Christian was mad at us last night and either when we went to bed last night or this mornig, he left the house and we don't know where to find him (Tracy is out right now looking for him). Please pray for safety for Christian and wisdom for me when I do find him - he's trying to send a message and I need to be able to help him as best I can - needing God's wisdom on what to do...
Oh wow Brenda. I will be praying for your family during this trial. And that Christian is found quickly.
Praying! How old is Christian? Have you notified the authorities yet? (I know some make you wait 48 hours or won't do anything at all if they're over 18). Praying...hard...please keep us posted.
I am praying that he will be found soon and for you and your hubby to know how to deal with the situation. Keep us posted! Patty
The 48 hour 'rule' only applies to persons over 18 years old. Any minor who is missing can/should be reported so immediately. In many states, if a minor is not reported missing as soon as their parents/guardians are aware they are, then the parents/guardians can be held responsible for whatever befalls the child.
any good news yet Brenda? Sorry your son is causing so much grief. I feer the teen years in our house.
Isn't Christian 15? I would call the police right away and all his friends. We had a 13 year old foster daughter run away once and she went to her best friends house. I will be praying for your son's safety and wisdom for you when you get him home. Praying he is home soon. Beth
Praying for wisdom for you and Tracy, and that God will speak clearly to Christian at this time as to the long-term consequences of him choosing to go his own way, bringing him to a place of repentance.
Christian is 15. When I left work, I went to one of his friends houses (because Tracy said he had called another home and wasn't there). Logan hadn't seen him either. When I got home, I logged on for this prayer request. When Tracy got home (he had gone out looking for him too), we went out together to friends houses to see if we could find him. When we had no luck, I went to the police to file a missing person report (I thought I had to wait 24 hours but went anyway). They took a description of him and then must have gone over the radio to all the patrol officers. We went home waiting for the police to call us. When I got home there was a message on the phone from a social worker saying she knew where Christian was to please call her so I did. She asked me what was going on and I told her it boiled down to him not liking the rules of the house and gave her some examples. He was at the friend's house where Tracy called this morning BUT the girl who answered the phone didn't know that. Christian had received a phone call from a friend who had heard the police were looking for him (which is why he called the social worker). He asked if he could stay with his friend for a couple days to cool off. I was told by the social worker that it was my choice... she didn't feel there was cause for concern (a child protection issue). He told her he was stressed this week over a break up and rumors and then coupled with not being able to run the roads as he pleases it drove him over the edge. Anyway, he is at his friend's house for a day or two until he and Tracy cool off. I went to talk with him and told him that these are the rules of my home, that he had to follow them - sorry. I told him that when he comes home we will sit down and talk them through and try to make some comprimise that allows him more freedom without completely violating what I believe he needs. Anyway, we have some rough roads ahead of us by a long shot.
Brenda, your family is in my prayers. I understand the concern you are having for Christian. I could give you lots of adivce, but it might not be the right advice for your situation. Seek the Lord and He will show you what to do. My heart goes out to you. I had this with my daughter when she was a teen. Hugs and prayers!!!!
Brenda, I am really glad that he is safe. I hope you can come to some compromise together. I am not looking forward to these teen years. This is a really tough age, they think they know it all and they don't want to listen. And rules, forget it. They don't want to hear anything about that. You are in my thoughts.
Brenda, I will be praying for all of you. I am not sure that leaving him at a friend's house for a few days is a good idea. He probably thinks that he got his way. I'd bring him home, explain what the rules are, let him talk about how he is feeling, and then set the rules. And then he needs to stay home. After a bit, then give him a little leeway. 15 is too young to be running amok all over town. He's going to end up in a lot of trouble if you don't set your foot down NOW.
I agree totally! He is at his friends house now, not under your roof, and is free to do as he wants which sounds like what he left for in the first place. 15 is way too young regardless of whether he thinks he is grown or not. You and your husband are in charge and he needs to firmly know that whether he likes it or not. I am so glad you found him.
He also needs to know there are precise, clear consequences for breaking the rules. But for now, the important thing is that you know he is safe. (We went through this with Jason, I'm sorry to say! Unfortunately, that does NOT mean I have any great "words of wisdom" to pass on to you!)