What do you want & aspire for them to be ???? For Nathan I want all kinds of stuff. Here's a list of things I'd like for him. I'd like for him to be very proficient in Spanish.I work in construction & there's a great need for spanish speakers.And with the influx of Mexicans & the population rate at zero & with the baby boomers dying off, Spanish is gonna be even more common. Latin too.Just so he learns a classic language that lasted for hundreds of years.And of course all the scientific names. I'd like for him to play the piano & guitar.Can't explain why really.It's not important but I think it'd be a good skill to have. Physics.........Because there's so much silly physics out there I want him to be able to understand the diffrence between reality & silly concepts.And I've always found it to be the best questions worth asking. Philosophy.........I've read alot of it & understand how important it is to have a rock to stand on & knowing when things are false or not. Spelling.........Nobody can spell anymore.lolMyself included.lol For body skills I want him dancing.........Chick's love a man that can dance.And Wrestling..........We'll also add mixed martial arts later when he's older.We're gonna do baseball till he's 8 then switch to football.And all manner of stuff like Golf & maybe even some judo & fencing. Writing/Handwriting..............It's amazing to read letters from the past.They had great handwriting & wrote the best letters.I want that for him too. History.........all of it unsensored........Not just touchy feely history about a Indian Maid or somebody who played with peanuts.Real history & the lessons it teaches over & over again. Politics............So he can understand fully how we're ruled & why & so he dosen't get fired up over rhetoric. And when he's old enough I'll teach him some skills for the females.lol Well those are the biggies for me right now.(That I can think of)I'll take him hunting & fishing & teach him to handle all the firearms,Fireworks & motorcycles.And countless other Daddy things.Like shooting army men with a bb gun.lol As far as what I want him to do for a living, I don't have a clue.........I'm sure whatever wil happen will be the best. What's on your list ???
I want my son to be a young man with a heart for God. I want him to show honor and respect to women, starting with his sisters. I want him to be willing to defend those that need it, to be able to stand up for himself, to know when to fight and when to walk away from a fight. I want him to someday be willing to help his wife with housework, and love playing with his own kids. His young desire is to be a vet; he likes animals, but is waiting for the day to go hunting with Daddy. He loves weapons...he used his own money to buy a wooden "knife" at a historical reenactment yesterday. He enjoys nature, and was very proud of his 4-H project this year.
A question I can answer (WooHoo) I have three boys... to answer that question for each of them would take me forever and a day. It is my dream and the focus of many prayers that they would be faithful servants with a heart for God, respectful of everyone around them (including women), dedicated to whatever it is that they - under God's direction choose to do with their life, a good husband and father (if this is God's will for their lives) who isn't scared to get his hands dirty by helping around the house... As for career, any career that they feel called to do makes me happy... one has suggested already he wants to be a teacher or a social worker (this is the one who has struggled with public school for the past three years).
Wow-- what a great question! I would like my son to grow up learning: How to be practical as well as intellectual! There is nothing better than a Dr. that knows how to fix his own car! or build a fort for his kids etc. I want him to learn mechanical stuff . I want him to learn integrity and work ethic! I want both my kids to learn Spanish also! Our family is not much into sports at all except dh is into hunting, fishing etc, and I would like to see him aquire a love for it too. He is very very very active so i know I am going to have to probably get him into something physical-- I am thinking martial arts b/c I want the discipline that goes with it and I dont really like all the junk that goes along with "team" sports (Mostly unruley parents) I want him to know history so he knows where we came from and the intentions behind our creation. (I am looking forward to learning more history as I am very weak in this area) I want him to learn to sew, cook, clean, respect the elderly and adore his family. It is also very important to me that he grows up healthy, free from any bondages and baggages that will keep him from being happy-- and a secure relationship with his Maker! Jill
I want my son to grow up to Love Christ with all his heart. I want him to be a stable person in the church. I want him to love his wife/children and protect them. Other then that I want him to do whatever he wants! Both my parents and inlaws are not supportive of decisions we make. I want to be opposite of that. I want him to know whatever he puts his mind to that his mom and dad are right here waiting to help or whatever he needs. As of right now he has 3 things he wants to be. Ultimate Fighter, scientist or nascar driver. Do I like all these? No. But I will support him. He is in guitar lessons, spanish and karate. I just want him to be well rounded and able to take care of himself and his family.
It is my sincere desire and prayer that he will grow up to be a strong Christian man and that will serve the Lord whether as a layman or fulltime service. Because I know that when this happens all else will fall in place. I would like for him to be well grounded in the faith by the time he leaves home so that he will be sure of not only what but why he believes. I would like for him to go to a Christian college but if he chooses a secular college then I will support him. Right now at 5 he wants to be a nascar driver. He also loves sports. So if he chooses to do anyone of these it will be fine as long as he is a strong witness for our Lord. Charlie
I guess there is a difference between what a daddy wants his son to be and what a mommy wants her son to be. All are good qualities, but hopefully when we are done rearing our children they leave our house with lots of knowledge, and an intrest to learn new things, an intrest to do good, and and interest to help others. I think as much as we want our Sons and daughters to have a specific job or carear I think that we have to remember it has to be up to them. (my som too thinks it would be cool to be a NASCAR driver, fireman, pilot, and chef like Emeril) my other son wants to write more Star Wars movies and be a Jedi knight. My older daughter wants to be a ballerina or a vet and a mommy, and the younger one wants to have her own cooking show,or be a doctor.
Good point! Perhaps it would be enlightening to ask our DHs to PUT IN WRITING the answer to this question. I think I'm going to do that, and will let you know what he says (compared to what I said LOL!). Realize that he has two adult sons already that will probably influence this response!
Geez...I keep trying to answer this one and getting interupted...guess that means I am being too long winded, so I will try to shorten it! Basically, I would like for my son to grow into a self-actualized man. I would like for him to know the love of our Maker. I would like for him to know love in his life with a wife and children if he so chooses (I will admit that I can't see him not chooseing this, but I don't want to push that on him). I would like him to be strong in his convictions and be tolerent of other peoples convictions. I would like him to know laughter and kindness. I would like for him to be strong and sensative. I want him to become everything that he dreams of becoming... The only exception to this is that I would not like for him to become a US Marine which is one of the things he says he wants to become...I am an overprotective mother, I will admit it...and I think being a marine is just too risky in todays world and they sonetimes find themselves in situations fighting because of the wants and desires of men rather than a greater cause or power. I would rather see him be a soldier in God's army of men. If he is still intent on joining the military, I will ask him to consider the National Guard where there duty is to God, family, and state- I realize that they can be called to active US military duty but it seems like a safer prospect to me...Yes, this is an area where my faith weivers and is tested as I don't think I could go on if God found nec to take one or more of my children from me! I am sure all parents feel this way, but it is a daily source of anxiety for me. I know, I am rambleing...hope this makes sense to some of you though...
I just want my son to grow up loving and living for Christ. Whatever he chooses to do with his career I will be happy with it as long as he's happy. It's great to want your kids to know many things, but if you are too pushy about it they will only turn their backs on it. I would love my son to flourish in music because we come from a musical family, but if he chooses not to be interested, then I will not push him if he doesn't want it. My hubby on the other hand, loves football and is engraining it into his little 3 year old head. However, as much as he likes football, my son also loves soccer (which my hubby despises). If he chooses to play soccer, then hubby will just have to understand it's what our son chooses, not himself. I want to let him flourish in his interests, not ours. With the exception of church...that he has no choice with. As far as teaching him...he has a love for learning so I have no doubt that he will be well educated. However, I know some subjects he will just not like and others he will. Some he will get, others he wont (for me it has always been math-yuck-I'm no good). As long as he tried his hardest to learn what is required, then I will be happy.
Well I agree that moms will have different responses than dads do. Even my dad and I disagree with it we have discussed it. I made a comment about military service and my dad enlighten me on it in a nice way. I don't want my 2 boys in harms way. Oh well enough of that. I want them to be Christians most of all. I want them to make wise decisions. I guess if I could ask for two things salvation and wisdom are the two. Ok more to what RB wants to hear. I want them to know spanish. I think time they are grown it will be used greatly. I want some college at least. No they don't have to get a 4 year degree but they need to go on with their schooling at least two years in a tech school. Be able to sign their name in cursive. NO that is a JOKE! Really it is. I want happy lives with a wife and family. Trust, love, communication and compassion in their marriage. A job that they at least like on most days.
I don't want any fancy things. As I reread that I want pretty simple things for them. No fame or fortune at all. Happiness!
My dh's and my goal for our son is that he would love the Lord God with all his heart, soul and mind. Everything we do, everything we teach our ds is in light of this goal. We believe that if he will follow God's will for his life, he will be the right kind of man, husband, employee (or boss!), etc. On the specific things I want him to learn, I would like him to be a well rounded man: his daddy will teach him how to fix things and work well with his hands, I want to teach him how to take care of his home (cook, clean, launder, etc.), for his bachelor years as well as so he will be a helpful husband like my father is to my mom and my dh is to me. I want him to excell academically, learn at least one foreign language, learn a musical instrument, participate in sports, etc. I don't have a specific instrument or sport in mind, rather I want him to try different things and then pursue what he is interested in and good at. We're starting with the recorder for music and hopefully, the piano may interest him. He has his daddy's talent for drawing, that is definitely something we will encourage. I want him to have a solid character, be honest and kind, empathetic, hard working, generous, etc., etc. "Success" as society defines it isn't important. If he obeys God, he will have pleased Him and his parents! Blessings,
Ladies Lovin Jesus is all good & fine but it won't prepare your boy's for reality. I'm not knocking Jesus or any religion but that's not what a boy needs to survive & thrive.
Hi ,Arby ( which sounds suspiciously like 'RB' hmmm...). Actually, Arby, that is exactly what the boy needs. Only a person firmly planted in their faith will be able to discern the rights and wrongs in this world, and be able to make the right choices therein. A child brought up in a Christian home should be able to stand up against peer pressure, because they know the truth. That child won't be out smoking, drinking or any of the other fluff teenagers think they have to do. While none of us can control our kids once they move out, I can personally attest to the fact that if you provide the child with the proper Christian home, the child will make good choices. My son fights me tooth and nail over standards, but I have seen him time and time again make good choices in bad situations.
Becky that's what you want to believe. And btw the danger aint smoking or drinking it's crystal meth. Becky I was a boy,& then a teenager & now I'm a adult male with all the rights & responsibilites our society has to offer.I'm telling you religion is cool for those that want it or need it but it will not help you survive.It'll only help you cope at best. A boy need right & wrong.He need a moral compass,He needs role models & heros.Jesus aint the one though.That philosophy tells a boy he's wicked & evil for thing inpure thoughts.That he'll always be a servant.That he's not the greatest creature the history of the world has ever known.If you actually red the parts in red & follow them you'll be dead in no time.And you family will too. Reason get's you to the church,Reason built the Church,Reason get's you up the stairs to the Church..........The why do you ask your boys to shut off the reasoning when their in the church ??? Don't get me wrong religion has it's place & like all things you gotta take the good with the bad.But if your focous is on Jesus, your boy will be at a disadvantage. Read your history if you don't believe me.
Where do you think the moral compass comes from???? Jesus is exactly the One. He accepts you right where you are. Accepting Him gets you hope like there is nowhere else- salvation. Jesus has been my Rock and will be my Rock for the rest of my life. Although I'm saved, I will still have issues to deal with, but I will always have Him to hold onto, and that peace is so invaluable I don't know why more people don't seek Him out. Which role models do you want for Nathan? Do you want drinkers, cheaters, maybe even nice guys who are lost because they don't know salvation? Wouldn't you rather have him know Godly people who will model that Godly life for him, and maybe even lead him to salvation? Where do you want Nathan to end up.. eventually? I don't see obedience as being a servant in the sense you mean it. Obedience to the Word will keep him on the right path. If he learns the Commandments we won't see Nathan B in the papers for committing robbery, will we?? I guess it's all in what you want for Nathan. I want my kids to not have to go through the crap I went through, mistakes I made because I never knew the truth. No one ever came alongside me to give me the truth and disciple me. I wasted about 26 years in sin because I never knew any better. Hey, RB- thanks for discussing this with me.
What made it easier for me to accept the gospel was the fact that when someone finally explained it, they didn't condemn me, they didn't make an issue of the foolish things I said because I didn't know any better. They didn't point out that I didn't know any better. Instead of telling me they would pray for me, they just quietly did it, because they had the wisdom to know that if you lay it on too thick that turns some people off to the gospel. The people who helped me had the wisdom to remember how it was before THEY got saved, and that tempered their conversation.
Becky I love you.lol............Your a great gal. Anyhow to your arguments. Moral compass..............most christrians believe without Jesus you don't have morals..........which aint true at all.A moral compass is knowing right & wrong that is more complete & reality driven that any religion............Honestly think about it.Are Hindui's horrible people ???Jews ??? maybe even the Japs with their shintoism ???.....of course not.Most Christrians believe that their religion is this."Do unto others"...........well that's not Christianiaty.Red the friggin thing would ya.lol If a peoples can be conquered they will...........If they can be enslaved they will.If they can be destroyed they will.History teaches this again & again. Morals don't come from any religion............They come from the person himself.He is simply the best our world has to offer & his decissions mean everything.Morals come from an understanding of philosophy. Role models..............One of mine was the "Six Million Dollar Man".lol...........it really dosen't matter as long as theirs an healtyh adult to instruct them that Pdiddy aint a good one or even 50cents.lol Salvery..............That's a toughie.............And a longwinded one.........which I don't do on the computer. Point is either your free or you aint.There's a few religions out there that don't demand obediense.Pick one of those.lol Arby was once a boy & understands fully what is going through his sons mind.I don't want his mind crippled with mysticism.I didn't get over my mind poisioning till I was about 27.
May I suggest that you still haven't got over your mind poisoning..... The thing that scares me most about you is that you remind me very much of a guy I dated for 11 years. And I met him at church camp, LOL!!! His attitudes could be identical to yours, and also his sense of humor. It's been years since I've seen or heard from him.
