A fresh breath of air...

Discussion in 'Homeschooling' started by crazymama, Jul 25, 2011.

  1. crazymama

    crazymama Active Member

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    So any of you who have been around a while know the struggles I have faced with my oldest.

    Last week we sent him off to camp and a new light started to glimmer in my soul. Then the light was puffed out on Tuesday night when they called us to come get him, he was sick (all of my kids had been sick, I kind of figured he would not make it through the week). We went to pick him up and Wednesday, hubby and I laid down the new rules of our house. Things went well sort of for Wednesday but by Thursday life was a nightmare again. Looking back, Wednesday he probably was still fairly sick and that would explain him following the rules quite well. I went back to screaming mom, and was the other kids started to act up again as well. Friday we got confirmation that he could go back to camp this week (it's a week long boyscout camp) to earn the badges he was already working on there.

    Sunday as we were getting ready to go, hubby said "I think you should just send him back to PS next year. I can already see you lightening up knowing you won't have to fight with him for a week. You were so much happier when he was gone those few days." Sadly, he was right. And, well, Garrett asked a while back to go back to PS NEXT year (as in 8th grade) and ever since then I have thought maybe I should just send him back now and regain my sanity.

    I'm not a quitter, and I hate to admit defeat, so I kept trying so hard to struggle along with this kid. But I have decided to raise the white flags, lay down my guns and request a peace treaty. I spent yesterday running around from store to store to find all the supplies that is on the list of things needed for 7th grade in the PS here. Garrett's best friend is estatic that Garrett will be in school with him (his mom is who gave me the shopping list, which was CRAZY by the way), and Garrett I think will be happy too (he doesn't know yet, though he did hear hubby and I talking about getting the supply list from our friend).

    I am at peace with this. I wasn't ready to say that I couldn't do it before when he went back, I should never have been so stubborn. My only concern is the fact that they use TERC math.. and it's a nightmare! I have thought about keeping him going with TT outside of school, but I have decided I need to not even bother, he will be fine and that is that.

    Today Rylee, Reagan and I started Sonlight core A. It was nice to sit down and read with them and not have to be constantly getting up to tell Garrett what he should be doing. Cameron even flopped on my bead while we read, though it was kind of hard to read about the dinosaurs over Cameron's dinosaur roars.. it was still enjoyable. I have missed school being enjoyable!!!
     
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  3. azhomeschooler

    azhomeschooler New Member

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    I am glad you are at peace over this difficult decision that you have fought long and hard making. I hope all goes well and works out wonderfully.
     
  4. mom_2_3

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    Also glad you are at peace with this decision. Wishing you a good year ahead! :)
     
  5. Brooke

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    Either way, making those decisions are some of the toughest we go through as parents. I've been on both sides of the coin, too.

    Does your state allow you to "dual enroll"? By that I mean can you have him in PS for everything except math? I have friends who have used that option for much the same reason.
     
  6. Ohio Mom

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    I too, have a ds that I need a breathe of fresh air every once in a while. Last year we decided to use ACE curriculum. That was the best thing I could of done. Not so much problems with his school. We are still working on other areas. I have wanted to send ds back to public school, but we live in the inter-city, not a good idea and dh said NO!

    My oldest son drives a semi, so knowing that I was in need of a break, he has taken him on the road with him. He has been gone for 1 week and will be gone another 2. It has given all of us the much needed break.

    The Lord is so GOOD that He gives me these breaks when He knows I need them:)
     
  7. crazymama

    crazymama Active Member

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    Thanks everyone.

    Brooke, no we can't dual enroll here, and really I'm not sure I would want to bring the stress back on myself anyway. I am giving homework over to hubby to deal with.

    OhioM, I thought about doing one of the cybers, but the more I thought about it, I really just need my space away from him (and in all honesty, he needs his space away from me. We simply don't get along, no matter how hard we try). Our schools are not great, though they seem to do ok on state testing, they have many other issues (and of course I'm talking of other things than academics).
     
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    I pray God will bless you all in this decision. I know having peace about it makes a huge difference. And please, although you haven't said you do, don't ever feel like you have failed with him... God simply has other plans. (((Big hugs)))
     
  9. crazymama

    crazymama Active Member

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    Stephanie, it took me a LONG time to decide it wasn't me that was causing things to not work out, and that I wasn't failing at what I was trying to do. I think when I stepped back and realized that the other kids are thriving being home, and accepted that as a fact, I was able to realize that it wasn't me.
     
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    I am so glad to hear that.... there is no doubt that HSing isn't for every family or even every child. I am happy that God has given you assurance that you're making the right decision for him. :)
     
  11. TryingMyBest

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    that is my biggest PRO for Public School - is that that by the end of the day i want to be friends with my kids :) We did first ever school for a month (it was summer school). I like how me and him were best friends when he came back with lost of stories to tell :)
     
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  12. Jo Anna

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    I know this was a hard decision for you and you have been going over and over it in your head. I believe it was the right decision for both of you.
     

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