I gave birth. yea, yea, cute and all and the best gift...blah, blah, blah. lol. But I was stuck in a hospital bed! lol. Wait...maybe that wasn't so bad. Mother's day 2006: My mil had the brillent idea of getting together with me and my family and her dd and her family. Guess who did all the cooking, cleaning up and the work???? YEP! The three of us. The kids played. I am the only one with a husband and he did grill...but that was it. He played. Mother's day 2007: We will be celebrating my dd's 2nd birthday. Her birthday is Tuesday the 8th. I was going to have a party on Sat. the 12th. However, that friday is the teen all nighter...which I will be at ALL ALL NIGHT. From 7pm-7am! Only to come home to my dh getting ready to go to work! When will I sleep? NEVER. Now, I am looking forward to the all nighter...it is the day after I am not. so...I am not having a party on that Saturday. Besides that my mom can't come that day. And if you know anything about my family...dh's family...my parents will be the only ones coming anyway. I didn't invite anyone else. I didn't want to compromise Mother's Day for others. Anyway...so I am having the party on the 13th...Mother's Day. Guess who will be doing everything? ME! ME! Now, normally I love birthday parties and playing hostess. However, I have to do a party and humor my own mom (ohhh bad attitude..I do love her) on the same day. Ok..now that I feel like a spoiled brat...and see that in written form I am being stupid...I thank you! I feel better. Kinda. You see, being without a car for most of this year (do have it now...yippy) and being home all the time and my dh working 12 hours a day...church is twice on sunday...and I serve most of it...Saturdays are spent doing errands mosty since i didn't have a car. UGH...I have been giving, giving, cleaning, folding laundry, changing diapers, grocery shopping, and everything else with NO break. I guess I should be more grateful. I KNOW I should not let this get to me. I just feel unappreciated. I know...I know.... I just want to be about me for a day. LOL. So, who knows if that will happen. My dh is working a ton and needs a break himself. I am just hoping that he will be ok with spending money we don't have to take a small inexpensive trip..only us...on his next vacation. lol. Would that a be so bad? I mean I could go for a few days for about $500. $500 won't make or break us...so isn't ok to go away? I don't think he will approve to spending any money since we need a new roof we can't afford. but I think it is worth it. I have not mentioned this idea to him. If he rejects it I know I will take it personally right now..so I don't want to risk me saying something stupid. lol. So...tell me if am being stupid.
Go-Go-Go... Absolutely...and have an awesome mini-vacation. What cruddy Mother's days. Just GO --with my blessings--ha ha
Well I feel for you, on the day of the party can you have it in the early afternoon then turn the evening into a mother's day celebration and go out to eat?? That way you both win. For the last few years we have been having mothers day dinner at a mexican resturant it only cost a little more than going to Mc Donalds!!
Ava girl you better go on that mini vacation!! At some point you just need "me" time ya know? I think $500 would be a cheap price to pay for sanity! Explain to your dh how very important it is for you. A new roof (at least in my opinion) would have to wait! I really hope your mother's day turns out good for you anyway! Big hugs here!
Ava -go have the mini vacation and while your at it have a few peaceful moments for me lol. You know sometimes we think too much of others and not enough of ourselves - thats what being mom is all about ,but if your pulling your hair out and tired your not going to be any good to anyone. Hugs !!!!
Who will watch the kids if you go? If you can figure that one out, then BE SELFISH AND GO!!! Marriages NEED that time to regroup and reconnect! It makes for stronger families! We will have ALL THREE KIDS AT CAMP this summer for a week! I am really looking forward to that!
Becky it is often heard of but hardly ever experienced by women. It is where a husband and wife go off somewhere - get this - WITHOUT the kids! I know, I know it is very shocking and can seem overwhelming at first. BUT once you try this new experience you will love it I promise! LOL!
My DH and I can't even go out for dinner with out talking about the kids. Take your mini vacation and DON"T feel guilty.
Take the vacation, sounds like you need it. And get hubby on here and we will give himn suggestions on how to make your day special even with all you have going on. No matter what, find some "me" time.
Becky, you are funny! Keep in mind that for 10 years of marriage my dh and I have NEVER gone anywhere on vacation....with or without kids! My parents have taken my kids for the weekend...before the toddler. lol. When we first got married we went for a weekend with my parents. Other than that NOTHING. This August will be our 10th anniversary...I really want to do this. When my dh comes home I will ask his opinion. I know he will want to go....I just don't know if he will spend the money. I better get selling on ebay again! lol. Of course, I will ask him about spending money the day gas goes up to $3.18! UGH! lol. So for 10 years no vacation...no honeymoon...I was preggers when I got married....so the honeymoon was going to wait and then never happened. For the past 2 years...since Alyssa, not even a night alone. I know I shouldn't complain. I know. I am very grateful for my family. But right now...my brain is fried. lol. Maybe I just grew up spoiled. We travelled ALOT when I was growing up.
Ava it is perfectly natural to want some time for yourself with your hubby! Please don't beat yourself up about it. Sounds to me like you deserve a break. In my marriage it has never been just dh and I. We both already each had one child when we met and we were never alone! A relationship needs that special time for just the two of you to rejuvinate. Then you go back to the kids feeling so much more rested!
That's true, you HAVE to take a break sometime or you're no good for your family or yourself! Stressing out and a fried brain is not healthy. I remember once, before children, when dh and I did that thing---the "break" thing. As I recall, it was GREAT!!! PLEASE GO! GO, GO, GO!!! Maybe you can show these messages to dh! Really, for your sanity (and his) you NEED a break! It is NOT selfish, or babyish or whiny, it's a VERY smart move. It helps you rejuvenate and you can get back to things with a more positive attitude! Maybe you can ask dh if you guys can (from now on, forever!) set aside a little bit every month, and once a year, at least, do something, go somewhere, with just the two of you! Best wishes hon! HUGS to you! Let us know what happens!!! (If he doesn't take you somewhere, I'll just have to kidnap you and take you with me to Kenya, or somewhere, for a mission trip!!! Okay?!)
My friend finally took a long, over due vacation. She left her family at home and rented a small motor home and drove around California alone, for two weeks. She missed her family but her husband knew she needed time alone. He gave her his blessings and sent her on her way. At the end of her vacation, her husband met her at the lake for the last two days. She came back refreshed and blessed. She was able to spend time focusing upon the Lord and just getting it together again. Sometimes being a wife and mom can really take a toll. We need alone time. Patty
I am with Becky, 100 percent what is that? I don't know what a break is.... Ava Rose yes the price of gas is up but have you thought of just getting a local motel for a couple of nights that's a mini one I would say..
Ava Rose, Maumee Bay State Park isn't far from you, and I think they have a lovely lodge! You know, for our tenth anniversary, Carl and I got a cabin at a state park for a week. He and I went up on Sunday, and the kids spent two night with my cousin. Then on Tuesday, my parents brought the kids down to where we were and they spent the rest of the week in the cabin with us.
