Yet another reason to HS (sex & Kindergarten)

I agree about charging a five year old, but then at what age does charging a person not "continue the cycle"?

By the way, going on with the status quo does not do anything but teach them that they did not do anything more wrong than throwing an eraser in the classroom--as in no real harm done. I am not saying this without any compassion for the child, as I was abused too, but EVERY child has to learn what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in society. (Don't we all know that most parents who send their children to public school have the expectation that they will have a better opportunity to socialize and conform to society?)

The only sure way to not be abused is not to be where the abusers are. Personally, that is one of the reasons my daughter is not in public school, not the only reason, but one of them. Couple that with parental rights are given up the moment a child steps onto school property and now you have the state telling you what is good for your own child, while allowing a child, known to have abused another, be there with him/her. No thanks!

Those with authority should remove the abusing child from the other children, until the child is able to understand that the behavior is unacceptable and has shown some control, so that said child does not pass on the cycle of abuse as it has been passed on to him/her.

 

I agree Becky. I mean, if the one boy was merely playing with the other's parts, while still inappropriate, could have been just a couple of kids being silly. When my boys are getting changed, they still occasionally play "pull the pee pee" (that's what I call it in my mind). It's more brothers rough housing. And while it is against the rules and grounds for punishment, it's not a sexual offense.

And before anyone jumps my case: I am teaching them that it is never ok to touch or be touched. It's just that my oldest is only 5 and all rules seem to only be sort of important at that age. Especially when they don't understand the why of something like that.

 

That's what I'm saying, too, Amie. Exactly. I think our mind creates strong images when we read things, but this story didn't specify enough. Certainly not enough to go berserk over.

 

i hear what you'res saying, Amie. I caught Phillip and another boy "comparing parts" at the swimming pool when he was five. Again, no abuse or anything, just boys being boys. As you said, we explained to him very clearly that this is NOT something that should be done. The other boy involved is no different from Phillip, his mom is a friend. It's a learning thing for them, and doesn't need to be blown out of proportion. Heck, how many of us girls had boys snap our bras when we were 11 or 12? We would just haul off and hit them or kick them in the shins or some such. Now, those boys would be hit with a harassment lawsuit. (Now, I'm NOT saying that's acceptable, but it's nothing to blow all out of proportions, either!)