Would you let this person on your facebook?

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  1. momofafew

    momofafew New Member

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    I was on this homeschool egroup until just over a year ago. I thought I was good friends with the person who was the group "owner." Well, when she went to move and her internet was down, someone joined the group who was clearly a ...hate the word..but a troll. She was not even homeschooling. She claimed to have run away from her husband but did not want to enroll her children in school. She was not unschooling, she simply had run away from her dh. Then she was living with her parents and kept saying how terrible her parents were and that her parents were going to turn her in to child abuse authorities if she did not enroll her children. She lived in a state that required registering to homeschool and she had not done that. Then she started talking about abandoning her children. She claimed to be seeing a therapist and that the therapist told her to walk out on her children to go back to her husband. She posted multiple times a day in a very dramatic fashion saying how she was bawling and she did not know what to do and telling all these stories. Others called her out as a troll and I tried to be nice, but when she started talking about walking out on her children and claims that her therapist told her to, I did say that did not sound right. The owner's co-owner unsubbed the woman from the group only to have the owner come back on and resub her and then the co-owner unsubbed her again. The owner resubbed her again. I was speaking to the co-owner on the phone who said she could not figure out why the owner kept resubbing her. I emailed the owner multiple times trying to tell her what was going on and I attempted to call her on the phone as well as the co-owner. Then a bunch of emails loaded in to my account at once that seemed to be sent over the course of days from the owner who acknowledged that she had not read anything on the group but heard from the "troll" that we were picking on her, and that included me. She informed me I had to stop being mean. By being mean, I only said that I did not believe her stories anymore after she started talking about leaving. I tried to email her back and tell her she needs to look at the group and what has been said by this woman. I got an email from her where she made it clear that she had not read any of the emails or group stuff as her phones and internet had been down and she did not have time but that we all need to be nice and she would unsub me if she heard one more complaint from that woman about me.

    I was in shock. I had "known" the owner of this group for 5 years. We had spoken on the phone many times. When I first started homeschooling, she even "gifted" me some books. We exchanged Christmas cards, etc etc etc. You get the idea. How could she ignore both me and her co-owner and treat us this way without even looking at the posts from the "troll." Sorry I keep calling the other woman a troll, I hate that word, but I am trying to figure out how to word this so you know which woman is which.

    I left the group. It has been more than a year. The whole thing was worse than it even sounds. It was a real stab in the back for both me and the co-owner. The owner was somehow able to get the personal emails from the troublemaker and defend her and send us both these angry emails, yet, was not answering her phone or looking at the emails either of us sent. I left the group and never turned back. In hindsight, I really did not know the owner for real. It was all internet and phone calls and cards and such. So I knew her for reall..of course..that is real. But for all I knew, in reality, the owner was the troll and it was a 5 yr long joke on me. Who knows. It was all so weird and hurtful too. Short of the owner apologizing profusely, I have no interest in ever being in contact with her again. Based on what I am seeing on facebook, many people "friend" people to have lots of people there, not out of genuine friendship. I really feel like I should ignore her request. She has my address and if she were genuinely sorry about anything, she could have written long ago. I cannot just add her and ignore what she did. But I also have no interest in the stress in my life of adding her and bringing it up or getting in to a confrontation.

    What do you think?
     
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  3. cricutmaster

    cricutmaster New Member

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    I think you should ignore her and forget about it.

    IMO. She sounds a bit off if you ask me and she sounds like trouble.
     
  4. Jackie

    Jackie Active Member

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    I would also ignore her request.
     
  5. Lindina

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    I, too, would ignore.
     
  6. Minthia

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    ignore. There are so many people that I have ignored because adding them would only add so much stress to me. Not worth it IMO.
     
  7. homeschooler06

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    Sounds like an ignore hit to me. I have hit ignore more than friend on facebook.
     
  8. Ava Rose

    Ava Rose New Member

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    I think the answer is simple. If you don't need that in your life then don't have it.
     
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    I agree. You don't want a person like that to have access to your other friends, which is what Facebook gives them.
     
  10. Brooke

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    Very, very, very good point. I would ignore and not look back. I'm also glad that you thought that the troll might well have been the owner. That was the first thing that came to my mind.
     
  11. Deena

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    This is all very strange! I wouldn't even think about it or ask anyone else, I'd just ignore the request!!!
     
  12. Emma's#1fan

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    Ignore her!
     
  13. Sabrina

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    I, too, would hit ignore. Who needs MORE stress!!
     
  14. mesha

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    YOu know the first thing that came to my mind was that she was prob the troll! I'd ignore. I met my Best friend on a mommy forum when we were preg 6 yrs ago. She has my back even when Im wrong though. lol

    Ive encountered a few like that though! Ignore!
     
  15. KrisRV

    KrisRV New Member

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    wow! I think I would ingore her, sounds like she wants to start more trouble. we all have enough stress in our life why add more.
    You can add me I am not a troll.
     
  16. Jackie

    Jackie Active Member

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    Ya know, it's rare that EVERYONE on here thinks absolutely the same thing! We are ALL in agreement that you should ignore this lady. I mean, that almost takes an Act of God to accomplish, so you better pay attention, lol!
     
  17. singer4him

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    I'll add my $.02 to the pile...Ignore! :)
     
  18. becky

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    I think you wasted good time even posting about her and that situation. I'd have chuckled to myself, shook my head, then hit 'ignore'.
     
  19. shelby

    shelby New Member

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    with all here...... IGNORE HER!

    I ignore people all the time,,, I even ignored a distant cousin,,, he was totally weird.
     
  20. MonkeyMamma

    MonkeyMamma New Member

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    My thoughts exactly!
     

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