Concerned about abuse

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  1. cowpokemary

    cowpokemary New Member

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    I have a friend who's son has hemorroids, at 7years of age! My thoughts are that this is not normal, my thoughts went immediately to abuse. Do 7 yo's get them???
     
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  3. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    Is he overweight, does he stand for long periods of time, does he have a health history (cardiac)? could be related to health issues or it could be within his diet...

    Brenda
     
  4. Jimmie Lu

    Jimmie Lu New Member

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    Sometimes straining to go #2 will cause them. Although I never heard of a young child with them I guess its not impossible. Are there any other signs of abuse? Bruises, emotional problems. Acusing someone of abuse without solid evidence can be damaging to the child as well as the parents. One time my doc told me that some one reported him for abuse when his dd got a black eye. That could have ruined his medical career. So be very careful!
     
  5. KrisRV

    KrisRV New Member

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    First of all I would check everything out and see if he has trouble going potty. My dd who is now 12 had hemorroids at a young age too. We went to the doctor and found out she hated going to the bathroom when she was in a public school or public bathrooms so she held and when she got home to go it was so big and large they hurted her she cried and cried for hours her little bottom hurt her. The only thing we could to change it is give her a softer and tell it was ok to go in other bathrooms that's what they are there for. Then we started homeschooling and have no trouble since.
    But, if there are no other signs of abuse I would check with the mother to see if he has problem going. And yes little ones and anyone can get hemorroids. Hemorroids to just pick whoever they want when they want. Just like a cold or flu. Age makes no different in there book.

    So, be careful and check it out good. Could be something for simple to fix.

    Kris TX :lol:
     
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    Mom2ampm New Member

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    It may be from a simple......

    case of constipation. I know holding it and then getting constipated will certainly cause this!!! :shock:
     
  7. Anonymous

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    I would have to say constipation too. My daughter is almost 7 and she holds it in (WHY????). When she finally does go what she puts out hurts me! It is amazing what kids can do when they have a strong will.

    If you are thinking abuse, like the others said make sure you have more than just hemorriods to go on. Some people can get them at a drop of the hat without even trying.

    Maybe look at what the child is eating or rather not eating. If the child eats a bunch of junk food and not fiber laced foods like salads and whole grain foods that can have an effect on the digestive system. Also look to see if the boy got into some extra iron sources, that can give you constipation quick! Love those prenatel vitamins --- not!
     
  8. becky

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    When my son went for his first checkup after having corrective surgery for c.p., blood was found in a stool sample. Surgery had left him contipated, and after a glass of warm prune juice, he couldn't stay out of the bathroom. The doctor said constipation , then many bowel movements can give you 'roids.
    Someone mentioned the large mass their daughter passes after she holds it- my four year old does the same thing. I worry about her skin tearing.
    When I notice she's not going, I mix a tablespoon of Karo syrup into her milk and it helps.

    And to the original poster- Please get all your facts before you do anything. I was investigated three times for child abuse when absolutely nothing of the sort happened. Did you know a file is kept on the one accused for seven years, whether or not the charge is founded? It's done to have something to go back to in case something does occur. If you're not sure, keep quiet. If you have a strong feeling something is wrong, find a way to get more proof before you act. If this child is just having a typical, child's problem, you will be creating a giant mess you cannot undo.
     
  9. Brooke

    Brooke New Member

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    This scenerio actually happened to a cousin of mine. She is divorced and her son, then 6, went to his dads for a couple weeks in the summer. When he got back home he had blood in his stool and a tear. His mother was a basket case and the doctor had to question her about who the boy had been with and so on. I believe authorities were notified and people were questioned, including this boy. After further medical examination, however, it was found that no abuse had taken place....the boy was just holding his stool until he was constipated and it caused the bleeding and tearing. So, I would not advise jumping the gun on this issue. It happens to all sorts of young kids for various reasons including anxiety, embarrassment of the location they must use the restroom, or even just not wanting to stop playing long enough to go to the bathroom.

    I'm assuming that if the parents know he has hemorroids, the doctor has done a thorough examination and has successfully ruled out abuse already.
     
  10. Lornaabc

    Lornaabc New Member

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    prayer

    I think prayer is the answer here. Not police.
     
  11. cowpokemary

    cowpokemary New Member

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    Do pray for this family, the divorce thing is tough and the kid is being manipulated by one of his parents. I have never heard of such a young child having them, it worries me!
     

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