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  1. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    I feel guilty for even using this site anymore...

    We had to make a tough decision to send Andrew back to public school this year because of my work situation and now my husband is back in school. It has been a tough decision to make since last year in public school was anything but the best experience we've had and we fear the same situation this year (and it has already started).

    So now we find ourselves trying (desperately) to get things in place for Andrew to make it a productive school year for him and to avoid all the hassles we had last year (bullying being a huge part of the problem). Of the four days he was in school last week, he only had one not so great day (but it started that way right from the beginning so no big surprise that the school day wasn't so great).

    Anyway, thank you everyone for your willingness to share your ideas with everyone. We did benefit from them greatly.

    Blessings to all of you and we wish you the best of luck in your schooling.

    Brenda
     
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  3. Jackie

    Jackie Active Member

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    Brenda, you're not the first nor will you be the last to make that decision. You know that HS'ing is often times as much about attitude as it is about the "where" your child is at. So please don't feel that you suddenly don't belong here. You still do, and are still very welcome. Good luck to Andrew!
     
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    abcTammy New Member

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    Brenda,
    Stay, stay and good luck with Andrew. Bullies are a pain in the......Talk to the teachers and principal. I'd even threaten to call the police if it continues. Your kids deserves to learn and have fun in a safe place.
    Tammy
     
  5. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    I am completely lost these days... Unless I'm working, I'm home all alone (and I'm not used to it). I miss the time I had with Andrew to teach him what he needed to know. I never dreamed that sending him back to school would have such an emotional toll on me. One day at a time. I wish there was a way I could teach him (at home) the days when I wasn't working and then have someone else (other than public school) teach him n the days when I have to be away for work.

    We had a hard time getting him to bed last night - he was crying hs eyes out because he doesn't want to be in the school - a place where it has been no end of grief for him. Makes days like today that much harder for me. I told him if he wanted to talk to me to give me a call and he said somedays I won't be home for him to call me and he would have no one to talk to. Kills me.

    Will have to see how things go. I have been to the school many times already since the school year started and have laid everything on the line for them. I have even so much as said that I will not allow Andrew or anyone else in our family to go through the suffering we went through last year. Let's hope they heard me.

    Brenda
     
  6. becky

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    Brenda, are you absolutely sure there's no other way? I hear so much turmoil in your words, and your son has no peace at school.
    I know you have already thought of any possibility....
    As for the bullying- yes, go to the police. Tell the school that's your intention and that's all the warning they'll get. If it's mostly one kid, get a meeting with the kid, the parents and the principal, and reinforce that you'll bring the police in.
    We had to do that when a kid threw a small rock at my son as he sat on our front steps. The child ended up in court over it, too. Battery. Another time, a child made homosexual comments at my son, which was sexual harrassment. Once again, the law was on our side and the other kid was put to a stop. The minute your son reacts to bullying, he'll be the one in trouble, ( been there, done that) so do all you need to , to protect him.
     
  7. Brooke

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    ((((((((((hugs and love)))))))))))

    I wish you could feel the warmth that I feel for you right now. Please still post on here. It would be a shame to throw that kind of support away. I went through it, too, and there is always a purpose for things that happen.

    You might want to have a heart to heart with hubby about your family's priorities. Regardless of where they fall, it will sustain you if you can keep looking forward to your family's goals. You might only be using the public school for a season and then return refreshed to homeschooling.

    When we put ds back in public school, all seemed well and good at school and that got us through some really tough times in our marriage. Immediately after our marital issues were on track again, it seemed like school got awful again and ds started asking to homeschool. We were much stronger by that time and much more patient in prayer. It took several months for us to get our answer to homeschool again.

    Rember that Andrew belongs to the Lord and He will take care of him better than even you are able to. I love this verse when I think of our futile efforts to ensure our children's safety:

    Pr 21:31 The horse is prepared against the day of battle: but safety is of the LORD.

    Pray over your kids and God will honor your heart. Take care of your own spirit right now. Your entire family will feed on your spiritual state--good or bad. Make sure you are in the Word and in fellowship with other believers often. Let them help to heal your family when you don't have any strength left.

    Post anytime! We love ya!
     
  8. Kathe

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    Brenda ...

    My heart goes out to you :(

    I have some thoughts about what you posted ... you mentioned that you wish you could school him on the days you don't work. How many days is that a week?? Two? Three?

    I forget Andrew's age, but is there another caregiver who could at least oversee book work that you outline? Then on days when you're home, you could make them full days of home schooling or instruction. Would Andrew respond to that?

    It's just an option that came to mind. It really does sound like he will have no peace in public school, and I can tell how much this is hurting you as well.

    Please continue to post here, regardless of what transpires.

    Go in peace,
     
  9. Brenda

    Brenda Active Member

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    Well a consideration I never even thought of as I was posting all of this yesterday came to mind last night.

    Unfortunately my job is unionized and right now, they're in a battle with the government over contract stuff (they can't make enough money, etc). The union is taking a strike vote beginning tomorrow. There is no doubt in my mind that they will strike. The last time this happened the government almost legislated these people back to work (but they wouldn't give the gov't the pleasure of saying the union was forced back to work so they voted - reluctantly to go back to work). Anyway, the word this time is if they try to do the same EVERYONE who is associated with CUPE (the union) will walk off the job (illegal strike) which will in effect shut down the province - school's will be affected - no buses, no custodial staff, no supposrt workers in the schools, seniors living in nursing homes will have no one to look after them (the same with hospitals), no meals, no housekeeping, etc and the list goes on - it will affect EVERYONE in our province (just what you wanted to hear Kathe, right?). Once upon a time I used to like Unions but this is retarded! I like my job enough that if I didn't have to feed a family or pay bills I would do it for free.

    All this to say what? I will be able to teach Andrew for a little while anyway. It's not a long term solution but in the end it's a start. Maybe like Brooke suggested, this could all be a part of something bigger for us in the future.

    I had a really hard day yesterday. The turmoil in my writing was tears on this end of the computer. In the meantime we continue to pray for God's will in all of this. We are experiencing this for a reason and in the end it will work out, just have to be patient and wait and see what the plan is.

    I have been at the school almost everyday fighting for Andrew's rights and making sure that things are put in place to avoid a repeat of last year (and this time we have a doctor who is backing us 100%). I wrote a long letter to the school last week and spelled everything out in very clear terms on where we stand and what we will tolerate this year. I even went as far as to describe what we did for teaching, the materials we used what techniques work for him and what to do when he might get off track. I've done what I can do for now. It's in their hands now.

    Brenda
     
  10. Brooke

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    No, sweetie, it's in the Lord's hands.... :wink: And I can think of no better place for the tough things in life to be! I'll be praying for you and yours.
     

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