Why does it stick in my craw??

becky

becky

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I blubbered over this before. I'm still worried about Jeannie being around other kids enough if I h.s. Everything points to h.s.ing being what I should do. My husband had some scary health issues not long ago, and when I prayed about them, I told God that if all turned out fine I would take that to mean I should go ahead and plan to h.s.

It all turned out fine.

Then I developed some health issues. I figured this was surely a sign that I shouldn't plan on h.s.ing. Finally my results came back and they were fine.

Since I can't seem to let go of this friends thing, I said for God to have the school call AGAIN if that's where she needs to be.

Guess who hasn't called.

I feel like 'whatshisname' in the Bible who kept asking God to show him one more time if it was actually Him or not who was dealing with him.

I'm waiting to hear from a membership person of this one support group where supposedly they have lots of kids Jeanne's age.

Why why why can't I quit worrying about this????

And what's a craw??
 
Becky~
You're funny!
As much as I know you eat, breathe, and sleep homeschooling, I wonder how you can even second-guess yourself?!
I'm not saying this to be critical AT ALL- but you worry way too much about the friends/social aspect of schooling. Jeannie will be JUST FINE!!! Man, what kid could ask for a mom who is more concerned for her welfare than you are for Jeannie's?
Just stop "wondering" and GO FOR IT!!!!!
Just my 2 cents,
 
Gideon would be proud, Becky! :wink: :lol: ...my husband does the same thing when he is seeking the Lord's will....but he never needed to 'put out a fleece' about homeschooling. Dh knew from the get go...it was me who needed the Lord to throw a brick at me. :oops:

My ambivalence went so far that we alternated years with ps and hs :p . I wish I woulda just done what I knew was right from the beginning. Learn from my mistake :D ...I'm hoping that is the benefit that will come out of my foolishness!
 
Well Becky, I am going to put my 2 cents in. I do the same thing with my two dd's I worry all the time about friendship but they are doing wonderful and they don't want to go to hs. Join a homeschool group there are alot of young ones in there that would love to be Jeannie's friend. Do you have her in church things, Sunday school there are alot of friends there. Also, just taking her to the park we meet friends there all the time.
My oldest is very shy and could care less if she ever meet a friend or not. My youngest is out going and loves to talk to anyone. Any way do snail pail pen even if they just color right now, draw a picture and sign there name. My dd's have found wonderful pen pals through here and they even talk on the phone, send packagae back and forth, e mail they both are loving it alot. There are many ways to meet friends other then the ps.
Hang in there it will all work out. :lol:
 
You want your daughter to have friends, but do you want her to have the kind of friends she will meet at public school? I've btd with my kids, they met *some* nice kids, but mostly the kids they met at school were not the ones I wanted them to be friends with.

HS kids learn to be friends with all ages, which is much more real to life anyways. :wink:

Glenda
 
But Glenda, she's basically an only child who's not around other kids in the majority of her day.
You guys with a herd of kids don't see the isolation . Some days you might wish for it, I bet!
No, I don't want her in p.s. However, I don't want her to be lonely, either.
Her adult friends can't swing with her, they can't play with her.

I'm waiting to hear from someone in this support group I contacted, where supposedly there's kids her age. If it's a fit I'll be glad!
 
The glass is half FULL, Becky! :D If the Lord wants you to homeschool (and I think you know the answer to that :wink: ) you need to trust Him to provide what Jeannie needs. Our former pastor made an interesting statement to us when my hubby thought that our kids were missing out on stuff with their absent grandad....his response: "they won't miss what they never experienced." It is US who place our feelings of loss onto our kids at times. Most of us know what it was like to be peer-addicted and for some odd reason we think our kids should feel the withdrawl??? Something to consider. And I hope it is not coming out in a condemning way, that isn't the way I am trying to make that sound. It was just something that never really occured to us until he pointed it out.
 
becky said:
But Glenda, she's basically an only child who's not around other kids in the majority of her day.
You guys with a herd of kids don't see the isolation . Some days you might wish for it, I bet!
No, I don't want her in p.s. However, I don't want her to be lonely, either.
Her adult friends can't swing with her, they can't play with her.

I'm waiting to hear from someone in this support group I contacted, where supposedly there's kids her age. If it's a fit I'll be glad!
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why can't they? The adults in her life play with her I mean. It's fun, getting on a childs level and swinging, playing dolls, playing playdough etc. We do it on a daily basis. I know onlies being homeschooled very successfully. I was homeschooling only one for a time too. And for what it's worth? When I had only two kids who were able to play, the big brother did NOT play the little girl things with his little sister. She's been very isolated as far as having friends to do things with. Kids around? Yes. Kids to share her interests and do things with? No. Ben is 4 yrs older and a boy. Bria is disabled and very much younger in her interests. Katie had no friends and no one but adults to share her interests for years. Until about a year ago in fact.

Just as I make my toddler share with mommy just as he would with friends, I would play with her as a peer, expecting my turn, fairness, sharing etc. It's worked out great.

Glenda
 
:lol: I get to play with all my old Breyer horses again! 8) My kids are the same....dd is 6 and ds is 9...not a whole lot of shared interests there....I play Barbie's, horses, dress-up with her.....then I play chess, the occasional Star Wars video game, and share a sense of humor with ds.

Hey, Becky! How many parents of ps'd kids get compliments from older people about their children's manners and ability to walk up and talk to "an old guy"? Even if they don't act like it at home all the time, we are teaching them to be mature adults in the future.....our kids are socialized in a much, much better way.
 
I hs an only child. Ds is seven years old. While I do sometimes wish he had a sibling, and sometimes I feel guilty for not arranging more play dates, he gets lots of opportunities to spend time with kids his age, younger and older kids, and adults. Dh and are I real picky about who he spends time with, because even when he spends time with other kids from Christian homes, he can bring home a bad attitude/smart mouth after spending time with certain friends. I think how many worse things he could pick up at PS - and always come back to the fact that homeschool is the best choice for us!

Ds has a best friend - his Daddy. When they goof around playing, it's like I have two sons. I have to tell them to tone it down! They really get a kick out of a "guy night" when I go to a ladies' meeting and they have the place to themselves to rough house, watch a movie together (John Wayne, no "chick flicks"!), or just hang out together.

While I do sometimes worry about finding good friends his own age for ds (seems like all our friends who are raising their kids right have older children), I don't see any other option for school. School is about learning, not about socializing. If ds were in a regular classroom, he'd be the class clown, Mr. Entertainment, and his grades would not be what they are (great!) at home. At home, he has no distractions, he can focus and learn. Then he has time to play with friends, after they get out of school.

Becky, you go all out, 110% for Jeannie, I know she will have plenty of opportunities to have friends her age! :)
 
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