Dd and neighborhood kids

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  1. mschickie

    mschickie Active Member

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    Dd has been having problems with some of the girls across the street. They told her yesterday she was too bossy (which she does have a tendancy to be and knows it) and that if she did not change the one girl would not play with her. Well today they were going to play a game and dd wanted to be the young animal but this other girl said she was going to be. Dd said this girl is always the young animal and she never gets to be it, I figure the truth is someplace between that. Dd tried to compromise and said why don't we be twins but the other girl said no and that dd had to play the animal part she did not want to, so dd broke out in tears (she can be very emotional).

    After she calmed down (this was after the one girl's brother threw a pine cone at her) they wanted to play a new game called spy. In order to play dd would have to sign an agreement that she would always have to be a spy (which consisted of looking in one of the windows of one of the houses), if she did not sign she could not play with them. She did not think it was right so she came home (in tears) but she stood up for what she thought was right. I am so proud that she came home and did what was right. I even let her have a prize from our treasure box. The problem is that dd really wants to be freinds with these two girls (who do go to ps) but I am really wondering if we should let her or not. I want her to have some friends but this incident kind of bothers me, am I being oversensative? What do you all think???
     
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  3. 2littleboys

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    Sounds like she's smart enough to figure out how to navigate the situation herself. I think I'd "wait and see". I'd be proud of her, too!
     
  4. Cally

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    I would have her take a break from them. Sometimes friends just need a break to figure out if they should really be friends. And most of the time Mom just needs a break from the drama, and scary friends who try to get your daughter to peek in windows!!!
     
  5. mom_2_3

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    I agree. If these girls are constantly trying to give your daughter the short end of the stick, it sounds like they are hoping she'll leave.

    My daughter had this problem with some girls a few years ago. After having this sort of thing keep happening with them, she decided to break off being friends. Personally, I think its important to let your daughter handle it at this point. She's learning how to deal with people. She's learning how to control herself (the bossiness, how people don't like that). But she's also learning how not to let people treat her, to stand up for herself. In my daughter's case, we talked about it many times, hashed out all her feelings, and talked about choices. She decided that she didn't like being treated that way and made the decision to cool it with them.

    I'd be proud of your daughter, too. :)
     
  6. KrisRV

    KrisRV New Member

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    tell your daughter she is a wonderful girl and we all are proud of her.

    I also think they all need a break from each other.
     
  7. TeacherMom

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    i agree with Kris, sometimes that break helps kids see who they like.. just saying.
     
  8. mschickie

    mschickie Active Member

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    Luckily the weather is going to stink for the next few days and then dd will be doing her standardized test in the afternoon. Hopefully the other kids in the neighborhood will be around for her to play with instead. There are a couple of hs families who she plays with the kids, I like them a whole lot better.
     

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