Hubby got his appt for his urologist appt today. He is supposed to get the big V. I looked up the dr and she is fresh out of school... I'm not so sure I'm very comfortable with someone with such little experience taking a knife to a part of hubby that I don't want to live without. I got my tubes tied, but our agreement way back when was that when we were done (4 kids or 32 years old were our limits.. we have hit both now), that we would both get fixed. I really pushed the idea because I knew hubby wanted 4 kids.. but I had struggled to get pregnant with Garrett and ended up struggling again to have Rylee.. I didn't think we would hit 4 by the time we were 32.. and I didn't want him to decide down the road that he wanted more kids and leave me because I was fixed and couldn't have more for him. I'm no longer worried about this.. and am fine with him not getting snipped. I know he isn't fond of the idea.. but won't say out loud that he is scared or anything of the sort. I'm sure it wouldn't take much persuading to get him to not go... would you go with your original plans.. and either trust the dr or ask for another or would you convince hubby that he doesn't need to get one anymore?
I would be fine with the new doctors..they have had the most recent training and tend to be the more enthusiastic doctors.
My older daughter is getting close to finishing Physician Assistant school. She called me this afternoon and mentioned how, in her current rotation, she'd found a heart murmur in a young child that the doctors had missed. Thinking about this, new doctors and PAs etc. are probably still very enthused and might go the extra mile to do well. As time goes by, maybe that enthusiasm is tempered a little and replaced by experience. Either way, you have professionals who know their job and take pride in their work. Young or old, I'm just grateful that we live in a place and in a time where such good medical care is available to us.
I wouldn't want a female doctor doing it- I'd want a male.. since that male doctor would also have the same plumbing your hubby does. It's the reason I'll never again have a male gynecologist.
I could see the good and the bad. Bad: He doesn't have a lot of surgery's under his belt. Good: He has the most uptodate information and procedures. Good luck to your DH!
If it makes you feel any better, she has GOT to be better than our supposed "board certified director" of our med center we go to. This guy S*CKS. I have never been so uncomfortable around a doctor before -but he does it! After making us wait 3 hours for our SCHEDULED appt, he then lectured me on appoitment etiquiette! Then, once he learned I was a college prof, his whole demeanor changed and the psycho kept touching me for NO REASON!! Every appt my hubby has has since then has had a 2-3 hour wait, and if it wasn't for the fact we have to see a specialst next week for my son that took over a month to get the referral for, we would so be at another dr. As it is, I have to wait until that appt and any resulting visits are over before I can change doctors. Let me tell you -- I would welcome a newbie doctor with OPEN ARMS at this point. Plus I have heard they tend to err on the side of caution more than experienced doctors do, so that actually works in your favor. Good luck!
I would be alright with it because the doctor had to go through some serious training and schooling just to get to where she is now. I also find that new doctors seem to be more cautious because they are new and they want to establish their reputation. After many years of struggling with her asthma, although we didn't know it at the time, a doctor fresh out of school diagnosed Ems. She took the time to listen to her chest for a couple of minutes. All the other doctors just ran the stethoscope across her chest and would diagnose her as having bronchitis but they never heard the asthma and these were more seasoned doctors. I kept telling them she had asthma and they didn't believe me. When Ems had Rubella, she was also diagnosed by a new doctor. He took a bit longer to diagnose her and went to his books but he was right on. She had Rubella and right after that I came down with it and was very sick. My doctor gave the same diagnoses. When I had surgery on my leg, the work was done by a doctor in training as well as a seasoned doctor who assisted him. Actually, he assisted her. He did a beautiful job. Although I have a nice scar, it is much better than I thought it would be. He really had a steady hand.
I must admit.. the female factor bothers me quite a bit... but I keep trying to remind myself I have a male gyno. The thing with my dr though is hubby has been there for every second of every appt I have ever had with this dr. He is going on the 22nd without me.. but now I'm thinking of getting MIL to watch the kids so I can go.. there are questions I want answers to before we do this... like how many has she done, and how many of those men are impotent now
My last 3 c-sections were done by students and MY doctor. I do understand they have to learn. I went to nursing school.. so I was the one in their shoes at one time too (hated nursing by the way.. or maybe I just hated my instructor?). Part of my fear is we are dealing with a huge hospital system. Drs there have to follow the hospitals procedures, they do not diagnose patients.. they type all the info that you tell them into the computer and the computer tells them what is wrong. (this goes back to the technology thread.. no one thinks for themselves anymore!) Gewnny... the hospital we have in this town runs this town... they are home to pretty much the only drs here.. in fact the only dr who isn't part of it is our family dr. We hunted till we found a dr that wasn't part of the system because you would go to this huge clinic for appt and it was litterally an all day affair. You never saw the same person because 99% of the "drs" in there are actually students and they would only have 1 attending dr on at a time, so you would wait hours to be seen only to be seen by a student who would then leave and you would wait another few hours to have the attending come in and recheck you. When you have several small children trapped in a room of "no touch"es it is a nightmare!
My thoughts as well. This isn't your primary care...so long term experience in a varities of areas is not needed. The procedure is very minor...regarless of what the men think! LOL. However, if you are uncomfortable you can just find someone else. I have a male gyno. I have had a female also..I don't see much of a difference maybe I just had great doctors. My dh has a female primary care (same as mine and a family friend). LOL. However, I must say that my dh would have felt weird about having a female perform his vasectomy. Of course he was uncomfortable at the mere thought of it..lol.
By coincidence, my oldest son (training to be a male nurse) helped yesterday with two C-sections. As you point out, they have to learn. He was joking at the dinner table last night of how he was able to strike up a conversation with one of the mothers. Someone went to call her dad and she said there was no point: He couldn't hear and he never wore his hearing aid anyway. Ahem - I don't think I need to complete the story.
well I agree there is good and bad good she/he is update bad they haven't done many so I think would want to make sure someone else was there with him if something happen. Sometimes though they are the best, because it's there first so they are alot more careful and wanting to do there best to give them self a good name. But, I do know if it was me I would want someone close by. If you remember a few years back I almost lost dh to one of those kind of doctors. So, just be careful.
Kris.. I really think I'm going to talk him out of it. I'm hoping that sometime today we can find 5 minutes of quiet to talk... with 4 kids in the house that doesn't happen that often. I'm sure he feels obligated to do it, and if I hadn't gotten my tubes tied when they were doing my last section I would be persistant that it needs done.
